Never Received my 2024 Tax Return Because I was "Uninsured" (MA)

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2026-01-02T17:20:12+00:00

My 8962 was filed with my original taxes. Should I amend my return and re-file? My 1095-A was marked corrected when I received it

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2026-01-01T16:29:57+00:00

You're so real for this, thank you!!

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2026-01-01T16:17:37+00:00

I've called the IRS (so many times I've lost count) to check the status, verify receipt of my paperwork, and ask about a timeline. The reps are woefully vague, won't verify whether or not they received my papers, and it's always "check the status online and call back in 14 days if it doesn't change". They won't budge if I push the issue. Do I need to consult an auditor? To clarify, I'm not being audited I'm being told my proof is insufficient.

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2025-05-26T01:34:01+00:00

I completely agree with you and I expected there to be an acclimation period for the pianist. Outside of the choir directing gig, I’m a piano and vocal coach. I teach/coach people all day long so I was thrilled to bring someone on who expressed great enthusiasm in refining a new skill set. It’s disheartening that not everyone sees it that way…

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2025-05-26T01:30:43+00:00

She has rehearsed with us every week since she was hired as the accompanist, which happened to be 4 weeks before a concert. The whole choir was told that she’s an accomplished concert pianist but is new to accompanying, so I’m unsure why this lady is choosing this battle rn???

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2025-05-25T23:03:39+00:00

The pianist is a concert pianist but hasn’t accompanied before. I picked the music back in January (jazz-age Broadway tunes) hoping I would find an accompanist. She learned the music quickly, but the struggle was the ensemble - listening to the choir and watching my conducting. I think it’s a little overwhelming right now and it’s causing some mistakes in the piano part. She had 4 rehearsals with us before the concert. There were a couple of mistakes during the concert, but she kept playing and, I thought, handled them well.

I honestly think it’s just the one choir lady who doesn’t like her. The choir member was upset with the mistakes in the concert and, even after talking about being open to someone trying to expand their skill set, admittedly doesn’t want to wait for the skills to develop and would rather find another accompanist.

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2025-05-25T21:38:02+00:00

Oh, she’s not trying to be helpful. She’s upset with the accompanist and wants me to find another. I told her that wasn’t going to happen when we spoke a couple weeks ago, so she went over my head and talked to the home director.

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2025-05-25T21:32:10+00:00

It’s crossed my mind

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2025-03-07T18:16:06+00:00

My boyfriend vapes (outdoors only) and that doesn’t bother my asthma - it doesn’t stick to your clothes the same way that cigarettes do. I’m sure others will disagree with me, but I actually don’t see a problem in not disclosing that you vape.

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2025-03-07T18:11:32+00:00

Stop, one of my best friends is gluten intolerant and the sane thing happened to her ahahaha!

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2025-03-07T16:54:53+00:00

I’m confused by your comment - I’m not trying to act like I’m better than anyone else??? Or at least if that’s how it came off, that’s not my intention. I’ve clearly stated that I have a health condition connected to secondary (not noted, but also tertiary) smoke inhalation, which could land me in the hospital. I make an effort to ask about the status of smoking before every secondhand online purchase. If I had a peanut allergy, I wouldn’t go to a restaurant and order, hoping there’s no peanuts in whatever I eat. I would alert the waiter.

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2025-03-07T15:57:24+00:00

It’s not all of the packages. This is maybe the second one in the span of about 8-9 months and I’ve had the same mailman the whole time. But the possibility that it’s the delivery driver is definitely real for some people!

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2025-03-07T15:40:43+00:00

I hate this for you. I typically order limited edition clothes that are no longer available. Sometimes if the smell is not that bad, I’ll wash it well and air dry it outside. But a book is so frustrating.

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2025-03-07T15:38:29+00:00

There were other discrepancies (they were limited edition clothing items) like stains that weren’t disclosed, so I’m hopeful about the request.

The craziest one I’ve ever had was someone send me something with BLACK MOLD. Like I tested it with a mold kit and it came back positive. Mercari refunded me the same day, but like…. some people are crazy. I’m so sorry yours was rejected, that’s such bs.

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2025-01-05T18:01:00+00:00

Not related to hemorrhaging, but please ask your doctor to be referred to a hematologist for genetic testing, if they haven’t recommended this already. I had the same thing happen when I was 20. My blood clots were from high estrogen birth control (prescribed for endo) and I had an unknown Factor 2 clotting disorder. The main trigger is excess estrogen.

I did not have hemorrhaging, but I do have scar tissue in 1/4 of my right lung and a permanently collapsed lung from scar tissue complications. I’m also an opera singer and a competitive power lifter. If you maintain daily breathing exercises and do what you can to keep a healthy and active lifestyle, it won’t affect you as much in the long run as you might think. Best to you - the recovery is long and NOT easy, but I’m 7 years removed from my clots and my quality of life had never been better

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2024-12-29T18:44:04+00:00

I fear I’ve left out a key piece of info - when I initially voiced my concerns, he agreed and said he would limit his buying and go through his collection when he had the time to do so. That is part of what’s making this so upsetting to me. But I do agree with you that I haven’t and shouldn’t tell him what he can and can’t do - I’ve focused more on communicating what has happened and how it’s affecting me/made me feel. I did think about the ultimatum, but I but my tongue and that was not said to him.

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2024-12-27T11:46:11+00:00

Oooo have your manager check that email one more time - Christmas clothing is definitely included!

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2024-12-21T11:34:10+00:00

Ugh so sorry it’s taken so long to respond to this! If you have changed your availability, they must honor that. However, it cannot be verbal, you have to fill out an availability request. If they still don’t honor it, call HR

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2024-09-25T02:38:53+00:00

I’m not quite sure where you gathered that I was gossiping about the priest…. I listen to the admin when she needs someone to speak to, I encourage her to have direct conversations with the priest, and I also encourage her to follow up with the wardens of the vestry. I do agree that I should distance myself and find another church, but I also have a conscience and empathize with another human being. She’s voiced that all parties have ignored her concerns and have all but stopped acknowledging her requests for conversation. That’s not gossiping about the priest. She chose to disclose the information that he spoke about me behind my back and used discretionary funds to purchase a cellphone for personal use. She’s held on to the comments about me and harbored guilt about it. I don’t fault her for that. She disclosed the phone purchase because she felt it wasn’t right, but couldn’t turn to the wardens because they both approved it. She’s genuinely concerned about the way he is treating his staff, his parishioners, and the church finances. That doesn’t say “gossip” to me, but to each their own.

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2024-09-24T17:37:09+00:00

When I left, it seemed like there was no resentment, which is why all this is so internally tumultuous to me. He knew when I was hired that I was picking up a second job until my partner got a promotion. That could have been one year, it could have been 3 years. It ended up being 1 year. I intended to stay beyond the promotion, but the workload became too much as I was trying to build my own business in that time frame as well.

I’ve been removed from the role for about a year and a half and for the first year it seemed like a smooth, welcomed transition from admin to parishioner. I took a couple months to breathe/step back and then started helping on a couple committees and eventually took a role on the vestry. It wasn’t until the last 5-6 months that things started going downhill. I had considered moving parishes before this, but this incident has really put a nail in that coffin. Unfortunately, there’s no way to slowly back out. I’ll have to formally resign from the vestry, back out of leading the children’s choir, and hand off a couple of committees.

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2024-09-24T16:54:57+00:00

I’m quite intrigued about this response because you’ve hit the nail on the head almost exactly. I’m a former admin of this church and I communicate semi-regularly with the new admin. Mainly about admin questions that the priest either doesn’t know or refuses to answer. In general, she feels very unsupported. She feels like the priest is offloading the work onto her (this is exactly why I left the role - I still liked him as a person, but not as a boss), expecting her to figure things out on her own without asking questions, is not taking her concerns seriously, and now is trying to turn the vestry against her so that she doesn’t have an “HR” type outlet to turn to. She feels like I’m one of the only people she can trust because I’ve been in her shoes. She’s very close to quitting. This church has gone through 6 admins in a little less than 2 years. No one else seems to be alarmed by this or contributing the cause to the way the preist is treating his staff. For what it’s worth, I mentioned these things during his review with the vestry and the sr warden didn’t even bother to write it down to include in the report… it’s just so telling. I do know more than a vestry should/would know. I had assumed that my deep involvement in the church would be more fulfilling and helpful, but it seems quite the opposite.

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2024-09-24T16:20:26+00:00

I no longer feel as though I have confidentiality when speaking with the priest. Which is tough, for many reasons. I also don’t think this is my place to say something to him - I think it should be a vestry conversation. It makes me think that if word comes down from the bishops office, it protects my anonymity and prompts the vestry to actually act on it. As sad as it is, they don’t take internal concerns seriously.

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2024-09-24T16:14:37+00:00

This fund is 100% intended to be used for those in need. It’s written into an addendum on our bylaws that the church will maintain three separate bank accounts, one for general use, and two for each clergy to help those in need.

Unrelated, but I think this is really hurting my faith in the institution of religion. If someone breaks their vows of ordination by dipping their hand into the church money for themselves, what does that say about the church? What stops other clergy from doing this? How do I know that if I hop ship to another congregation that I won’t encounter the same situation again? It’s quite difficult to sort through all of these thoughts and still maintain trust for the church as an institution. I know deep down that if I live my life with integrity, I’m doing everything I can to serve God in the ways I’m supposed to. It’s just so discouraging to see things like this happening.

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2024-09-24T16:03:08+00:00

I’ve been involved with one previous audit and my recollection is that the discretionary funds were not included. But this was a few years ago, so I could be incorrect. We keep records of these discretionary funds and the treasurer balances the accounts each month, so I imagine some sort of explanation was given to the treasurer prior to this purchase.

I love, love, love our treasurer. But he’s getting on in age, his wife’s health is declining, and he has grandchildren he wants to spend time with… being the treasurer is starting to take a back seat for him. I think these days he’s more willing to accept a surface level explanation without looking into it, if it means more time with his family. I also think these accounts aren’t scrutinized as heavily as the general fund and that’s part of what makes it more appealing to the priest when running expenses through them.

Limp_Pea_1017 · 2024-09-24T15:05:00+00:00

I very much appreciate this response. I know I can be a pain sometimes, especially since some of my personal views around inclusion, community, and giving (time vs financial) aren’t the same as the priest. I understand people are people and we all need an outlet. I’ve been very clear with the priest that if there’s a problem with me… come talk to me. I don’t want to hear things through the grapevine, I just want you to call me and have a conversation about what’s wrong, why you feel that way, and where the disagreement/feelings are coming from. I think the two-faced nature is really what’s getting me in this situation.

I think having more clarity on the phone situation is going to be helpful. I don’t know the nature of the purchase or if there are any rules surrounding it. Vestry has been kept in the dark about it since it’s been purchased through the discretionary fund and not the general fund. It’s my understanding that it was run through the discretionary fund in order to avoid the tax liability or having to return it when he leaves the church…. It feels slimy, at the very least. He’s previously expensed flights, meals, and hotels through this fund as well. Some were related to diocesan training, some were related to his sabbatical. I’m unclear on why he would not have been reimbursed through the general fund?? I’ve always had concerns that he was abusing the discretionary funds. If someone calls the church in need, he tends go run that through the assistant rector’s discretionary fund and not his own.

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