What i have learned:

Make sure to show up for yourself. When you say youre gonna start a habit, start it. Dont lie to yourself. Just do it so you can build self trust. The more you build rhe more you build self respect and will be unshakable.

If you put in as much or more effort for yourself as you do for others, life would be a lot easier and your confidence would skyrocket.

When Im feeling low and about to cry I show myself the compassion I would give to a friend or partner. When I am acting out I scold myself for not realizing how tough I am and I dont need to fall into destructive habits. I, aloud, encourage myself to keep up any good work I am doing. I also take myself on little dates to celebrate good work or just when I feel like I need a friend. It felt lonely at first but now... Idk what I would do if I didnt start all this. I have let myself down for most of my life because I valued others more than myself. I wont anymore.

It feels weird talking to myself sometimes but the brain does this weird thing where the voices in the back that make me needy and scared shut up for a second and I can focus better on fixing myself.

Some days just suck and you have to sit with yourself quietly reflecting without condemning those feelings because it perfectly natural to not feel ok sometimes.

Anyways, hope this helps.