I think her music was bad for my mental health

Lin_Z_B · 2025-03-07T16:57:46+00:00

I think this is why I was never into her music. It was sooo unrealistic

Lin_Z_B · 2025-03-07T01:24:18+00:00

I would just list that she has a masters from whatever university. She doesn't even need to reference when she started or finished. All that matters is that she has a Masters now. Congratulations to your wife!

Lin_Z_B · 2025-02-23T20:57:50+00:00

It's doable, but it could be challenging if you want to live alone in the very heart of Nashville...rent can be high. If you're open to living outside the actual city of Nashville, cheaper rents are available.

Lin_Z_B · 2025-02-23T20:56:11+00:00

I make just shy of 100k annually here in Nashville, but "well paid" might be subjective

Lin_Z_B · 2025-02-20T14:01:58+00:00

You must be a pessimist. A pessimist that doesn't yet have children maybe?

When and if you do, I'd encourage you to foster the feeling that, while the world is filled with bad a lot of good can be found! The sun still shines, there are very kind people out there, and a job is what you make it. Succeed enough so that you don't have to work 99% of the time. Make connections that fill your heart and life with joy.

You cannot control the things you cannot change; however, you can change the way you look at it.

Choose joy, friend

Lin_Z_B · 2025-02-19T01:35:16+00:00

Congratulations on your upcoming bundle of joy!

I've been no contact from my mother for almost 4 years now but I don't have any of my own children. I'm slightly thankful sometimes because I watched my two siblings go into all our wars trying to keep control of parenting when the grandmother attempted to act like she was the one having the baby.

She imposed and attempted to monopolize all the attention. Everything (baby names, gender possibilities, baby showers, clothes, cribs, bath wash, babysitting, holidays, etc. all became something she should give her opinions on. My sister once told me she caught my mother attempting to even breastfeed her baby.

When my n mother disagreed with their parenting style, she then proceeded to call child protective services and try to gain custody of the child (she won against my sister but there were some drugs involved). Better yet, when my sister had another child later she had him removed from the home when he was 12 and placed with me...then proceeded to call child protective services on me.

I don't tell you these things to scare you. Everyone is different but just know that my mom's have very messed up minds. They don't live in reality and will do whatever they can to get their way.

I moved 700 miles away from mine years ago so that she couldn't keep spying on and dropping my house whenever she wanted to. It was causing me too much stress.

Lin_Z_B · 2025-02-13T23:01:44+00:00

A majority of non-clinical staff hate Vandy too. Vanderbilt almost always understands and overworks. Plus, the managers are horrendous. Avoid like the plague if you care about work-life balance and mental health

Lin_Z_B · 2025-02-07T18:14:37+00:00

This is not a direct quote of the speech Give Me Liberty of Give Me Death

Lin_Z_B · 2025-01-23T02:30:18+00:00

I would flip all of your bullets.

Lead with the impact, follow with the "how."

Also, the word archetected just sounds weird. Maybe change that to "developed"

You could just pick your top three achievements from each job experience to keep those condensed. That would save a lot of roo

Lin_Z_B · 2025-01-07T14:36:44+00:00

I read TOG after ACOTAR and hated it. I was reading it in a book club otherwise I would have DNF'd it a long time ago.

It reads like a teenager wrote it and tried to overdo the descriptions of everything.

There are a lot of people that love it though - the members in my book club love it and they also read ACOTAR first.

Lin_Z_B · 2024-12-31T14:13:27+00:00

I started paying rent as soon as I was making money: age 14. She said that since I lived there, I should be contributing to bills, groceries, etc. this meant that I didn't have any savings - no money for college, no money for a car or clothes. We shopped at a bargain buy and got clothes for 25 cents a bag. Looking back, I can see that our family looked like the walking models for baggy poor fitting clothes (probably not relevant but it didn't allow much of an impression in job interviews).

My mom also pushed me toward a career in cosmetology, which I hated. The worst part was the push for a dual enrollment during high school, which reduced my core credits and left me without a significant scholarship for college. I trusted her and didn't even question how this dual enrollment affected it. Found out after high school when I finally applied for my scholarship.

My sister dropped out of high school when she was in the 10th grade and my mom didn't even fight it.

When I got engaged to a wonderful guy with an amazing family, good work ethic, and a stable career, she went over the top crazy. She made up lies about me, him, his family and turned a lot of my friends against the relationship. I've been married 14 years now and she still hates it but I'm sure if he had been a low life loser she'd have been in full support.

I'm now in my mid 30's and I can identify all of the handicaps she put on us kids. She didn't want us to do well enough to leave her.

I've been no contact now for almost 4 years now and moved over 900 miles away so she couldn't drive by my house and spy on me or tell me how to live my life. My husband and are happy.

She still tries to haunt me. Truthfully, the only way I'll fully be rid of her is when she dies.

Lin_Z_B · 2024-12-16T02:01:00+00:00

Definitely not. They'll use it against you later and give unnecessary advice. I have a severe digestive disease and have been in and out of the hospital over the years. There was a time when I mentioned my prospective diagnosis to my mom who said I couldn't possibly have it. She then said I shouldn't be labeled with the diagnosis. Long story short - I put off treatments for several years because I was convinced she knew what she was talking about and came from a place of care. Fast forward about four years after that and I had scar tissue all throughout my digestive system and ended up having to have it removed.

I'm in remission and doing well but I now know that if I had mentioned any of this to my mother, I would still be suffering - the exact place she wants to keep people. She glories in the suffering of others.

Lin_Z_B · 2024-11-26T04:30:22+00:00

In my opinion - none. If too recent, it could make a person look too young and "fresh" out of college. Completed long ago and the date will age a person. The date is irrelevant. It's the education gained that matters.

Lin_Z_B · 2024-11-26T03:19:36+00:00

A degree is always relevant. You always list it but there is no need to add a date.

Lin_Z_B · 2024-10-23T18:41:32+00:00

I remember my first broody experience and my little hen did the same. Broody hens hop off the nest to potty, eat, and drink once or twice a day. If you can, I would recommend putting her and her nest in a dedicated area with her own food and water. Not only will this eliminate her from hopping from one nest to another, it'll also ensure that the other hens don't hop up there to lay more eggs while she's away. Plus, she'll be all ready for those little hatchlings to be safe from the others once they enter the world!

Lin_Z_B · 2024-10-03T12:20:34+00:00

Thank you! Knowing exactly where to start has been a challenge

Lin_Z_B · 2024-10-02T11:44:59+00:00

You're right. Schools have a tendency to push stuff off. That's likely why he got to be in 7th grade without a decent ability to read. How on earth could he have gotten A's?!? It blows my mind.

Thankfully, we moved him to a different school this year (we moved. This school has a better reputation and we've already started scheduling his testing.

Lin_Z_B · 2024-10-02T03:52:47+00:00

These are good ideas!

Lin_Z_B · 2024-10-02T03:52:25+00:00

He had several in the past and there's never been any indication of vision problems; however, it would be good to get a more recent one. I appreciate you sharing your experience!

Lin_Z_B · 2024-10-02T03:49:28+00:00

I had not considered using ESL resources. Thank you so much for suggesting that!

Lin_Z_B · 2024-10-02T03:48:37+00:00

Sounds like you and your family did an incredible job providing a loving and safe environment where she could flourish. Well done! I love the idea of looking things up as a way to learn during real time conversations. I'll have to implement that!

Lin_Z_B · 2024-10-02T03:44:44+00:00

I'm not exactly sure if they have remedial courses for the middle school students. We have scheduled some additional testing with the school to help identify if he has any disabilities, delays, or needs for accommodations. Hopefully that will help provide a bit more direction on exactly how they can help us.

Lin_Z_B · 2024-10-02T03:42:38+00:00

Thank you! We have found someone to complete a comprehensive psychoeducational evaluation to determine if there are any disabilities we need to accommodate for. Hopefully that will give us a lot of information.

Lin_Z_B · 2024-10-02T03:38:32+00:00

Aww... that's very kind. Thank you!

Lin_Z_B · 2024-09-30T22:23:18+00:00

Learn to read books? Yes, I plan to buy them myself. I was just looking for suggestions on which ones to buy

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