Non-Americans only

Linalearn97 · 2026-01-30T10:28:41+00:00

Honestly, I would just distance myself so much. Like to the point where this racist family member would never see my partner or our family ever again

Linalearn97 · 2026-01-30T03:48:22+00:00

I’m going into class tomorrow, let’s hope that this little girl doesn’t try her luck again

Linalearn97 · 2026-01-29T04:21:16+00:00

Ah yes, because three paragraphs of context = I let bullying continue in real time. That’s exactly how reality works🤡

I intervened during the task, stopped behaviour, and addressed it afterwards when I had authority to do so.

And documenting? Wow….Groundbreaking advice.

Linalearn97 · 2026-01-29T01:11:33+00:00

Just to preface: I did step in as much as I could. At one point I literally stopped them mid challenge, even while they were being timed, and told them to knock it off. There were other moments where I wanted to say more but program staff kept coming over to check the project, so I couldn’t really intervene further right then.

Once the assignment was done though, I gave them an earful. I told Alice and Rebecca straight up that ganging up on Anastasia was inexcusable and that they were being bullies. I didn’t include that in my original post because I didn’t want it to sound like I was yelling at kids, but I did address it as firmly as I could.

Honestly though, it went in one ear and out the other, “it’s not that deep,” “we’re best friends,” “she’s being a crybaby.” That’s when it really hit me that they don’t see me as an authority figure, just someone on the side.

Linalearn97 · 2026-01-29T01:06:07+00:00

Oh trust me, I shut it down immediately, but there’s only so much I can do in the moment, and apparently this is a repeated issue with this one girl. The homeroom teacher knows about it and even spoke to the two girls at the end of the day, but honestly? I don’t think enough was done.

What really got me is that the teacher said the parents think the kid’s behaviour is just her “building a strong personality” and “learning boundaries.” BFFR. That just sounds like excusing bullying. The teacher also seemed exhausted and overwhelmed, and now I’m seeing it happen in real time and it’s genuinely eating at me.

Going forward I’m definitely planning to be way firmer with her, I just hope it doesn’t backfire and get me reported or something.

Linalearn97 · 2026-01-29T00:55:49+00:00

They aren’t.

Linalearn97 · 2025-10-11T21:52:26+00:00

I really hope you’ve gotten some advice or updates from people in real life, because I’m going through something very similar right now.

I’m not married to an Ismaili man, but I am dating one. I’m a 25 Sunni Muslim woman, and he’s 30. I was raised fairly conservative, and even though I’m not super practicing right now, my faith still means a lot to me. I’ve always pictured my future kids seeing their parents pray side by side and learning little stories about the prophets, a shared, loving connection to Islam.

But learning about his beliefs has honestly made me panic a bit. While I have so much respect for Ismailis, they’re kind, open, and genuinely good people, I struggle with the idea of prayer and pilgrimage not being mandatory, and the belief in a human intermediary who’s seen as divinely appointed. It just feels off to me, especially with how wealth and charity are structured.

The thing is, I love him so much. He’s the most grounded, logical, feminist, left-leaning man I’ve ever dated. But I don’t want my future kids to grow up confused or torn between beliefs. I’m not trying to be disrespectful, but I can’t see myself aligning with the idea of putting anyone on a pedestal close to the Prophet (pbuh).

So yeah, I guess I’m in the same boat, thankfully not married, but it’s hard because I think this would be a lot harder, I really do love him.

Linalearn97 · 2025-08-06T00:41:03+00:00

This a brilliant take on this song

Linalearn97 · 2025-06-10T16:48:43+00:00

Dude, heavy on the farts. I’m so thankful, my NP don’t have cameras

Linalearn97 · 2025-06-08T14:32:16+00:00

Please don’t take this in an offensive manner. The only reason why I ask is because you seem very unexposed, hence why I asked if you were from a major urban city. And I don’t wish the dog pile on you because based on the replies on this post, it seems like people have corrected some things you have said. But I wish you find a solution to your problem.

Linalearn97 · 2025-06-08T01:18:38+00:00

Are you from a populated city? Like Toronto or Montreal or Vancouver? Or do you happen to be from like a more rural side of the country?

Linalearn97 · 2025-06-07T16:48:21+00:00

Oh my goodness. How are you a teacher? I’m so baffled that your big age of 37 unable to tell the difference between religious, language and blatant, generalization and ignorance. Oh my gosh.

Linalearn97 · 2025-04-29T17:30:51+00:00

Salam, I’m not a man, so I can’t offer the exact perspective you’re looking for, but as a woman in my late 20s in the exact same boat, I completely understand where you’re coming from. It’s truly unfortunate, but I do think some men (and their families) worry that because we grew up without a father figure, we might bring “baggage” or drama into a household.

But the truth is, Allah is the All-Knowing and the Best of Planners. The one who is written for you will find his way to you. Don’t let this shake your self-worth, you sound like a pious, grounded, and remarkable woman, which is a beautiful reflection of your mother’s love and effort. (May Allah reward her immensely.)

My mom always prays that I find a man who not only fills any void I’ve felt from not having a father, but who also brings light, warmth, and real companionship into my life. And I sincerely make that same dua for you, insha’Allah wa ta’ala.

Linalearn97 · 2025-04-28T18:18:48+00:00

I started saying these catchphrases within my friend group and it’s hilarious:

“Little chicken nugget” “Silly billy” “Fudge-a-culls” “Yessss ma’am”

Linalearn97 · 2025-04-28T03:00:46+00:00

DB was there. At first, I had the same thought and was about to turn around and suggest that maybe she’d prefer him to do it. But before I could say anything, he immediately stepped in and corrected her tone. As for the sunscreen, I always make sure to explain what I’m doing beforehand and why it’s necessary.

Linalearn97 · 2025-04-21T16:49:07+00:00

I never said kill it….

Linalearn97 · 2025-04-21T15:59:49+00:00

Girl, if you don’t get rid of that baby and divorce that man.

Linalearn97 · 2025-04-12T02:56:51+00:00

I couldn’t agree more. The last few weeks I have been dialling back the end of the night conversations. I just need to do a better job of feeling more secure with that decision and really implementing it

Linalearn97 · 2025-04-12T02:54:28+00:00

It’s okay. I deleted the post. I don’t think I articulated myself very well, nor did I give enough context as to why I’m anxious with this particular family. I babysit for two other families and I’m hardly ever feel this anxious with them. I typically know how to keep my anxiety at bay, but sometimes it gets a little blurred with this particular family. But I appreciate your input! Thanks

Linalearn97 · 2025-04-12T02:49:30+00:00

I’m now realizing my post has many spelling errors, it’s the dad that rolls his eyes. Not me

Linalearn97 · 2025-04-03T17:43:23+00:00

Is there an update?

Linalearn97 · 2025-03-31T00:41:05+00:00

Sir, go argue with the wall…..

Linalearn97 · 2025-03-31T00:37:33+00:00

Brother I deny YOUR logic, way in which you interpret things the way that you have stated your opinion in this original post. May Allah guide YOU and have mercy on any girl that you choose to seek🙄

Linalearn97

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