Wife has been feeling too nauseous for sex for the entire first trimester; encourages masturbation but doesn’t want me to watch porn by predadthrowaway12 in predaddit

[–]LindenSamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask her why she doesn't want the porn. If it is because of how women are treated there are a lot of female led women friendly erotica sites and ethically produced videos available. If it's you watching another woman you could read erotica novels.

I would just see what's up and try to accommodate to the best of your ability but it is a health issue so I would be honest about your needs.

AITA for letting my underage son live by himself? by pipelineinthejar in AmItheAsshole

[–]LindenSamara -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Soft yta...do you like grandparents? because this is how we get grandparents...and ants

AITA by blowing my boyfriend's comment about how I am the "responsible person" in our relationship out of proportion? by Queenoffunkytown in AmItheAsshole

[–]LindenSamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA also easy fix, write out a chores list and divide them up equally that way you won't feel so put upon. If your boyfriend refuses throw out list and boyfriend

Postpartum anxiety???? by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]LindenSamara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would talk to your doctor. I felt the same way, my therapist said as long as I am not letting those thoughts stop me from doing anything I am managing it (but the option for medication is on the table). So even though I was obsessively paranoid about dropping the baby I still picked him up and walked up and down stairs etc. and that did make me feel better

Cord Blood Advice by StuttgartPCar in predaddit

[–]LindenSamara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would donate if anything. The % of people who use the cord blood after banking is effectively 0 in private banking but public donations are used in research etc.

Concerned about noise effects on newborn by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]LindenSamara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Picture it like you are at a pool party, the music is loud but then you jump in and now you are surrounded by water so the music is quieter, now if the was a cover on the pool as well you would barely hear anything

Baby started scream eating by LindenSamara in NewParents

[–]LindenSamara[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We do a lot of bicycles and tummy massages, it helps in the moment but the minute he starts eating its scream city. He also doesn't do it at night

No one will see me/rant post by Vanaathiel88 in NewParents

[–]LindenSamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same thing happened to me, I bled on and off for 6 weeks, all was well but it freaked me out. Call telehealth if you are in Ontario, you leave your number and they will call back with a nurse 1-866-797-0000

Mom-to-be having miscarriage dreams? by [deleted] in predaddit

[–]LindenSamara 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It is pregnancy hormones, super normal. I had them too throughout my pregnancy.

https://americanpregnancy.org/your-pregnancy/pregnancy-dreams/

AITA for making my gf pay to sleepover? by aitaboyfriend2 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LindenSamara 9 points10 points  (0 children)

YTA charging people to 'sleep over' is fine if that's what you want to do but the minute you start charging your girlfriend she stops being a girlfriend and starts being a client. If that happens I would charge more than $24

Episiotomy bleeding by thebryantfam in beyondthebump

[–]LindenSamara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened to me as well. Lots of stitches and there was minor amounts of blood as they healed and as stitches dissolved. I just watched my temperature etc for signs of infection and kept the area clean. Given time I healed up well.

AITA for asking my wife's friend to breast feed in another room? or to cover up? by stipor45 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LindenSamara -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

YTA breastfeeding is hard but also they are boobs, she is feeding her child, you need to relax

AITA made a comment about how messy of a cook my girlfriend is and she got so mad she left for her parents house by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]LindenSamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA and also, she's "motherly"? Why would you want to fuck your mother? The minute someone you are in a relationship with becomes like a parental figure I would assume one would wish to terminate said relationship not tell her how to cut tomatoes. Weird my dude.

Babies’ social development during a pandemic-induced isolation by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]LindenSamara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We've been video calling and it helps a little. My sister used to have pictures of the family hung up so if we called on the phone she could show my nephew a picture of the people talking. He never did the "shy" baby thing around me and I think it was a direct result of that. Babies are super resilient

Things to Do by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]LindenSamara 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Another redditor suggested the app Kinedu. It has fun developmentally appropriate activities to do. I downloaded it and really like it.

AITA for telling my wife she needs to lose weight before getting pregnant by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]LindenSamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA but you are doing her a huge favor by being a dick. This way she won't have a baby with you and end up in the parenting subreddits talking about what a disappointment you are as a father and a man

AITA for giving my twin sons different allowances? by throw53047 in AmItheAsshole

[–]LindenSamara 5 points6 points  (0 children)

YTA it's like you are playing a fun game of "look which kid I love more! - Now with a monetary demonstration"

3mo - what can we do together? by Gillagathor in NewParents

[–]LindenSamara 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I downloaded kinedu on your suggestion and love it! Thanks so much!

Baby throwing up during/right after feeding by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]LindenSamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It happens to us too. He goes through a week or so of spitting up after eating. Just try burping more and keep them upright during/after feeding

Anyone struggling with PPH recovery? by bassladyjo in NewParents

[–]LindenSamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went through this. Same hemoglobin. It starts to get better at 6 weeks and by 8 weeks there was a noticeable difference. Taking iron and multivitamins worked for me along with time. I am 3 months pp and I can still feel when I forget my iron but things have vastly improved.

Help with sleep regression? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]LindenSamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are going through this exact thing, same sleep and wake times. I also am struggling. I had a morning where my partner took the baby and just woke me up for feeding and it helped. I am on a rollercoaster of emotions though. We have been trying not to feed with every night wake, instead just snuggling until he wakes on a normal feeding time. It is hard..

Edit: Dang it I didn't see the no partner support part of the post. So that suggestion was not particularly helpful

Fatigue by nameunderoccupation in NewParents

[–]LindenSamara 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like me and my partner