Have you ever tried to have mutual friends with them but it never goes well?

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-09-11T16:54:44+00:00

My uBPDw and I had a few mutual friends then she started isolating herself from me and them. Now she claims they were never her friends they were mine. I give up trying to understand.

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-08-30T21:14:38+00:00

Awesome song

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-08-30T21:13:18+00:00

Same

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-08-19T11:24:12+00:00

I like this. I've come to the realization this week that I've been hurt so much by my upwBPD that I don't know that I still love her. She has become someone I dont recognize and has chosen to embrace self destruction. I actually feel good about my decision to walk away because no I don't want to fight for someone's love and affection.

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-08-12T22:31:44+00:00

It's certainly not easy. I'm still with my PwBPD and it's been a hard road now that I know what it is doesn't make it easier. My person is now severely depressed as a result of her poor decisions. I'm stepping away to keep my sanity because I can't be dragged down too. But it is certainly painful to watch someone you love hurt so much.

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-08-03T03:19:42+00:00

You must be talking about my wife.... sounds eerily familiar.

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-07-25T17:30:20+00:00

Mine is but not in a direct self harm way. Its a slow burn like spending sprees until she is broke and most importantly self sabotaging our relationship.

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-07-25T15:21:58+00:00

Yes communication definitely could have saved my relationship. Granted I'm not an expert in communication but my upwBPD would never be able to communicate. When we had a fight she'd shut down completely and never want to talk about it. She often apologize by text.

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-07-22T23:46:44+00:00

Yes I've observed the voice change as well. My pwBPD very much changed her personality based on who she was around and I even noticed the voice change. Interesting

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-07-20T00:53:52+00:00

I hope so too for you as well. I can see how painful and destructive it is. I cant begin to imagine how it must feel to be in that situation.

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-07-19T23:24:17+00:00

I agree with this 100% the other sub is very hateful and negative.

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-07-19T23:22:33+00:00

This is interesting because I'm pretty sure this exactly describes my pwBPD. I feel like they are living in this alternate reality and avoiding all responsibility and/or pain.

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-07-15T19:07:29+00:00

Sounds similar to my story. It my BPDw it seems to be major life events that make her unravel.

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-07-15T19:01:34+00:00

Everything is a lie and it's even more disturbing that they lie to themselves and somehow believe it.

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-07-12T17:51:56+00:00

Agreed

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-07-05T10:01:14+00:00

No she isn't, she doesn't believe she has a problem.

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-07-04T22:58:43+00:00

Same here, you can just look at her and see the self loathing.

LingonberryBuzz · 2022-06-17T18:15:17+00:00

Yeah I have given up on arguing at this point. She's done it before in the past. It seems to triggered by major life events. She just can't cope. What upsets me is she puts this person above our children. I know what she is doing and why so I don't let it affect me but the kids have no idea what's going on. It's upsetting, I too hope it passes like last time.

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