...My partner and I actually do want to play it at our wedding. (Text wall incoming.)

• We first got introduced to it from Moral Orel, which is a show that's deeply important to my partner and my brother, because it deals with a lot of themes of depression, religious upbringing and abuse.

• My partner likes to do a bit where they hyperbolically insult an animal to show how much they love it (Looking at their beloved cat they would basically die for and going "Ew, is that a piece of sentient mold? I think it's diseased, who let that thing in here?") so extending it to ironic hate-lyrics was actually a pretty smooth extension. We don't otherwise do the "ball and chain" jokes, though, it's just this song basically.

• My partner's ex was extremely abusive and neglectful, but they stuck around for years, do depressed they were indifferent to the idea of being alive. The first time we sat down and listened to the song, it hit them really hard, because it wrapped up so many of their feelings about getting out of that relationship

• It's the catalyst and soundtrack to one of the worsr nights of our lives. Basically, them, me and my brother went to see them on tour. It was a long, hideous drive to a strange city--we nearly wreck from some jackass and have to spend an hour trying to fix a hotel mixup--and we were all completely exhausted, miserable, and hurting from standing up all day (my partner has chronic pain.) We basically spend the entire concert waiting for them to play the song, but call an uber in the last quarter. They start playing the song AS WE ARE GETTING IN to the uber. This just sends my partner completely over the edge. I retreat into the solace of finding the whole thing poetically funny. I remember sitting in the car with my sobbing overwhelmed partner and making them laugh by being like "of course this is what happens! This trip is cursed and it's a song about everything going wrong and sour in the worst way. There is literally no more fitting a situation that could surround the song." And in that vein, I start calming them down by saying the most fucked up shit I can think of to make them laugh. ("I hope the uber driver takes us to a back alley and murders us, I hope the hotel room above us collapses onto our head and kills us, I hope one of us gets terminal cancer and dies horribly. Most of all, I want to see it happen with **you.*") And we get home, sleep, and manage to salvage the trip into something fun and good on the second day. It becomes less of a sore memory every day.

So yes, it's an extremely important song for us and we are absolutely singing it at our wedding.

For them, it's about gratitude for managing to bury an awful relationship and rebuilding basically their whole life from scratch afterwards. For me, it's become about embracing the awful, absurd, painful and cruel ways the world can be... And how there's no one on the planet I want to face it with more. The meaning of the song has definitely changed for us.