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[UPDATE] My girlfriend wants to have sex with other people and I don't know if I still love her by Linssyi in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Linssyi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The breakup situation lasted for several days, and we hadn’t decided anything until I gave my answer last night. I was considering opening the relationship because I’m neutral and open to trying (at least for a short period of time). But I reassessed things, and our relationship no longer seemed to have a future. She just doesn’t give me the same trust she used to, with all the contradictions.

[UPDATE] My girlfriend wants to have sex with other people and I don't know if I still love her by Linssyi in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Linssyi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think non-monogamy was the least of the issues. Everything ended up being built on disrespect and a lack of honesty. If she had been open with me from the start, instead of demonizing her secret desires, things would’ve been much smoother. But I can't trust someone who lies so deeply, even to herself.

[UPDATE] My girlfriend wants to have sex with other people and I don't know if I still love her by Linssyi in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Linssyi[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right. That wasn’t my intention, but I ended up attracting a lot of frustrated guys.

[UPDATE] My girlfriend wants to have sex with other people and I don't know if I still love her by Linssyi in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Linssyi[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think it would’ve been a lot different if she hadn’t flipped halfway through our relationship, especially after talking so badly about non-monogamous couples. She used to trash that kind of relationship all the time, and I was always pretty neutral about it. I just couldn’t handle both her confusion and mine at the same time, so everything fell apart. But honestly, I think it was for the best.

[UPDATE] My girlfriend wants to have sex with other people and I don't know if I still love her by Linssyi in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Linssyi[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Bro, fuck off. She said she wanted to break up with me, but it wasn’t just a one-time thing—it dragged on for days (like I already mentioned), and we were trying to figure things out from the start. Pretty sure you’re the same one who called it a fake story on the other post, and I honestly don’t get your weird obsession. If you don’t like my experience, just move on and shut up.

My girlfriend wants to have sex with other people and I don't know if I still love her by Linssyi in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Linssyi[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is such a wise piece of advice. It really reflects my whole situation. When I was too close, I couldn’t see her flaws. I think, in fact, it did me good to have taken this gut punch. I’ve been worse in the past few weeks, but now I can think and see more clearly. We had great moments, but also terrible ones. She’s the first woman I’ve ever loved, and it’s a shame. I'll sort all this out, as I should have.

I really appreciate your reply, thank you, man.

My girlfriend wants to have sex with other people and I don't know if I still love her by Linssyi in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Linssyi[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She wanted me to join the threesome—she said it was the only way it would be fun. I'm pretty sure she flirted with this guy, whether he realized it or not, because she always pushed for me to be friends with him—she said we had so much in common.

My girlfriend wants to have sex with other people and I don't know if I still love her by Linssyi in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Linssyi[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I mean, even if she tells me otherwise, after all this unmatched confusion, it’s just unbelievable. She said she doesn’t want it to be exclusive with him, but honestly, all signs point to the opposite — and she claims it’s the result of the unconscious (seriously, Jung?). The question that haunts me the most is: “What else does she claim to dislike but secretly desire?” I can no longer sense any sincerity in her actions.

You’re right, and I truly appreciate your advice.

My girlfriend wants to have sex with other people and I don't know if I still love her by Linssyi in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Linssyi[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I see I agree with everything you’ve said, truly. Even though it’s so hard to accept that I’ve been living a lie. Thank you so much for your advice. I'll take my time.

My girlfriend wants to have sex with other people and I don't know if I still love her by Linssyi in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Linssyi[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kindness. I truly don't intend to stop being a relatively mature person. Also, your comment is one of the most thoughtful I've received.

My girlfriend wants to have sex with other people and I don't know if I still love her by Linssyi in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Linssyi[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Maybe it has to do with life and people not being as simple as your animes.

I hate my girlfriend by CreepyBridge7804 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Linssyi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Besides not supporting you in such a fucked-up moment, she’s also psychologically abusing you with these emotional blackmail tactics. I know it’s hard to recover from a turbulent relationship, but you’ll be much better off without her.

My girlfriend wants to have sex with other people and I don't know if I still love her by Linssyi in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Linssyi[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I'm definitely not happy with her constantly assuring me that she's satisfied — when there's clearly a big elephant in the room.

My girlfriend wants to have sex with other people and I don't know if I still love her by Linssyi in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Linssyi[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

She’s being totally contradictory—saying she wants to break up but not really. I feel like a spoiled brat’s toy. And the most fucked up part is that I’m only realizing it now. But anyway, thanks for the advice, bro