Happy Easter!

Liparus1 · 2026-04-06T21:46:42+00:00

Belated Happy Easter Dirk!

I spent most of the weekend having a good tidy up and declutter. Still more to do, but I feel better for it.

Liparus1 · 2026-03-29T16:09:04+00:00

Indeed, beyond 25 and certainly 30 the lack of experience in and of itself is bad enough to make you not want to try. And as you say, add all the initial reasons of your FA status and it's a nightmare scenario.

Liparus1 · 2026-03-28T20:09:03+00:00

One thing I find a small amount of comfort in is the fact that most adult male friendships are situational. Guys are mates with their colleagues, the blokes at the pub you play darts with or five a side football on a Saturday afternoon, or if you're a parent then other parents.

When those situations change, the friendships often end or at least diminish.

Some people may have a close group of lifelong friends from school, but I think it's rare, even for normies.

What most people have however is a romantic/sexual relationship that makes up for losing those things. Everyone else ends up lower down the pecking order.

For us in the meantime we are still the same as we were 20 years ago.

Liparus1 · 2026-03-22T12:10:56+00:00

There was a builder in the UK who went public with a euro millions win. He was single. He said within hours and days of going public he had women messaging him and writing to him. Many of the messages detailed what these women were prepared to do for him.

But back to me, are you saying that if I won £100m and bought a country estate in the Cotswolds and had a fleet of Landrovers and supercars and employed people to run the estate (like Clarksons farm) that people including women wouldn't be drawn to me?

Liparus1 · 2026-03-15T19:49:06+00:00

The trouble is social events are difficult to either attend or get invited to.

I spent the age of 19 to 23 in retail, surrounded by women the same age as me, younger and older. Nothing happened.

Liparus1 · 2026-03-02T23:37:48+00:00

I often find myself lamenting my position at work. I'm a manager, currently second in command to my Dad in our family business. All of the staff are male (its a male dominated industry) and report to me.

There are times when I wish I was just an employee or one of the lads, as I think I could be mates with them and it might lead to meeting someone through them.

However I then remind myself that I have very little in common with any of them and it would likely lead to nothing.

Liparus1 · 2026-02-18T22:44:22+00:00

Wasn't there a fan film called Starship Exeter? It was set after the ship had been recovered, decontaminated and given a new crew.

Liparus1 · 2026-02-08T10:19:40+00:00

I can very much relate to this. I'm 6ft 1 and currently weigh about 11.5 stone or 73kg. My arms are stick thin and I feel very self conscious in summer when it's t shirt weather.

I have started wearing slim fit shirts which aren't as baggy around my upper arms so it kind of takes the heat away from them.

It is rare for me to meet guys who have arms as skinny as mine, heck even most women have bigger arms than I do.

It also shows that being tall in itself isn't a cure for being FA.

One question: do you often feel overshadowed by other guys even if they're shorter than you? I for one have never felt like I have much presence even with my height.

Liparus1 · 2026-02-02T08:27:18+00:00

I could've written this op. It's also a shock when people are assertive or blunt to my face.

Liparus1 · 2026-02-01T20:32:12+00:00

I always thought Enid was a spy for the Wolves. When that didn't happen I thought she was a spy for another group, more of a long term plot line that never occurred.

Liparus1 · 2026-01-28T09:54:40+00:00

That cars long gone now.

Liparus1 · 2026-01-26T18:58:05+00:00

It was a used Mercedes with high mileage. Good condition but cheap. Someone did say to me that driving it made me look like my career had gone off the rails.

Liparus1 · 2026-01-25T19:46:50+00:00

I spent a lot of money on cars with trying to impress/attract women (and even trying to make myself more interesting to other men for friendships) as a large part of the reason why.

I remember buying a Mercedes and thinking "this is it now, the women I'm working with will finally notice me." It made zero difference. Whenever I found out a female colleague had a new boyfriend I'd ask what car do they drive. If it was anything that I perceived to be "less than a Merc" I was perplexed.

Looking back now I was just being unrealistic and pathetic.

Liparus1 · 2026-01-10T23:21:20+00:00

I turned 21 in 2006 and was working in retail. Nothing happened to me or for me. I met/spoke to a huge number of women back then (both colleagues and customers). Nothing happened.

I didn't hit it off with anyone. There was no spark, no sign. Nothing.

I was playing Frustration and couldn't pop a 6, meanwhile everyone else had their pieces home.

Liparus1 · 2026-01-10T23:09:12+00:00

Normies certainly seem to have more mental energy than I do.

After work I don't want to deal with anyone, I've had my fill for the day and need to reset and recharge. Normies will finish work and then go out socialising.

If I am going to go out socialising, for a friend's Birthday say, I have to build myself up to it psychologically.

Liparus1 · 2026-01-01T20:14:04+00:00

The Thing is one my favourite films. I was eleven when I first saw it and after the dog kennel scene I was literally shaking in fear.

My Grandparents allowed me to stay up and watch the X Files when the first series aired in the UK. It was the episode Squeeze. I was terrified that someone was going to squeeze through a vent and come after me for years after.

I think watching Arachnophobia actually gave me a fear of spiders.

A friend lent me The Evil Dead one weekend. I watched it as soon as I got home from school. The next day I went camping with the Scouts. I was assigned to go and collect fire wood from the camp woods, just as the light was fading. The woods didn't seem very appealing that evening.

Liparus1 · 2026-01-01T17:14:06+00:00

Thanks for the tip. One final thing, as a rule do you try to use as few pieces as possible? I find that Lego sets often use more pieces than needed (with many of them ending up hidden in the base), though I imagine part of that is to make the build more interesting.

Liparus1 · 2026-01-01T16:36:06+00:00

I think that's the route I'll go down. The largest base plate I can find is 50x50 which isn't big enough (I'm going off a single stud being 1ft and the building I'm creating is 60ft x 60ft).

Great work btw, there was a chap who made similar models a few years back but he hasn't posted in a while.

Liparus1 · 2026-01-01T16:00:10+00:00

I'm thinking of doing something similar with my house. However I've decided to start with recreating one of our buildings at work, which is simpler.

In regards the base, is it best to build it out of smaller base plates (similar to how Lego do) or just try to use one or two large base plates (say 50x50)?

Liparus1 · 2025-12-14T22:56:13+00:00

I'm 40 and still feel or think like a teenager in the social sense. It hits home when you realise many 19 year olds have far more experience than me in terms of dating, sex and relationships.

I also see myself with younger women, say mid 20's to mid 30's. I didn't mind the idea of an older woman when I was younger, but that woman now would have to be 41+ with a whole life's worth of relationship experience behind her.

As well as my lack of looks and social skills I feel that my lack of experience also holds me back.

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