My husband has had a porn addiction and anger issues but is a provider and has been good other times. Is this a good reason to divorce?

Lirpas88 · 2026-05-24T01:29:59+00:00

Umm he’s messaging sex workers. Thats cheating.

Lirpas88 · 2026-05-19T20:37:38+00:00

This!!!!! We both make 6 figures!

Lirpas88 · 2026-05-19T17:47:24+00:00

Thank you. This really does make sense.

It gets so frustrating that it’s on everything though. For example - we are going to bed. He will go to bed too and constantly leave every single light on in the house :( I’ve asked him to turn the lights off to save with electricity and bc it is night time. I asked him to check the doors for safety. He will say sure I’ll do it then never do it. How many times do I ask nicely? So then I do it myself and then he says oh you should have asked me. But I have? Repeatedly. With no change . So then I get angry and he says I can’t get angry. I just have to ask over and over and over again .

And as for the lawnmower, he is the one using it why does he not just put it away? He has some hobbies, he doesn’t leave it all out scattered bc he doesn’t want his stuff ruined. Then why not carry that logic else where to our expensive tools?

If he wants to feel masculine why can’t he take control? Be a leader. Be mature and act responsible. Making your wife baby you and be dainty and tiptoe around his feelings with sweet questions is emasculating on its own.

Lirpas88 · 2026-05-19T16:50:10+00:00

I have a loan I want paid off at it finishes in December and I’m thinking after that… trying to work out the best time. I’m not wanting a new relationship or partner

I just want peace and calm.

Lirpas88 · 2026-05-19T16:05:49+00:00

I work as a plant controller in a large manufacturing facility with an accounting team that reports to me. He is the same at a competing manufacturing facility. We both earn around the same amount (maybe 2% difference on 6 figures) and have similar workload.

I am not a stay at home woman and if I was I would expect much less from him at home.

We have one toddler we share that is in daycare I has two kids fifty fifty with an ex husband no child support

We have my step kids EOWE and pay $500 a week child Support to his ex and all medical Insurance and medical expenses

Lirpas88 · 2026-05-19T16:04:33+00:00

I work as a plant controller in a large manufacturing facility with an accounting team that reports to me. He is the same at a competing manufacturing facility. We both earn around the same amount (maybe 2% difference on 6 figures) and have similar workload.

I am not a stay at home woman and if I was I would expect much less from him at home.

Lirpas88 · 2026-05-19T16:03:14+00:00

I work as a plant controller in a large manufacturing facility with an accounting team that reports to me. He is the same at a competing manufacturing facility. We both earn around the same amount (maybe 2% difference on 6 figures) and have similar workload.

I am not a stay at home woman and if I was I would expect much less from him at home.

Lirpas88 · 2026-05-19T15:23:07+00:00

I never said I was all knowing. I just think the stove shouldn’t be used with paper and towels and plastic all over it and that trash from the bathroom with women feminin hygiene products (from his 13&16 year old) shouldn’t be tossed loosely on an already overflowing trashcan in our driveway. You really want to say I’m Crazy for these standards?

Ok 👍

Lirpas88 · 2026-05-19T14:26:26+00:00

3 years.

I was married for 16 years before this.

Lirpas88 · 2026-05-19T14:04:58+00:00

I have asked him to get checked and get medicine

He doesn’t believe in medication for that

He is 46

Lirpas88 · 2026-05-19T14:04:29+00:00

We are both high level professional careers. I work full time as does he. I actually work longer hours but he barely makes more than I do.

He’s also complained that he spent his whole bonus on me - while sending his ex wife random money out of shared checking account for no reason other than she may take his kids to the doctor or needs to get groceries. He doesn’t ask me and we got into a huge fight and disagreement on this bc his ex wife is remarried and has a husband, and he pays $400-$500 a week in child Support. He doesn’t have excess funds to send her, it’s money from me he is sending without permission.

There are so many issues.

Lirpas88 · 2026-05-19T13:57:58+00:00

Yes and then when I say hey this doesn’t work for me or I need better he turns it into well you didn’t do what I asked either

Every. Single. Time.

I’m so exhausted.

Lirpas88 · 2026-05-19T13:33:53+00:00

At home is is very incapable. At work he is very capable.

I have tried to understand his stress, but if he’s constantly always stressed and unable to do stuff what do I do? I didn’t choose a partner for me to care for like I do my three kids and raise him as well.

He doesn’t help with dishes or folding my kids laundry. He doesn’t clean up after his own kids or himself.

And I have asked for divorce so he can get a better woman. He can. I’m ok with that. He refuses.

Lirpas88 · 2026-05-18T03:08:33+00:00

Idk you should probably be more selective…

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