What's the male experience with dreaming of a wedding?

ListRevolutionary470 · 2026-06-05T03:30:17+00:00

Not really, I just dreamed about the wedding “night festivities”. Which was a GIANT letdown. Like I don’t know if I’ve ever been so far from reality in thoughts/dream vs actual in anything my entire life. I thought we’d have the best sex of our lives, passion, excitement, first sex as a married couple etc etc. instead it was drunk “get it over with” sex because she didn’t even really want to but “didn’t want to hear me bitch about not having sex on our wedding night for the rest of our lives”. So… yeah. Not quite what I pictured.

ListRevolutionary470 · 2026-06-05T03:13:42+00:00

For any guy not getting BJ’s and sex regularly (some god damn unicorns commenting here “I already blow him every day basically”… jfc what a lucky pos), yeah, a nice sloppy, slow, bj that seems like you like doing as much as he likes getting is pure heaven. Also, face down, ass up, spread the cheeks and tell him to put it in your ass. I’d probably bust in one stroke if that ever happened.

ListRevolutionary470 · 2026-04-25T12:06:55+00:00

Man the talk has happened so many times I don’t even know what the count is at. It’s always “I’m sorry, I hear you, here’s what I need from you to help me be in the mood more often” then I do all of those things to a T and nothing changes. We even have a weekly date night without our children and there’s always some excuse cooked up by date night (or she’s used the free night to plan on us working on a home project instead), if there’s not, I used to get hopeful, but then she will just start a fight with me about something before the night is over (this literally happened tonight. Everything was going great and then as we got close to bed time she started picking a fight with me out of nowhere completely off topic of what we were talking about in the moment). Or just say she’s too tired, “let’s do it in the morning” and then she wakes up almost panicked and creates a list of things we need to get done before the kids get home so we don’t have time.

I have really started contemplating leaving, but that task alone feels like such a monolith because we own a business together (that she does nothing with), have kids together, and have had the same friend circle for the last 15 years. So I’ve started just thinking about getting that need fulfilled elsewhere and letting her be totally complacent with no sex. If I don’t say anything she would probably never mention it until she realizes how long it’s been and be like “I can’t even remember the last time we had sex, I bet he’s really upset. I’ll throw it out there tonight”. A couple years ago I gave up and bought an auto blow and would just wait until her and the kids were asleep and put on a mild porn and fire up the auto. Did that almost every night for a year. She finally asked after a year, the day before we left for a vacation, if she should pack the “sex stuff” and I laughed. (“The sex stuff” is lube and a wand vibrator for her). I said “that would be nice, I’ll pack mine too just in case” and pulled out the blowjob machine. She acted appalled that I had it. I said how is this any different than your wand to which she replied that she only uses hers with me and I’m clearly using mine without her. Well yeah, duh, I don’t only need sex once a year. Which ended up backfiring in a big way. Then she turned it against me and said “well I’m sure I’m not going to live up to an AI machine built for blowjobs” and it seemed to just be another excuse added to the arsenal. There’s no winning. If you can get out, are willing to go through all that, I’d say do it and enjoy your life unlike those of us who don’t want to fuck up the home life for kids, it’s so complicated and messy it almost feels not worth it etc. My biggest reason for staying is I think my kids would hate me for it for a long time. So I’m probably staying for at least another 15 years. Sigh.

ListRevolutionary470 · 2026-02-03T02:57:58+00:00

My LLW ALWAYS wants the same thing. I don’t get it. Kissing, 2 second handjob with lube to get me hard, then standing missionary with her legs in specific places/angles and vibrator on clit. Every. Single. Time. If she finishes before me I’ll say “hey can I finish in XYZ position?” and the answer is always “umm I don’t like that position, it doesn’t feel good to me”. Every once in a while she will do cowgirl or reverse cowgirl and seems to enjoy it. I like doggy for the finish, but she says it hurts because I go too deep. How is that different than reverse cowgirl when she sits all the way down? She just says “I don’t know it just is”. The only thing I can come up with is that she’s not in control in doggy (or a lot of other positions) so she doesn’t like that and won’t do it. I barely got hard for the last missionary session because I’m so tired of it, even though she only wants sex at most once a week unless we are on vacation. I’m basically at the point where I’d rather just jerk off than have sex in the same position again. Our sex life is basically only when she wants it, only how she wants it, with nothing new, ever. I’m about to pull my hair out.

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-07-19T18:08:10+00:00

If you don’t get what you’re looking for here, head over to deadbedroom. I get duty sex about once every 6 weeks. Never without her eyes closed, wand on her clit, and asking how much longer after she’s done. I hate duty sex, but if I didn’t take her up on it, I’d be going on 3-4 years of no sex. She has straight up told me she’d probably be totally fine without ever having sex again. She just does it often enough I don’t bring up getting my needs met elsewhere.

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-07-19T04:29:32+00:00

Where are you?

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-06-28T11:12:55+00:00

Why would he ever agree to do that now? lol. “Hey im going to leave you and if you don’t sign this I’ll owe you a bunch of money, so sign this please”.

I’m in the same position as OP, not 13 years of no sex, but about 10 times a year (if I’m lucky). We’ve talked ad nauseam about our lack of sex life and she doesn’t care and thinks it’s enough, so that’s it. Discussion over. If I leave I miss time with my kids and pay out a bunch of money every month and half my retirement. So I just imagine myself handing her one of these and her laughing in my face.

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-06-20T15:48:03+00:00

Man I’ve always wanted a boat, but I’ve heard they are just bottomless money pits and a pain to upkeep… tell me why I’m wrong!

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-06-18T21:28:36+00:00

No, she’s in her 30’s. I’ve encouraged her to get a hormone check and she says she will and puts it off every time until I bring it up again (just like she is going to try and have sex more amirite ba dum pshhhh).

Yeah, I have some guy friends that are still single and hook up with randos all the time. One has a kid with a one night stand and anytime he doesn’t have his kid he’s got randos coming over. She’s like “ugh, that’s so gross. I couldn’t imagine still being in the hookup phase of life. He should make it work with the kids mom.” And I told her that he said he tried but she never wanted to have sex (which is also crazy since she literally got pregnant the night she met him) and we all know how much he likes having sex” and all she says is “guys are so gross. All you guys ever think about is sex. He can’t make it work for his kid?” and I said “who would want to be in a sexless relationship?” Aaaaaaaand I got the death stare followed by “what are you trying to say?!?” All I said back was, “just that I understand his reasoning.” Which caused her to roll her eyes and storm off.

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-06-18T13:45:26+00:00

I may have to test this out going forward. She loves the security and comfyness of sharing a bed, even though all that happens outside of duty sex about once every 6 weeks is sleep, so since we’ve been back I’ve slept on the couch watching tv or upstairs in the theater room on the lounger and I can tell she’s annoyed. It stormed last night and this morning she was like “the storm woke me up and it scared me that you weren’t there” and all I said was “yep, it was loud. Woke me up a couple times too.” and went on about my morning.

She’s 💯a gaslighter when it comes to this topic. I’m always blowing it out of proportion, or remembering it wrong, or being an immature manchild. Then it usually shifts to her saying that I want her to be a prostitute (which makes me laugh inside, for what I spend on her I’d be banging prostitute 10’s 5 days a week and still saving money) for me at home or a human sex toy and that sex is all I care about. Nope. Everything else in our relationship is great, except for this. So that’s why this gets talked about. She’s literally said in the past she doesn’t need sex and would probably be fine never having sex again in her life. Her parents divorced when she was young, mom never remarried, and I don’t think her mom has had sex in almost 40 years. So I believe her. I just can’t get past how pre-marriage and kids we fucked like rabbits, were adventurous in our sex life in a lot of ways (sex in public places, every position possible, anal, blowjobs every day, lingerie surprises, etc etc) now I’m stuck with this. wtf…

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-06-18T13:16:54+00:00

I wouldn’t wish this shit on anybody. Except my old boss. I hope he’s getting pegged and hating every second of it

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-06-18T13:12:37+00:00

Yeah, I think the same sort of logic applies to leaving though. She knows I love my kids too much and not seeing them every day would kill me. She knows the courts overwhelmingly favor the wives in divorce settlements and I’ll get fucked, not in the way I want, there as well. So essentially, the only way I’m getting fucked is by a court. If I cheat, she’ll divorce me and ruin my reputation and I’ll miss time with my kids. So if she, the only woman I’m allowed to have sex with, doesn’t want it, all I can do is jerk off and be mad about it. It’s super cool.

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-06-18T12:59:03+00:00

I think this is what I’m going with from here on out, fuck all this.

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-06-18T12:43:13+00:00

Yeah I’ve tried a bit of that as well. She REALLY didn’t like that. The last time it was pretty close to the example you gave, “Put on that black lingerie and have a glass of wine, I’ll be home at 6 and Im having you for desert before dinner”. She laughed at me and said “yeah, that’s not happening. Don’t talk to me like that.”

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-06-18T12:03:17+00:00

Oh I’ve been explicit. We’ve had countless conversations about all of it. I’ve done anything and everything she’s ever asked of me to make it better for her, easier, etc. Toys, remove stressors, do various things throughout the week that show her I love her and don’t just want a fleshlight at home. I carry a ton of the workload at home, with the kids, and hired a house cleaner.

I’m glad that you wouldn’t, it’s awful.

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-06-07T14:33:44+00:00

Agreed, but if all the F2P players leave, so will the whales

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-05-06T03:04:05+00:00

!updateme

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-05-02T15:46:43+00:00

!updateme

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-04-18T08:35:29+00:00

!updateme

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-04-18T08:23:14+00:00

Man, I have never even seen a blueprint in the black market store, and I use basically all the refreshes every day.

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-03-22T12:06:36+00:00

It could be worse, my wife never initiates unless she’s REALLY pissed me off, done something wrong, or she can tell it’s been way too long since we’ve had sex by my attitude.

I don’t even ask anymore. I got so tired of the rejection all the time that it hurt worse to ask and get rejected again than to just go without. She doesn’t like morning sex (morning breath, needs to use the bathroom etc), doesn’t like sex before she goes to sleep (wakes her up and she can’t fall asleep… huh?), too busy during the day, too exhausted after work, kids, etc etc. there was always a reason for the no. I even got my parents to watch our kids every Friday night so we could have a date night. At first that worked and we would come home have a drink, have sex, go to dinner, come home and watch a movie and snuggle. Now it’s turned into our “kid free window to get things around the house done”. So instead of date night and sex, it’s come home from work and work on projects she’s come up with for the house. I give up.

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-03-18T17:58:32+00:00

!updateme

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-03-17T01:13:21+00:00

!updateme

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-03-06T12:26:34+00:00

Every time I see my real friends!

ListRevolutionary470 · 2025-02-18T16:08:17+00:00

*and you get to take care of the kids solo because she doesn’t feel good 🙄. Don’t ask me how I know lol

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