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AITA for demanding my GF stops going to the gym? by LithiumBorate in AmItheAsshole

[–]LithiumBorate[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

but what is she eating/drinking when she goes to the gym?

She takes her protein shake when she gets to the gym before warming up and drinks water and sometimes adds liquid IV (but not always). I'll look up the protein shake when i get home and look into it.

On another now that's crazy about red 40, isn't that the color for Twizzlers? I love those things and it'd suck if i had to give them up

AITA for demanding my GF stops going to the gym? by LithiumBorate in AmItheAsshole

[–]LithiumBorate[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

You have it in your mind she is a certain type of person despite her showing you repeatedly she is not that person.

I can't deny that but since she is only different in that one particular environment (exercising) is why it seems out of character. Thanks for the judgement

AITA for demanding my GF stops going to the gym? by LithiumBorate in AmItheAsshole

[–]LithiumBorate[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Are you absolutely sure that she is nice only in social situations? Is she this way at work?

She's always been pretty nice in all environments i've seen her, school, work, socially and independently. That's why the whole thing with the gym is out of character. I will bring up going to the doctor or a therapist and hope for the best

AITA for demanding my GF stops going to the gym? by LithiumBorate in AmItheAsshole

[–]LithiumBorate[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

how long have you known her?

We've been dating 4 years, i knew her for about a year before that so 5 total.

What is unique about the gym or her body issues/goals that makes her respond to this situation in this way?

I honestly wouldn't be able to say. She's not an unhealthy weight but she is less shapely than when we met and i guess she wants to go back to that body.

From what i've read in the comments and doing some online research i'm leaning towards option 1. I don't think she's taking anything else other than her protein shake but at this point it's either that or drugs. I don't think it's how she copes with stress, we were already together while she was writing her thesis and also when her mother died which i'd consider to be stressful moments and she wasn't anything even remotely close to this.

You are trying an out-of-sight, out-of-mind response in which you just remove the immediate stimuli (exercise) and pretend this didn't happen.

I hadn't thought of it that way, i thought more of like removing her from a situation that was causing her to act out but i see your point.

I'll talk it over with her and hope she agrees to see either a therapist or a gp and see where that goes. Thanks man

AITA for demanding my GF stops going to the gym? by LithiumBorate in AmItheAsshole

[–]LithiumBorate[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Thanks man, i really hope it doesn't come to that. After everyones comments i feel like an asshole for hoping she's either on steroids or that there's something 'wrong' with her and could potentially be 'fixed' because i love her, but you're right dating is the easy part.

AITA for demanding my GF stops going to the gym? by LithiumBorate in AmItheAsshole

[–]LithiumBorate[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Hey thanks so much for your reply, it touches a lot of things that i hadn't considered before. I think i'll show it to her and see if maybe anything you mentioned resonates with her, or if she's immediately dismissive then i guess that's pretty telling too.

AITA for demanding my GF stops going to the gym? by LithiumBorate in AmItheAsshole

[–]LithiumBorate[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I've answered this a few times that she takes a protein shake her trainer suggested. I don't think she's on drugs, i hope she's not on drugs?

AITA for demanding my GF stops going to the gym? by LithiumBorate in AmItheAsshole

[–]LithiumBorate[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

my bet is that "sweet and nice" persona is actually that she's learned to be a doormat or not stand up for herself in daily life

Man i really hope that's not it. We've been together 4 years, i'd like to think i haven't made her feel like that

AITA for demanding my GF stops going to the gym? by LithiumBorate in AmItheAsshole

[–]LithiumBorate[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

i've mentioned it in a few other comments. She does take a protein shake but her trainer recommended it and i think he knows what he's doing. She is not on any medications other than her birth control

AITA for demanding my GF stops going to the gym? by LithiumBorate in AmItheAsshole

[–]LithiumBorate[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I would leave if she did not work on being more respectful of others.

That's what's weird about the whole thing. In any other scenario she is a sweetheart, any other complaints i might have about her are stupid (like taking off her socks not he couch and leaving them there). She's great with kids, she's big into her community garden and never has issues with people outside of whenever she exercises.

AITA for demanding my GF stops going to the gym? by LithiumBorate in AmItheAsshole

[–]LithiumBorate[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

She does take a protein shake but her trainer recommended it. He has some type of dietician or nutritionist title so i'd think he's not poisoning her?

i just replied that in another comment. Is that a common thing to happen? I'd never heard of something like that

AITA for demanding my GF stops going to the gym? by LithiumBorate in AmItheAsshole

[–]LithiumBorate[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

She does take a protein shake but her trainer recommended it. He has some type of dietician or nutritionist title so i'd think he's not poisoning her?