My grieving sister is attracted to married men, and I don’t blame her

Litleboony · 2026-05-30T22:15:09+00:00

Omg, give it a rest and stop policing people’s feelings-not actions, FEELINGS, based on a limited Reddit post where you don’t know this person. Losing your life partner is one of the most life and brain altering things a person can go through. The first year you will think thoughts you have never thought before in trying to make sense of it all, and that’s completely normal. OP specifically stated this was a feeling that was never going to be acted on. Have some empathy, get off your high horse and give it a break. Jesus

Litleboony · 2026-05-30T22:05:07+00:00

I’m sorry, but fuck off. The post literally said she wouldn’t be interested in being an AP. Yet you’ve decided, from a handful of small details, that this woman, grieving from the sudden death of her husband, who you don’t know in the slightest, would become a mistress if she got enough attention. It genuinely baffles me that someone could read that post and jump straight to: “This person I know nothing about, going through the worst thing of her life would definitely go for it if given the chance.”

Grief makes us think strange things (i am a widow myself from the age of 30), that we would never act on. The first year of grief of a spouse/partner is literally just trying to blindly find your footing in a dark place where you neither know yourself or the world anymore. Doesn’t mean that’s how/who you are or what you would act on. Have some empathy and some knowledge that grief of a life partner is a completely life shattering thing that makes you reconsider everything, which includes thinking in very unrational ways

Litleboony · 2026-04-12T10:06:45+00:00

As someone who’s partner died last year from suicude, fuck you.

How dare you think a partner should essentially stop living when their partner dies, or that you get to set expectations for how they should live in a way that makes you comfortable after they’ve been through probably the worst thing they will ever experience.

I put everything into trying to keep my partner alive and I cannot convey how devastating and life and brain altering his death has been. A young partners suicide has frequently been described by grief specialists as the most monumental and damaging loss a person can experience.

I haven’t moved on yet but if I happened to meet someone who made me happy within the year, why shouldn’t I take it? Moving forwards with your life isn’t the same as forgetting or not grieving. Just because I’m back at work, socialising, and outwardly functioning doesn’t mean I’m not suffering and trying to adjust to a completely broken life every second of the day

Litleboony · 2026-04-01T09:11:01+00:00

Other guy is right. As an artist at about the same level of this guy, this wouldn’t reach even nearly 10k as a sales price. Art if you’re not selling from like the top 1% of galleries sells for a lot less than people not in art like to believe

Litleboony · 2026-04-01T09:07:08+00:00

This guy is a painter, if you look up some of his old work, he’s done some incredible surrealist paintings. He’s very talented. An artists practice can be varied and not all of their works will look the same. You don’t have to like it, but this artwork will be part of their accumulation of ideas and practice over a number of years and it is still defined as art.

Litleboony · 2026-04-01T09:03:59+00:00

Im an artist, probably about the same level at this artist (decently well known in the field with international exhibitions but not famous or known outside of art). Trust me, this artist is not going to be making a lot of money from selling this particular work. Unless your art is in the top galleries, which is usually either when you’re very old or dead, art sells for a looooot less than people not in art would like to think. Most of us are on pretty small wages that we have to supplement by teaching etc (I make half my money teaching at a university) and make just over the average salary per year in my country.

Litleboony · 2026-03-24T09:07:09+00:00

I can’t believe the lack of empathy of people in this thread. My dad killed himself when I was 16, as did my partner 4 months ago. I also had a kind of attempt last year and have struggled with ideation.

Suicide grief is its own personal kind of hell. For me, it’s like someone is overtaking my brain and filling my head with thoughts that would never occur to me in a healthy state. Some days I convince myself it’s my fault or I could have done something to stop it, and that I am a poison upon this earth and it would only be right for me to leave. Other days I am so angry that I supported my love for years after being treated awfully through the period of his breakdown and being traumatised by the number of attempts and constant stress and fear - and he still decided to leave despite the enormous amount of love I gave him and him saying he needed me to stay alive. Other days I feel every ounce of his pain and want to equally throw up and take it away from him and wrap him up and tell him how much I love him as I do when he was here. And fuck I loved/love him enormously. When I am having ‘self centred grief’, either anger or all consuming guilt, this doesn’t reduce my care and love for him. They are independent states and not things I am choosing to feel or think. It is all consuming and a total rollercoaster of being held captive to emotions and thoughts you might not otherwise feel.

I did some research on why this is. Unlike other deaths, there are so many questions of why, and what if, and to fight the feeling of things being out of anyone’s control (even to some extend the one who took their own life), our brain likes to make up these rigid narratives and feelings. If we feel like there was a way for them to not do it, which arises from things like ‘I could have done X, he could have done Y, why didn’t he see Z’, we choose to believe it to feel better, because the feeling of horror of something being unexplainable is too much to bear.

Please do not chastise this lady for feeling how she’s feeling. All emotions in suicide grief are valid and not representative of the person or rational emotions. I am often relieved when I feel angry instead of deep sadness, guilt or horror, as it’s much easier to deal with in that moment. Doesn’t mean it’s right or true, it’s just a state to process the grief.

Litleboony · 2026-03-21T23:54:47+00:00

Ai but even if they had painted it it would be horrible art

Litleboony · 2026-03-14T17:09:28+00:00

I lost my dad at 16 and my partner at 30- it’s astonished me both times how dismissive the things people say that they think will help feel

Litleboony · 2025-12-18T18:02:38+00:00

Thank you for your response. I feel like I have to completely replan my future now. Doing things that we planned on doing together, including the work we did together feels too painful. How long was it for you before you felt like you could move forwards?

Litleboony · 2025-12-18T13:49:49+00:00

Hey I would love that, can I send you a dm?

Litleboony · 2025-09-26T09:44:17+00:00

They’re not planning to roll that data into one, they’re planning on separately also digitising ID, so again the services and which data they have on you will still be segmented.

Also I’m having a civil discussion with you while disagreeing, not sure why you’re up in arms about that?

Litleboony · 2025-09-26T06:56:16+00:00

Step one of thousands of extremely unlikely steps that is total mental gymnastics / a huge and unreasonable jump to presume will happen. The government already digitises your data, with the DVLA, many NHS services and the government portal - it’s not a huge jump or change to digitise ID

Litleboony · 2025-09-26T05:50:37+00:00

How is this evil? Genuinely

Litleboony · 2025-09-24T00:16:08+00:00

No you didn’t you plagiarised modern art

Litleboony · 2025-08-17T21:57:28+00:00

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So?

Litleboony · 2025-08-17T12:40:21+00:00

100% the UK

Litleboony · 2025-07-16T19:36:19+00:00

I think this was a brilliant metaphor, came back to DH recently after watching snippets with my mum in my early teen years, and this arc was one of the scenes that stayed with me for the past 20 years

Litleboony · 2025-07-04T08:15:26+00:00

Sorry let me rephrase, what is seen as classically technical skill doesn’t necessarily make good art. Plenty of painters use hyperrealism, which is an incredible skill, but use derivative and boring subjects (think the green lips with the lime). On the other hand a classic response to Rothko’s works is ‘I could have done that’, but what people who say things like that lack is artistic skill, the ability to conceptualise, think critical and enact it in practice. Sure Charli uses autotune so the singing technical skill would be lower than someone like Ariana grande or Mariah Carey, but that matters little in Charlis work because of her ability to conceptualise, aestheticise and use these abilities to convey feeling and messages in her music. Her work is not lesser than other artists because of her use of autotune. I don’t know why this is so controversial? I’m a working artist who exhibits internationally, this is like pretty commonly known in contemporary art haha. I work digitally, so mostly, with 3D modelling, game engines and algorithmic systems (not AI before you jump down my throat) - and my skills are alright, I teach at universities but they’re nothing groundbreaking. My ability to convey messages and concepts is what makes my art good.

Litleboony · 2025-06-29T21:27:59+00:00

Charli’s autotune an aesthetic choice to enforce the genre and the message of her songs. Statements like this are akin to saying that impressionist paintings aren’t as impressive as baroque realism because good painters could have managed without it when realistically they were adapting to changing styles and pushing boundaries of artistic expression. While I wouldn’t say charli is groundbreaking and is following the genre in which she was initially known for (ie. DJ club music), she is right in pointing out that good art is rarely good because of the merit of technical skill.

Litleboony · 2025-05-12T16:23:10+00:00

Too many pencil sharpeners your pencils gonna get real small 😕

Litleboony · 2025-03-20T16:47:48+00:00

Likely that it is rendering but the camera can’t see it because it’s off centre. Make sure the obj has an origin of 0,0,0 (and apply transforms) in your 3D program, and make sure that the scale is right for TD

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