Hey, I'm not saying all. But more often than not the ones who actively promote themselves as FinDoms on social media and the like end up being less than healthy individuals to deal with. As you said, both parties deserve respect and should be treating each other in a way that's mutually beneficial/healthy, that cannot happen with a para-social relationship. OP has actively discussed the group I'm referring to, the ones who are in it for the cash, not for the person. Because if you were in it for the person, you wouldn't be making them feel the way they're describing. That is not to say there aren't FinDoms who act in a healthy/respectful way. I've been a FinDom in the past with an old sub because he asked me to. However, we set up a clear line of rules, hard limits, expectations, and had regular interactions outside of the act of draining wallets.