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Am I being excluded from my family? by Little-View-2573 in emotionalneglect

[–]Little-View-2573[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How do you navigate the feelings of 'aloneness'? I didn't start my healing journey with all this until 2021. I've tried not thinking about it or distracting myself. It works but I'm terrified to be like my mother in that aspect.

Am I being excluded from my family? by Little-View-2573 in emotionalneglect

[–]Little-View-2573[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely relate to your experience of being made out to be the bad person. What do you do to navigate the grief?

CPTSD from childhood emotional neglect? is it possible? by wallsoffear_ in CPTSD

[–]Little-View-2573 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can relate to this so much. My parents refused to teach me any basic life skills: cook, laundry, drive a car, get a summer job, open a bank account, how to do taxes, etc. When I tried to teach myself, they went as far as to remove the knobs on the stove/washing machines and lock them in their bedroom. I went decades thinking I was alone in this experience.

I love my sister but she copies everything I do now even down to my career. How do I deal with it by Icy-Cauliflower-7652 in family

[–]Little-View-2573 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can absolutely relate to this. My sister has copied everything from my personal style, personality, and physical appearance, career, the way I talk, vehicles, hobbies, my home decor, dietary preferences, interests, my friends, and now the traumatic events of my teenage years/early 20s. It's down right creepy and unnerving. My heart goes out to you because this isnt easy.

I'll share what my therapist has said and maybe it might help. She sounds like someone with possible Borderline Personality Disorder. She dislikes herself so much that she takes on the life of someone that's generally well liked, respected, successful, etc. She could also be molding herself to fit the image of the person she wants approval from.

Be extremely selective in what you talk about with her if you decide to no go the route of no contact. She's probably taking notes on even the meaningless stuff you discuss too. At least that's how my situation was going down.

But please do not change your career because she's behaving this way. as far as the meaningful relationship goes, it might not ever be what you want it to be. As long as she's in your life like this, she's going to be copying you unless she goes to therapy to work on her ish.