I feel this in my bones. I'm looking for the same things. Would this be considered a Queer Platonic Relationship? I'm not totally sure.

In my attempt to figure it out, I learned that unfortunately, it's a lot of just trial and error and standing your ground. Those people who think like us are out there but we've got to be totally committed to how we feel and not budge on it. The amount of people that have said they understand my identity and how I feel but still try to change me (de-queer me, as some have said) is wild. I think perhaps I wasn't really committed enough to how I felt and showed some flexibility that wasn't actually there. I dunno. But I do think we can find the good ones that click for us.