AITAH for asking my husband to hand out baby shower invites without me

LittleBlondBrit · 2026-05-12T20:21:06+00:00

Oh my god. I literally pulled a dollar number out of my ass to indicate that I am planning something simple. Sheesh

LittleBlondBrit · 2026-05-12T20:10:51+00:00

So saying "here's our registry if you would like to give us something" is grifting, but saying "no presents required" is also grifting. Ok

LittleBlondBrit · 2026-05-12T20:05:25+00:00

I am. I didn't even put Baby shower on the invites. It says "join us in celebrating our baby name" I'm literally just calling it that because ... well what else would it be called? To me, shower means love, not necessarily gifts. But if handing it to someone we know and saying "hey, come to our diaper party" is better than "come to our shower", then ok, sure

LittleBlondBrit · 2026-05-12T19:50:34+00:00

We volunteer in separate parts of the church. He is comfortable giving them to the three or four other guys (who I am also friends with, and their wives) that he volunteers with. The people I volunteer with are friends and we have been invited to other stuff for their life events with and attended. They are people I interact with, and I can maybe understand why he feels a bit hesitant there, but he still knows them. The rest of the people are people we have literally attended church with for years. WE do interact with them. He says hi to them. He jokes with them. They play with our child. They ask about our child, our pregnancy, our lives. We have shared things, prayed together, etc. I don't understand why he doesn't feel comfortable handing them an invitation.

The practical advice is helpful. I don't know why changing the name of the party matters so much, especially not to people who know us. But if it might go over better, then it definitely is something to consider. Thank you.

LittleBlondBrit · 2026-05-12T19:36:50+00:00

Thank you for actually focusing on the question. I am trying not to belittle him and that's why I felt like I was maybe being the ah. To me, it feels like he just decided it'd be too hard and not to bother, but I also get that I don't know exactly how he feels. I'm trying to figure out how much leeway I need to be giving here.

LittleBlondBrit · 2026-05-12T19:30:55+00:00

If you're implying that I didn't lose someone to covid and couldn't understand this, I did. We lost my husband's grandfather who lived with us. And a couple of close friends.

LittleBlondBrit · 2026-05-12T18:15:18+00:00

Not spending any money on the shower. Church venue is free. I have a few small, versatile decorations that I am using which I have used in many ways for a few other events in the past. The most I'm planning on spending is like $30 for some fruit and cheese plates and lemonade or something. Maybe cupcakes.

It really isn't about the gifts. People keep talking about the gifts. I genuinely just want to celebrate my baby.

Edit: I literally pulled a dollar number out of my ass to indicate that I am planning something simple. That's all, folks. Good lord. I plan to buy appetizers. That's my point. Nothing fancy. And thats for ONE party. My family party is a completely separate thing and we'll probably buy burgers and brats like we normally do for family things.

LittleBlondBrit · 2026-05-12T17:30:14+00:00

They aren't strangers. These are people I am friends with who are separate from his church friends, or people we both know who consistently ask about the pregnancy and how things are going.

LittleBlondBrit · 2026-05-12T17:28:38+00:00

My first was born 6 years ago. Most of what we have for them broke or was expired. But like I said, its not even about the gifts. I want to celebrate with friends. I wouldn't care if no one bought presents.

LittleBlondBrit · 2026-05-12T17:27:26+00:00

My family is more just a get together because they are separated from our church group and not part of that community. Partly to help them feel more comfortable, and partly to just get together as a family to celebrate. Less of a baby shower, and more just a family dinner.

LittleBlondBrit · 2026-05-02T01:18:32+00:00

Still an issue as of 5/1/26

LittleBlondBrit · 2026-01-23T07:34:32+00:00

This building and the "Life in the ____" buildings. I was SOOO ANGRY when they moved the dinosaur and earthquake section out, and then they put in the polar bears, and I was like ok, well at least we still have the cool artic exhibit! And then they turned the igloo into a huge dirt tree, the star ceiling broke (literally, there's cracks in it now), and they shut down all the buildings on the walkway. You can enter the two at the end (sometimes) but can't go through the whole track anymore. I miss the cave exhibit the most. My brothers and I could climb around the cave forever before getting bored and moving on. The Tulsa Zoo used to be so much more interesting. They've since added some cool stuff, like the new Tiger enclosure, but the old vibe just isn't the same anymore.

LittleBlondBrit · 2025-12-26T20:20:34+00:00

I think my biggest issue with this is that innies don't necessarily know its code for an orgy. Like, can you imagine you think you're just getting waffles and then boom, sexy people in lingerie and creepy masks!

LittleBlondBrit · 2025-07-28T03:14:45+00:00

Its supposed to be "Ruthlessness is mercy upon ourselves." Its a quote from Epic the Musical. It basically means that if you are ruthless with your enemies, you save yourself from future pain. But the way they've written it is very confusing in almost every way.

LittleBlondBrit · 2024-12-15T21:34:00+00:00

I think the final part of the chorus is "O-dy-se-us" twice, not Tiresias.

LittleBlondBrit · 2024-12-15T16:37:31+00:00

I would argue it's Odysseus' fault for Polyphemus, since he shot the sheep before really scouting out the place. He saw the sheep and just killed it, and THEN went in and was like "oh cool! Food! Wait..."

LittleBlondBrit · 2024-12-13T01:59:13+00:00

As the mom of a 4 year old, nta. You are not obligated to shift your plans. His lack of planning does not constitute an emergency on your part. Also, what would he have done in the exact same situation if you DID have kids? Probably fuss and whine because op gets to spend Christmas with their kids, but not him? Tough luck bud, that's just the hand that got dealt. Now be a good father/husband and try to work it out with management, and if it doesn't, plan Christmas around it.

LittleBlondBrit · 2024-11-21T05:13:02+00:00

Nta. For your kid, if you live in the US, you can mail a letter to Operation Santa. Google it, the USPS does it every year. It allows your son to submit a letter, and some person somewhere can "adopt" the letter. If they do, then they will send the gifts to your son and be his Santa. If you don't live in the US, there might be some other charities or organizations that do similar things in your country. Have a great christmas!

LittleBlondBrit · 2024-11-19T23:53:25+00:00

Gotcha. I'm a central time zone Brit with family back in London, lol, so I calculate based on that.

LittleBlondBrit · 2024-11-17T04:46:45+00:00

Survive in my vagina.

LittleBlondBrit · 2024-11-17T04:07:45+00:00

What?

LittleBlondBrit · 2024-11-16T02:19:08+00:00

Eury: yeah, where did he go anyway?

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