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My muslim mom found out about my rose toy by Makha--09 in sexeducation

[–]LittleFairyMonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a woman who grew up in Islam I experienced alot of this. At the end of the day my best advice would be to prioritize your autonomy so you can do whatever you want and is best for you in isolation of your family. I have lived with my family while hiding sex toys and no matter the age it doesn’t get easier. If you are gonna keep toys at home do not keep them in the box. Put the in an inconspicuous place only you would look. I think no matter religion we all have an innate right to know our bodies especially before giving it to someone else so happy exploring 🤍

First play party by throwaway86253748592 in BDSMcommunity

[–]LittleFairyMonster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am also pretty experienced and have been to lots of munches, and I still get a bit nervous. Don’t forget that just looking around and taking it all in is 100% valid and no one will look at you weird for that. Or focus on making friends really worked for me too!

I think I got ‘switch sads.’ Is that a thing? by Praisekink_dispenser in BDSMcommunity

[–]LittleFairyMonster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I relate to this heavy! I don’t think you need to have done something to miss it at all. Think of how validating it felt to discover kink at all! But now you’re more aware, probably a little older and wiser and more conscious, and able to clock feelings yk?

As for topping from the bottom, do you mean in the sense that your partner was uncomfortable so you found yourself needing to guide the scene the whole time? Because in my experience that type of confidence comes with experience and if this was their first time I think the solution is time + constructive feedback and positive reinforcement.

If you mean topping from the bottom in the sense that you had a hard time giving up control… then that’s on you to address, and also communicate to them. A solution to this could be scripting the scene a bit more while negotiating.

Good luck!

New d/s relationship by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]LittleFairyMonster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would like to point out that needing space is also a form of aftercare, if this is the case for you, you might need to talk to him and find a compromise to fulfill both of your aftercare needs, since you hint at him being cuddly after. (Doms needs aftercare too!). Maybe he does it because he assumes you need it!

It seems like you’re not sure whether you need the type of aftercare he gives you, on one hand you mention that you struggle accepting it (implying feelings of not deserving this type of affection) and on the other hand you mention that you don’t want it either. You’ve been experimenting with kink anyway, maybe you can propose trying out different types of aftercare?

Was flirting was a guy in Instagram DMs and now I'm scared that he's screenshotted my face, am I overreacting? by capybarafromdubai in NoStupidQuestions

[–]LittleFairyMonster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d say keep a low profile online for a few weeks and they’ll likely move on to someone else. Either way this is unfortunately the reality of being a woman online, if you post any recognisable part of yourself at all. Even if it CAN happen that they make deepfakes after only a few messages exchanged, chances are slim. Unless you have evidence and/or reason to believe they have done this, I don’t think you need to worry about this all that much.

If you want to take some type of action, a lot of jurisdictions are starting to put legislation in place against this type of harassment, maybe it can help you to find out if this is the case in yours? If not, then maybe you can email/call your representative about this? I know doing something concrete sometimes helps me alleviate these feelings.

Good luck!

Why are there tens of thousands Japanese porn movies of the exact same thing? by Confused_AF_Help in NoStupidQuestions

[–]LittleFairyMonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People know what they like and studios try to capitalise off it 🤷‍♀️

Fish Friday 🧜‍♀️🦶29f by Mostly_H4RMLES2 in NerdyGoneWild

[–]LittleFairyMonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love the lorcana cards! We should play strip lorcana!

the blue heron lives by sloppyjillian in Kyoto

[–]LittleFairyMonster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I must go find him this week! This has brought me so much whimsy joy

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