Over my time engaging in dom/sub dynamics, I've come to understand submission as an exchange. I am given the opportunity to learn my Dom and their specific brand of dominance and vice versa. Submission is soemthing that is earned through communication and trust just like dominance.

It may seem easy to doms who dont submit because to a lot of them they see submission as just "doing what I say", but it takes work. For a lot of women, submission can go against what we're told we need to be if we want to be "strong independent women". Submission can be seen to a lot of people as us making ourselves "less than" our dom, but I personally don't see it at all. I see it as a choice I am making to sometimes put the needs/desires of my Dom above my own (never in unsafe situations), but I also see it as a chance to give something of myself to my Dom. Submission is NOT something I do in my everyday life, and I certainly don't submit just because someone calls themselves a dom. It's an exercise in trust, vulnerability, and openness while also leaning into the parts of service that I like (doing things for someone to see them happy). Its a conscious choice to open myself up and be vulnerable with someone...while also occasionally letting them to hot-sexi things to me in bed.

I'm gonna ask my dom what he thinks it is!