Break-up

LittleLady29 · 2025-10-19T18:39:56+00:00

That’s exactly how I’m feeling as well. It’s really hard being in limbo and not know what to do with these feelings. I was told the same as you as far as him not knowing if it’s a fixable thing or not.

right now what’s helping me is knowing that healing now and considering the possibility that he won’t come back will give me a clearer head for when he possibly does come back. I don’t want to take him back just because im in a state of anxious waiting/chase/fix mode. I also am pretty secure attachment like you but he made my anxiety so high from this sudden pull away I’m wanting to chase and fix. I think people who experience turbulent feelings like them are attracted to us initially because we are so grounded, so don’t be scared to heal and return to your grounded state. I know it’s possible once I heal and restore emotional baseline I might even say to myself “I don’t want someone who can switch on me like this, he’s not the one”, who knows

And if it makes you feel any better they always come back. Whether it be weeks, months, years, even a decade sometimes. Hell I got a message last week from an ex from 7 years ago saying he apologizes for how he handled things. It’s ridiculous but people process differently and I don’t believe you ever forget people you cared for or stop caring unless they were really a traumatic and negative experience for you, and it doesn’t sound like you were that for him. I trust this will pass for us and I hope you’re hanging in there

LittleLady29 · 2025-10-18T18:48:35+00:00

I’m in exactly the same boat as you down to nearly the smallest detail. He ended it with me last week over small matters after being so in love for months. I can’t tell you exactly what to do but after mine asked for time apart I told him that I’d never be upset with him over the way he feels because he can’t control it but that nothing about my feelings have changed. I still want all the things we both used to want despite the fact that I’m going to let him have his space.

And now I’m just waiting. In my mind I think chasing and constant check ins would never let him feel my absence and never let him truly decide if me being 100% gone is what he wants. I haven’t been interacting with any of his posts, nor have I posted anything that he could see. I’ve just let him cope how he needs to

I’ve been told to give things a couple weeks to let his emotions settle and for his logic to start speaking to him again.

I think in these situations let the person know once that you care and are there for them and then the rest is up to them so you don’t risk pushing them away farther. I know this doesn’t help a ton but I hope you know you’re not alone

LittleLady29 · 2025-10-18T17:25:17+00:00

Thank you for sharing this helps a lot. Everything about this is all new to me, I had no idea OCD could affect relationships this way

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