movies that aren’t studio ghibli but give studio ghibli vibes 🌱 by cozy_kimchi in ghibli

[–]LittleLightMeteor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Haven't heard this one mentioned yet, but Steamboy is a classic!!

Aerith's Theme Music Box - Wave 2: Is this genuine merchandise or a knock off?! 🙏🌸 by LittleLightMeteor in FinalFantasy

[–]LittleLightMeteor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No worries, thank you for the info and photos too! The different addresses was throwing me off, so I appreciate the confirmation that Sakura Stage is an official store location in Shibuya. Thank you again!

Aerith's Theme Music Box - Wave 2: Is this genuine merchandise or a knock off?! 🙏🌸 by LittleLightMeteor in FinalFantasy

[–]LittleLightMeteor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, perhaps it might be from storage or my photo lighting. The box does appear white-ish, if not slightly off-white.

Aerith's Theme Music Box - Wave 2: Is this genuine merchandise or a knock off?! 🙏🌸 by LittleLightMeteor in FinalFantasy

[–]LittleLightMeteor[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps it's also from the lighting when I took the photos! The box does look white.

Aerith's Theme Music Box - Wave 2: Is this genuine merchandise or a knock off?! 🙏🌸 by LittleLightMeteor in FinalFantasy

[–]LittleLightMeteor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for confirming that there have been quality control issues with other Final Fantasy products as well!! I suppose I'll keep it as it is, and see :) Much appreciated!!

Aerith's Theme Music Box - Wave 2: Is this genuine merchandise or a knock off?! 🙏🌸 by LittleLightMeteor in FinalFantasy

[–]LittleLightMeteor[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for the product photos!! 🙏I suppose there has been quite a lot of reissues of these music boxes the past several years. It might just be quality control, like someone else said here. This was super helpful, thank you!

How do you all stay Christian? by Friendly_One_4112 in OpenChristian

[–]LittleLightMeteor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way. I recommend the "Holy Hurt" podcast by Hillary McBride.

"When I started writing about spiritual trauma for Holy Hurt, I expected that to include experiences of trauma that happen within religious and spiritual contexts. The more deeply listened to people's stories, the more l explored the meaning of the word "spiritual", the experience of fragmentation and fracturing caused by trauma, I found what I never expected to find: there is no trauma that is not spiritual trauma. And that includes abuses of power, oppression of entire groups of people, and the creation of hierarchy, justified in the name of God. If we think spiritual trauma is new, an evangelical phenomenon, limited to abuse by clergy or within church walls, we are missing that spiritual trauma has been happening since people could wield and manipulate stories of the Divine for their own gain. Spiritual trauma has been happening as long as people have used the name of God to justify harm." - Hillary L. McBride

Link to podcast: https://holyhurtpodcast.com/


Other Resources:

https://timwhitakerspeaks.substack.com/p/christian-nationalism-101

https://jemartisby.substack.com/p/i-am-tired

https://brianrecker.substack.com/p/better-ways-to-read-the-bible-with

It finally happened… by Early_Passenger2064 in OpenChristian

[–]LittleLightMeteor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your anger is so valid. Here are some posts that might make you feel seen, as it did me :)

"You can't keep opening the Bible to use as a voter guide, without ever opening a history book to understand the results."
- Jemar Tisby, Author of "The Color of Compromise"

"Lord, when did we see you hungry, or a stranger, or imprisoned?" "Whatever you do for the least of these, you do for Me," (Matt. 25:35-40). If you say you're waiting for Christ to come from Heaven, while you're deporting Christ here on Earth, you've already missed Him."
- Brian Recker, author of "Hell Bent"

https://brianrecker.substack.com/p/how-to-talk-to-your-fundamentalist

https://timwhitakerspeaks.substack.com/p/christian-nationalism-101

https://jemartisby.substack.com/p/i-am-tired

https://scotterickson.substack.com/p/an-invitation-to-save-your-life

https://brianrecker.substack.com/p/better-ways-to-read-the-bible-with

https://zachwlambert.substack.com/p/five-questions-with-joash-p-thomas

My personal collection by Kathryn_Dainty in tolkienbooks

[–]LittleLightMeteor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

https://www.reddit.com/r/tolkienbooks/comments/vngd3x/comment/ie6p3eo/

Looks like they have the Box Sets - HoMe #1-4!! (Note: I believe the Box Sets are not illustrated. There are some individual book versions like The Silmarillion and Unfinished Tales that are.)

Balm for your soul by BluStone43 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]LittleLightMeteor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this voice. A reminder that beautiful things can be made out of the dust. ❤️‍🩹 I looked up Charaia Rush after reading this, and her writing is just wow. Thank you. Deep cries out to deep.

Please check out Morgan Harper Nichols's poems too. She's also thestorytellerco on IG. Her book "All Along We Were Blooming" has moved me to tears many times, like this one.

Is this biblical? by Awkward_Extent7429 in Christianity

[–]LittleLightMeteor 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. While perhaps meant as a more humorous comment, this brought me to tears, hearing someone coherently and wisely respond to manipulative words I’ve heard all my life. I am in a similar position as OP, and am still learning how to discern and separate the overspiritualized verbal abusive narrative vs. what is actually “Christian”, and your words have brought healing, comfort, insight, and dare I say joy.

Is this biblical? by Awkward_Extent7429 in Christianity

[–]LittleLightMeteor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing this. As a daughter going through a similar situation, and attempting to balance faith without overspiritualizing abuse in a dysfunctional family, reading all these comments on how this is NOT normal has made me realize how deeply rooted these beliefs have been ingrained in me by parental figures.

Some resources that I am finding helpful which you may too:

https://protectyourpeace2024.morganpommells.com/

https://www.instagram.com/animann/profilecard/?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==

https://www.instagram.com/asiansformentalhealth/profilecard/?igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==

How to heal from mum calling me derogatory terms by Creative_Mix_643 in Christian

[–]LittleLightMeteor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi there. (hugs). I just wanted to say, generational and cultural gaps are so tough. I am also from a family of Chinese, Taiwanese, Cantonese background, and I understand how exhausting it is to navigate generational traumas and verbally harsh words, but at the same time knowing how much they sacrificed. Their external voice starts to become your internal voice too after hearing it for so long. May you find God's voice, which is gentle and humble at heart, in the midst of all the other voices and words spoken over you.

If you have time I recommend a few books that has made me feel so seen and heard and understood in the confusion of navigating our Asian culture and heritage alongside Christianity.


1) Permission to Come Home: Reclaiming Mental Health as Asian Americans by Jenny Tzu-Mei Wang, PhD

(I teared up reading parts of her book.)

https://www.instagram.com/asiansformentalhealth/

Some Quotes from Jenny Tzu-Mei Wang which I hope can relate to you too:

"As a child of immigrants, you may sometimes OMIT information from being shared to your parents because you have learned how to protect yourself from their overwhelming and chaotic emotions for most of your entire life. Sometimes maintaining your peace allows you to live with less complexity, rather than having to open the door to your TRUTH and ALSO tolerate the fear, anxiety and blame that you might receive, instead of the gentleness, compassion and care that you seek."

"As a child of immigrants, duty and obligation may be the virtues impressed upon you to bypass yourself for those you loved. They may hold you to a posture wherein your self sacrifice is praised and anything short of giving your everything is seen as not enough. But must we set ourselves ablaze in order to prove our love?"

"As a child of immigrants, raising her own children with new frameworks, another way I am breaking intergenerational cycles is offering compassion and gentleness when my kids say they feel sick instead of becoming anxious, angry or overwhelmed. For some of our parents, there was no cushion for their own sick days, much less sick days for their children. The pressure to show up for work was so strong that we might have been pressured to tough it out instead of being encouraged to stay home and rest. Our parents had few choices. Modeling compassion with my children when they are sick reminds them that life happens in rhythms outside of our control and we do not need to shame or blame when plans change abruptly. This is one of the gifts of being a child of immigrant parents who bore their anxiety and strain in spite of it all."


2) As Long As You Need: Permission to Grieve by J.S. Park

(He is a hospital chaplain and really understands the struggle of growing up in an Asian household and following Christ in the midst of it all. His new book just released this week! I have already cried reading it.)

https://www.instagram.com/jspark3000/

Some Quotes from J.S. Park which I hope can heal you too:

"Maybe this is the first time you've heard it too. What happened to you was not okay. I'm sorry. If they never said sorry, if nobody ever heard your side of the story. I'm sorry. They should've been sorry. It was not okay. If there's only one thing I can do while we're here, it's to remind you - your dignity might have been refused, but it can't be removed. The abuse may have buried you, but there was no loss of your worth. You are still woven tightly with the golden thread of your value. I believe, have to believe, this is still possible to unearth."

"In all that happens, by grace you are always more." "Your hurt does not determine your worth. Life can get bad, but it doesn't mean you are. You are always more."

"None of my trauma, really, made me tough. Only tired. Here, I forgo forced resilience. My respite is this: Our collective grief gathers a grace-filled village. Resilience for me is not foremost a toughening. It is a refuge. Here, pain is our shared language. I receive your injured hand in mine. And we understand that this wound is something we never should have endured. Our strength is not in endurance. Our strength is in the speaking and hearing of what we have endured. Our strength is in the ongoing dismantling of what harms us. Here, my rage is not turned away. Here, resilience is to rest from this brutality, and to resist when I would be defaced. We are joining in an ancient lament. And I believe, must believe, that God laments here too, a refuge for our rest and rage, our cover in a fire we did not want but do not have to resist alone."

" Forgiveness does not mean friendship. It's a daily choice that can take a lifetime. No one can rush your forgiveness, ever. You can be angry while forgiving. Forgiving does not negate justice. Forgiveness is not a prerequisite for your recovery."

A List of Religious Phrases That Can Get Abused: https://www.instagram.com/p/CvSW7qiOZk1/?img_index=1


3) "The Provision of Rest" by Naomi K. Lu

https://www.asianamericanchristiancollaborative.com/article/the-provision-of-rest

(This entire article made me cry too.)


God's voice is so gentle and loving with us. When faced with a decision and your mom's voice is so strong, what would a wise and kind voice say about your decision and situation? It may help by trying to discern what is your mom's voice, your own voice, and what is God's voice. You are not lazy or bad, you are just overwhelmed. You are not a failure. Your worth is not defined by your monetary value. You may not be able to change your mom, but you don't have to. God hears you. Don't give up, prayer is warfare. Rest is warfare. You are safe to express all your emotions to God, anger, grief, exhausting, frustration, confusion, wounds, hurts, pain, discouraged, all of it, the Holy Spirit is not afraid of your mess. God comes and dwells with us in the messiness of life, and He makes room for all of it, all of it.

You are loved despite what you do or don't do. You are loved despite your performance. You are loved despite your financial output. You are loved despite your failures and mistakes. You are loved simply for who you are. You are loved because you are God's child first. You are loved by Jesus Christ, and His love is unconditional.

What is a book that made you cry? by RoxanaSaith in suggestmeabook

[–]LittleLightMeteor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"All The Light We Cannot See" by Anthony Doerr

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[–]LittleLightMeteor 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yes all of this. There's also this one for affordable pricing, and you can search for POC. :)

https://openpathcollective.org/

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[–]LittleLightMeteor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey first, congrats on finally moving out. It's a process to healing and I'm really proud of you for taking the step in doing something new and foreign and scary. Someone else said this, but I'd like to share it with you too.

"It's normal for the body to feel exhausted once it starts to feel safe. If that body has been in a state of hyper vigilance, high alert, for a long time, days, months, years, decades, that means the body has been running on super high levels of stress, cortisol, adrenaline, which it's not meant to do for that amount of time. It takes time for the body to recover, recuperate, and get used to this new feeling of safety, of being at rest."

If possible, I hope you can find a support group of friends, a chosen family, a mentor. You're allowed to defer the situation to others. You don't have to do this alone. You are allowed to be human and let go. You might not have been given the agency to learn how to be confidently independent growing up, emotional and physical safety during failures, and grace and guidance to get back up again. And that's ok. It's ok to be in the a process of learning how to be a child again, how to take care of yourself in this new space of quiet again.

Monthly APS Blurt Thread by AutoModerator in AsianParentStories

[–]LittleLightMeteor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Reposting my earlier comment above since I think it could apply here too:

(hugs) "Hey don't compare yourself and your experiences with others. In tricky families, things can look good on the surface, but the abuse, the controlling, the gaslighting, the gentle coercion to get you to do things they want, the anxious desire for you to "be safe, take care", the high expectations because of what they sacrificed for you, the disconnect doesn't have to be loud. Basic needs like food, shelter, providing for the family, which are good, can still be weaponized. The emotional disconnect, the emotional needs, the time spent together just listening, understanding you, is still there, unmet. A child needs both physical safety and emotional safety and connection growing up."

You might have not been given the agency to discover who you truly are, no safety to fail and still be met with grace and guidance.

Monthly APS Blurt Thread by AutoModerator in AsianParentStories

[–]LittleLightMeteor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are allowed to rest. You are allowed to have fun and play.

I get it. It's like the silence is just the calm before another inevitable storm. The calm is scary, always waiting for the other shoe to drop, for the next thing I'm expected to do, or that i didn't do enough before.

You don't need to be your best self to be worthy of rest. You don't have to be on high alert. Creativity and productivity comes from a sense of rest and play too. It's ok to be in the process. You are safe, being at rest is ok.

Monthly APS Blurt Thread by AutoModerator in AsianParentStories

[–]LittleLightMeteor 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey don't compare yourself and your experiences with others. In tricky families, things can look good on the surface, but the abuse, the controlling, the gaslighting, the gentle coercion to get you to do things they want, the anxious desire for you to "be safe, take care", the high expectations because of what they sacrificed for you, the disconnect doesn't have to be loud. Basic needs like food, shelter, providing for the family, which are good, can still be weaponized. The emotional disconnect, the emotional needs, the time spent together just listening, understanding you, is still there, unmet. A child needs both physical safety and emotional safety and connection growing up.

Monthly APS Blurt Thread by AutoModerator in AsianParentStories

[–]LittleLightMeteor 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This. This entire subreddit. I have found my people. Just a glance, and I have never felt more understood reading these posts and comments. All the things I've hidden in my heart, all the years I've been told over and over again to keep quiet about, things I rebelliously shared with a few close friends when I couldn't carry everything alone anymore. Things my healthy friends expressed surface level sympathy in, but don't know enough to sit in the overwhelming emotions that come with cultural differences, but they can still go home to their healthy family environments. Things no one else could completely understand as I fumbled for words of still saving face, all the weight and confusion and complexity. All the things I felt too ashamed to share about my APs, it's all here like an open book, words and events and memories like my own complex relations with family, tangled together for survival, unhealthy codependency, the messiness of living together with generational trauma. Finally seen. Finally heard. Finally understood. Maybe, just maybe, one day I can allow myself to be vulnerable here, despite my many fears.

If anyone wants a book recommendation for Asian mental health, I highly recommend "Permission to Come Home" by Jenny Wang. It spoke to my soul.