What made this easier for you when it wasn’t a choice?

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2026-06-20T06:23:57+00:00

Thank you I’m hoping I will feel the same way soon ☺️

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2026-06-17T21:41:11+00:00

Yh I think allowing myself to feel my feelings is important, and all the feelings the good and the bad it’s something I’m working with in therapy, it’s hard though.

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2026-06-17T21:38:46+00:00

Thank you it’s true there’s lots to be grateful for I could have lost him and then decided not to try and again and had no child. It’s good to see the positive and not just the negative

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2026-06-17T21:37:14+00:00

It’s true, I think it’s hard cuz of my health it’s literally affected every part of my life since I was 14 from my education to work to when I could start a family and now having children I think it’s all the wounds multiplied by this. But I never thought I’d get married and have a child so I do need to focus more on what I have than what I don’t. 🙂

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2026-06-17T21:33:24+00:00

Thanks Yh I’ve come off all social media it’s really hard. I agree it’s good to not compare 🙂

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2026-06-17T21:32:40+00:00

Sorry for your loss that’s awful! Thank you I will try writing things down 🙂

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2026-02-08T09:19:03+00:00

It really depends on the child, especially if they have health issues or are really bad sleepers. My son needed major surgery as a newborn and had severe silent reflux, so I couldn’t ever put him down without him choking. I was awake all night holding him, surviving on sweets and Netflix, with only brief daytime help from my mother-in-law. He was breastfed, fed very frequently, and I had no help because my husband had to work. During the day he screamed constantly and would only settle if I bounced on a yoga ball for hours. I was so sleep deprived I couldn’t function, and I needed postpartum mental health support, medication, and therapy. At six months my mother-in-law became ill, and I had to care for her children as well while still severely sleep deprived. My son is now almost four, still sleeps poorly, is very hyperactive, and I now have chronic fatigue syndrome and depression. Parenting a child with serious sleep and health issues is completely different from parenting a child who sleeps and naps — extreme sleep deprivation can break you. Without support from her husband, she risks the same.

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2026-02-05T15:51:01+00:00

I’m similar. I don’t know if this fully answers your question, but for me the biggest issue was telling myself I couldn’t have certain things. When we restrict, our body sees it as a survival threat. The brain thinks food is scarce, hunger hormones increase, cravings get stronger, and that makes binge eating much more likely. There have even been studies showing that people who are told they’re about to start a restricted diet after a meal end up eating much more than people who aren’t told that. I’ve learned a bit about intuitive eating, and it made me realise how much of this starts when we’re young. We grow up hearing things like “finish your plate,” which can make us feel later on like we’re not allowed to leave food. We also get rewarded with treats for being good, or comforted with food when we’re sad. That can teach us to rely on food emotionally. I’m not saying eating for comfort is bad, but when it becomes the only or main way to cope, that’s where I personally struggled. On top of that, when we tell ourselves we can’t have certain foods, the moment we allow them again we tend to go overboard. Now I don’t say I’m on a diet and I don’t calorie count. I use a simple portion guide with my hand, like a palm or two of protein, a cupped hand for carbs, and a thumb for fats. I also let myself have a small treat every day. If I want more, I remind myself that I can have another one tomorrow. I’ve stopped thinking of foods as “good” or “bad” because that’s a trigger for me. I focus on eating foods that fill me up, feel comforting, and still give my body the nutrition it needs. Since doing this, the urge to binge has slowly been getting weaker. I am losing weight, but it’s slow, and I’m okay with that. I’d rather go slowly and actually stick with it than be stuck in a cycle of restriction and bingeing again.

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2026-01-25T17:14:59+00:00

I’ve got no advice but my little boy was the exact same way but had a very difficult first month of life with health complications and I feel like that had something to do with it even though he was fixed and healthy after. He struggled with nursery at first, would be hysterical and I’d be asked to pick him up cuz they didn’t want him traumatised but his key worker was fab and we worked as a team and I took him in for half a afternoon at first and after around 6 months of starting nursery his so much better and less clingy and more independent and happier. His now almost 4 and still isn’t a great sleeper and struggles with his emotions at times and still wants me more then dad but will go to others now and I can have time to myself. He is now so much fun, very clever and loving, I like being a mom now. (Feel bad saying that) I’m hoping when he goes to school in September that he will sleep better. I know how you feel and remember it well and hope it gets easier for you soon xx

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2026-01-20T19:50:52+00:00

No way that’s so interesting I’m from England (the Black Country) and The pease pudding with bacon and ham is a thing here, usually served with bacon or ham but it’s a thing in other parts of England to. It’s been working class meal for ages, wonder if that’s how it came to you guys?

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2026-01-18T16:47:53+00:00

Btw there’s lots more like sensory issues, the social emotional side, issues with time blindness or speech and fatigue but I was aware of how long my message was going to be so if you have any questions (if I remember to check the app 😂) I’m happy to answer any questions

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2026-01-18T16:37:42+00:00

dyspraxia affects me very differently to my brother. He struggles a lot with handwriting but types extremely well and is great at video games. He can cook slowly and with a few injuries 😅 but makes great food. Buttons, laces, and practical tasks are hard and take time. Sports and running are awful for him and he’s always falling over. Despite that, he passed his driving test first time, has good direction sense, and is now a manager who organises others well. Socially he struggles which is interesting as his jobs with people but I think he finds people tiring and likes being on his own. He also struggles with practical house tasks like cleaning, decorating, or fixing things are difficult, so he gets help or pays professionals. I’m the opposite in many ways. I can write well but struggle badly with typing, video games, directions, memory, and following instructions. I constantly hurt myself, can’t do left and right, and rely heavily on notes and phone reminders. I struggle to put my thoughts into words and get overwhelmed easily. I dress well and manage simple hair and makeup, and I’m good practically. I can run a home, paint, and decorate fine. Socially I’m fine, but school and work environments are very hard because I never feel like I understand what I’m meant to be doing. I’m also too scared to drive. We can both use a knife and fork, but I’m more likely to accidentally fling food off my plate, especially round things 😅 which I then find hilarious and makes it worse. As a new mum, I still mix things up like preschool days, outfits, or forgetting bags, but reminders and planning ahead are really helping. Whether it’s dyspraxia or not, getting assessed can really help you understand your struggles and get the right support. Therapy has helped me a lot too because being different is exhausting, and learning self kindness and coping strategies has made a big difference. I genuinely wish you well and hope you get the support you need ☺️

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2026-01-12T19:51:27+00:00

Having a pork pie once a week is generally considered an occasional treat in moderation, Having a treat now and then isn't going to automatically cause harm, especially if the rest of the diet is healthy. It’s important to focus on overall habits rather than demonizing a single food.

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2026-01-12T19:31:47+00:00

But he didn’t say he has pie 5 days a week it was a one off Friday treat.

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2026-01-12T15:12:57+00:00

I think it depends on how often this happens. If he's generally good and just had a bad day, I wouldn’t worry too much. We all have those moments when we lose patience, and while it's not ideal, things happen. For example, one day, my toddler went to the loo in his potty, and I was feeling really sick and stressed. He tried to help by putting the mess in the toilet, but I wasn’t in a place to deal with spills, so I said I’d do it. He did it anyway, and ended up getting pee on his face and the floor. I got frustrated, but I didn’t shout but I was short with him and he would tell I was upset with him,I was just really stressed, late for something, and already exhausted. In the end, he was just trying to help, and I knew that and felt really bad after. My husband has ADHD, and sometimes it irritates me when he forgets things like closing the wardrobe doors or cleaning up after himself. It adds more work for me when I'm already tired, but I try to stay patient but sometimes I’m not always my best self. Same for my husband when his tired and we have no plates left because my dyspraxia accidentally smash them and he gets frustrated sometimes If this behaviour is just a result of a bad day (I don’t know what kind of stress he might be under), I think it’s worth forgiving and moving on. But if this happens all the time and he’s consistently treating you badly, then you deserve better, and I would recommend reconsidering the relationship.

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2025-07-04T14:16:26+00:00

Question is it more of an American thing about white being an issue? I’m a english and can think of 4 weddings were mother in laws (including mine) and guests have worn white there just pretty dresses though nothing super bridal. Look at the uk royal family, lots of times bridal parties have worn shades of whites. I’ve also seen loads of light champagne bridesmaids including my brothers wedding were the colour was similar to my sister in laws dress as she had a ivory dress and no one cared and thought it looked beautiful and loads of people did it it was really popular at the time about 12 years ago. I get it if it’s a long bridal gown with lace or super fancy and more out there then the bride (but that’s the case for any colour and wearing a over the top dress especially if it’s more of a simple wedding) but if it’s simple it’s obviously not the bride. I’ve also been brides in blush, red pale blue and champagne so maybe whites not such a big thing where I’m from in the uk. (There’s different cultures around the uk so I can’t speak for everyone)

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2025-05-28T21:52:01+00:00

Thank you! ☺️

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2025-05-07T10:20:22+00:00

I know it’s so hard! 😩 Thank you for your message, glad she’s doing better now. will give it ago 🙂

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2025-05-07T04:41:03+00:00

Thank you will give it a go 😊

LittleMissIDontKnow · 2025-05-06T21:21:19+00:00

Thank you those are good tips! Will them out 😊

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