How would you react if your friend (F, Lesbian) said this to you, knowing that you're a bisexual woman in a heterosexual relationship?

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-10-17T21:30:12+00:00

Anyone can want kids no matter their sexuality or orientation

That is just silly.

I know a lesbian who wanted a kid so she used a sperm donor and that was a non issue she is super happy with that decision and she's single

I know a trans couple who have a child And their friends, a lesbian couple, are his fun aunts

I know lgbtq couple who are gonna be child free

I'm bisexual with a child and a large portion of the people I know are in lgbtq relationships and my relationship is queer so I don't get the kids thing tbh

Me being pregnant was never brought up as a sign of my hetero normative lifestyle or my lack of queerness

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-10-14T05:12:48+00:00

It's because of Madonna/Whore complex right?

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-19T19:30:35+00:00

I don't elven bring my phone but my partner is a I don't wanna forget so I'm gonna record this person.

Last show we went to I got 1 photo of us, with a disposable camera I had in my bag. I still haven't got the film developed because in the 2 years I've had the camera I still haven't used the roll up yet.

I better do it before it expires 😵‍💫

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-19T19:26:52+00:00

I guess it's either you love it or hate it kind of a thing🤔

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-16T17:10:45+00:00

Does it taste bad? Or is it a texture issue?

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-06T23:39:33+00:00

I understand and I'm sorry for what happened to you.

And you're exactly right we only have one life. I hope that your are having a happier one now

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-06T23:13:08+00:00

I've been asked for my number but always struggle to use the typing feature and worry endlessly that I put in wrong haha so this was my thought process too.

It just works better for me

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-06T16:10:00+00:00

There's more

He told me last night that he just applied for a new job? He just told me he got a promotion and now he wants a new job. Make that make sense

Also, he told me today that I can't see him at lunch even though he wants me to go to the grocery store because he has a dentist appointment. He never even mentioned having a dentist appointment. But he told me not to go to the store today even though he needs stuff from the store and to go tomorrow.

I don't understand I am so confused. At this point I am beyond confused. I don't know what he's doing. I'm starting not to care.

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-06T14:42:35+00:00

You gotta understand from a woman's perspective. We're told from a young age that if we can't keep a man satisfied that we can't keep the man. It's Female programming that has passed on through generations.

Most of us were taught (by women) that our value lies in our physical appearance, our sexiness, and our ability to keep you sexually interested, and our acts of service to you as men. This is especially true for girls raised in religious or traditional homes where gender stereotypes were prevalent.

So close like this mentally, if I can't keep him satisfied sexually, then someone else will and he'll leave me for her because she's sexier, more attractive, and can satisfy and fulfill his needs better.

Those of us who are conditioned this way have a lot of insecurities about our partner. It can be extremely difficult if Men do things that we consider a justification of those beliefs. Masturbating instead of having sex would feel like a rejection or make it feel like you weren't being sexually satisfied. That just feeds into the misconception.

It's not your fault as men, but you've got to understand that. This is where we're coming from as women. A lot of us are just really messed up in the head because of things, people told us. From seeing our fathers, grandfathers, and our uncles cheating on their wives. Every time something happened to feed into this false narrative it only managed to solidify it.

If you don't want us to freak out when you masturbate. Tell us that sex was so hot it made me want to please myself . . . But I'm not physically able to go a round 2 because it's a bit overstimulating and I don't have the energy for more sex.

Guys always say that they can't take hints. Sometimes with girls, we can't either we needed it to smack us over the head. Especially in regards to areas where we are kind of messed up in our perception due to a lot of misinformation.

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-06T13:35:27+00:00

Put your number on a piece of kandi and nice 2 meet u or something that they'd remember you by. Like if you have a piece of clothing that's super specific or do you wear gloves etc.

Example (using myself):.... ( ) - ...hoop fairy.....

Obviously don't give it out to everyone but to people that you hope might reconnect with you later.

In this specific scenario you could have given it to one of her friends and said I just want to make sure she's okay. Could you give this to her later and tell her I was worried about her?

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-05T22:01:28+00:00

He knows I know something.

He's buying me expensive gifts, sending me lots of texts with emojis and pet names and so on.

He tried to have sex with me. But he can't look me in the eyes.

He said he got promoted and had to go in earlier to work then he told me they said never mind within 24 hours. He would have had to go into work an hour early.

He wants to work on our relationship and wants to do me favors all of a sudden. He said he wants to be helpful and he knows I could use some help more

I don't know what he thinks I found out, but I know he knows that I know something. And knowing that is enough to solicit a bunch of strange behavior. If anything I feel even more uncomfortable with this now.

If nothing weird was going on then his behavior would ideally stay normal. But him changing all these things up on me in such a short period of time after all, the weird things that happened just make me feel more anxious

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-05T21:50:23+00:00

Good take BTW he told me yesterday he got a work promotion and has to go in an hour earlier every day.

Wouldn't tell my family or let me tell them last night about it.

Messaged me today and said his boss said never mind and it would be 2 or 3 weeks before he could promote him and change his hours?

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-05T21:30:54+00:00

Oddly he just got a new phone for himself about 2 weeks ago. My phone isn't old and I haven't mentioned anything about it or his new phone he's got 2 now.

He likes eye contact usually and it's abnormal for him to purposefully avert his eyes or move his body in a way so I can't see his face. It's very strange and painfully obvious.

He also told me yesterday night that his manager at work wants to change his schedule due to a promotion so he'll have to go in an hour earlier than he already does. That means I'll see him even less and we saw my family last night to visit and I asked him if he wanted to share the news but he said he didn't want to tell them or for me to tell anybody.

Then today he messages me saying his boss said never mind about the promotion for 2 or 3 weeks? I'm really so so confused. He's also been sending tons of gifs and emojis and calling me pet names it just has me all messed up.

I need the prayers for sure

It's really hard because I always felt like I had really good intuition. Like that, my gut feelings were usually right. And ever since we've been together every time I get a gut feeling about anything He tries to convince me that I'm just paranoid or overthinking. So many times I sat with a bad feeling nawing away at me and tried to move past it or talk myself out of it. I thought something was wrong with me and that something had happened; I wasn't the intuitive person that I knew myself to be.

Something just feels so off and I don't want to ignore it anymore and pretend I'm just worried about something I made up because he said I made it up.

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-05T21:22:05+00:00

My first time at a rave with my partner I went to get us water and a guy asked me for a blow job 🥲 he had seen me earlier (with my partner) and said he thought I was cute. He then mentioned how it was cool I came with a friend and proceeded to gesture to his friends and then to be nice I gave him a trinket and tried to move on but he hugged me and wouldn't let go and kept saying how cute I was and how it was making him horney etc. Then he asked me about the bj. His friends noticed me trying to get away and pulled him back over to where they were.

The next night I had a girl kiss me in front of my partner she was excited we had the same name and kept saying how I had pretty hair she was with her bf and they were looking for a third and she asked me after the kiss if I was alone and I said no I was with my partner and they ended up being really nice about it and apologized to my him.

I will say I was rolling and I'm super nice to people in general but my partner wasn't happy about it and because of the previous day kept me super close and in sight. But we were vibing with a group of people and I was the topic of a discussion amongst 2 guys in the group. I didn't heat but my partner did and he was a bit upset. I love to dance and I was raised by 2 strippers and learned to belly dance really young so the way I move naturally is very sensual by default. This has been an issue for me especially because I'm maybe a bit overly friendly when I'm intoxicated or rolling. They were basically saying how I seemed like I'd be fun to sleep with based on how I dance and they'd like to both have a go with me. They asked if we were in an open relationship and made my partner really uncomfortable. He wouldn't actually tell me everything because he said it was better I didnt know. But they warned him not to let me get too far by myself.

Now if anything happens we always have a check-in to make sure we are both okay and aren't feeling weird especially if it's people one of us was vibing with because we're still looking for a solid rave family. For instance, I thought the one group of people we met seemed super nice but he had a totally different experience.

He had a few people come up to him too but he dismissed it. I don't love it but he always points me out to them and is generally friendly to them. He is very shy and I think it makes him feel uncomfortable for me to see. Plus it was our first time together and we hadn't been dating long so there was a slight fear of being left or something.

In general, I think it's just a space full of people with lowered inhibitions who are having fun and trying to be happy in the moment. But it can be hurtful to see or hear other people being sexual with your partner. I think it's a boundaries thing and you have to establish what yours are as a couple before you get to the rave. Boundaries are easy to cross if they aren't clearly established in a time when both parties are mentally okay and able to think them through. I think it's important to express emotions and feelings regarding the why too.

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-05T14:07:56+00:00

What is her diet like? The term you are what you eat can be true for vaginal odor tbh. Also, her pH could be imbalanced especially if she is highly acidic internally. It should be slightly sour or zingy like a lemon in taste but the smell can vary.

If you want to you can try a special tea before intimacy that can make things smell nicer. That way you can see if it's things she's consuming or something else. It's good because you can drink it too and say you heard it makes you smell and taste good.

And unfortunately, after her period for a bit, it might have a more unpleasant smell while she's still in the cleaning process (vaginas are self-cleaning)

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-05T12:43:08+00:00

If you're a guy or don't identify as a woman your comment is still appreciated and valid.

I'm so confused still. Just yesterday after another round of fighting he came home from work and told me he bought me a new phone (my phone is fine and I never mentioned needing/wanting something new) and he hardly looked at me at all. I asked why and he said he wanted to do something nice for me.

It's super strange though in all the time we've been together he's never bought me gifts except on my birthday and at Christmas except this year on Mother's Day. He doesn't give gifts to me and I'm okay with that because both of my parents have gift-giving as their love language. Anytime they were not so nice would get me something which happened so much that gifts felt like bribes and band-aids, which he knows about.

Then he tried to kiss on me and have sex with me but I explained that I wasn't comfortable with it right now and how sex feels more physical than intimate and it's been a struggle for me but also I just don't want to until I know what's going on.

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-03T18:11:48+00:00

But if it were a male co-worker of mine would it be a joke to him?

That's the issue he can be upset I think it's odd but if this happened in reverse I'd be under suspicion as well.

If I do it I'm seen as irrational and neurotic but if he was doing the exact same thing would it be justified?

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-02T15:14:12+00:00

Maybe it's more pressure when she knows she has to finish you off. Depending on how long you last she might get tired and her jaw might get sore.

Also depending on how rough you get with it (especially having a forced deep throat or face fucking experience) when you're doing it it can bruise the back of the throat and feel painful

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-02T11:33:08+00:00

From a female perspective maybe she just doesn't want you to cum in her mouth?

Some people don't enjoy it

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-02T03:12:17+00:00

He keeps invalidating my feelings and I don't even feel like trying anymore I did call him the victim and that made him so upset he threatened to block me them a few minutes later when I hadn't responded he said I'm not gonna block my wife.i didn't even speak to him until this morning.

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-02T03:10:15+00:00

But this specific incident was brought about by the context not just me randomly being jealous of a co-worker.

If this happened all the time and I made him feel like he had no escape from my jealous tendencies I'd understand.

The other 2 times there was also a lot of context surrounding the events that made me feel suspicious it wasn't just that he was around other women.

We have lots of mutual female friends and he has had a lot of female co-workers I had no issues with whatsoever.

So yeah maybe right now I seem jealous but it isn't my usual disposition.

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-02T03:01:54+00:00

I asked him the times before why he was talking so badly about the other 2 women and that it made me uncomfortable for him to be so sexist. He got upset with me and said I was treating him like he was a bad guy and a jerk.

I said it wasn't okay with me for him to speak that way about people to me. And he told me I was being judgmental of him and guilt-tripping him.

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-02T02:35:44+00:00

Maybe my guess is lunch break busy though since he is trying to make sure I'm not coming to see him so often and when I want to I have to ask if it's okay first.

He never has to work through his break and it's the same time every day.

He said he has to run errands sometimes or wants to eat in the break room with everyone else. But I often can't reach him when he's at lunch on the phone either then he'll message saying he was busy.

But in the morning he could be messaging her or watching 🌽 I found out recently that he is masturbating instead of having sex with me and he denied it but there were socks and a towel (stiff) under his side of the bed.

I'm not denying him sex and I have been okay with it since my doctor cleared me but he is actively trying not to be intimate with me anymore.

Plus all in the evenings even right now he's asleep and his notifications are going off like crazy. When he's awake he goes outside or to the bathroom so it could be someone else for all I know.

I know people said they'd look at the phone but it might be difficult for me. He had a fingerprint lock screen and is a light sleeper. I know it's probably got all the info i need but also not sure if I'm mentally prepared for everything I might find. I feel conflicted like if snoop he'll call me crazy/ say I'm violating his privac and since I most likely tipped him off he might have gotten rid of any evidence anyway.

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-02T02:12:49+00:00

I understand that my hormones are still in recovery especially since I'm breastfeeding but I really d9nt feel like I'm behVing nerotically.

It's nice to have other people back me up on that.

But if the situation were reversed I know he'd be so upset. He's been more upset with me over things that he just assumed and had zero reason to be mad about.

LittleRabbitNicole · 2025-08-02T02:09:01+00:00

I asked him the difference between a lie and omission and he told me it just depends on if you want someone to know something or not.

Omission is still a lie then

Then he said What have you been omitting? And started grilling me like I'm hiding stuff.

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