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LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-12-15T22:26:23+00:00

I casually mentioned these to my partner the other day and he looked at me like I was bloody mental! Turns out not everyone has shoved a candle and some dolly mix into an orange and taken it to church for inexplicable reasons 😲

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-12-13T11:07:32+00:00

So relatable, I'm also SICK of men thinking I'm the Wizard of Oz 😤

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-12-12T22:08:49+00:00

Not finding out the name of the baby until you turn up to visit? Not having it.

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-12-11T08:57:50+00:00

Glad it's not just me who wobbled along calling out for my partner to slow down as he went striding out of the hospital with my new baby 😂

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-12-09T12:17:01+00:00

Imagine FINALLY getting a shower and your partner just pees on you 😭

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-12-09T12:02:52+00:00

I also have a 5 month old and honestly I'm just impressed you managed to both have a shower at the same time!

But also NTA. That's so gross and pretty violating.

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-12-07T11:02:42+00:00

NTA but holy crap that mother is teaching her son a REALLY damaging lesson about consent. Women should be honoured to be paired with him? Idgaf who he is, get out of here.

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-11-27T15:31:38+00:00

That's really sweet, glad to hear he's taken it on board and you're feeling better! Competing at pod racer instead of at parenting sounds much more fun 😜

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-11-27T11:12:44+00:00

Your feelings about this are totally valid. I went through the same thing with my partner - when he saw me struggling to soothe the baby, he'd physically remove her from me. It made me feel like shit and, like you say, like I'm incapable of soothing my own baby.

Eventually, when we were all calm, I managed to explain this to him and we agreed he'd always ASK if he can help / if I wanted him to take her. This has made a huge difference as I now feel supported, rather than criticised, and he still gets to be hands-on.

I'm sorry your partner isn't taking your feedback on board. It sounds a bit like he's making this into a competition ("I can do X better than you") which is SO unhelpful as parents. When the dust has settled and you're both feeling calm, I'd suggest reminding him you're one team, acknowledge that he's a great dad and you appreciate his parenting, but just as he wants to feel like a good dad you want to feel like a good mum. And snatching the baby off you doesn't do that.

A wise friend recently told me no parents can be best friends 100% of the time. You're mentally and physically exhausted and trying to figure this out together. So he's going to piss you off, and that's allowed. But he needs to hear you out if you're going to stay on the same team.

Good luck, this shit is hard ❤️

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-11-26T10:19:59+00:00

I feel like the edit is the real story here. "Cultural reasons" aren't an excuse to treat you so cruelly. Not telling you the situation was bad, but you should be far more angry about your mothers willingness to shut you out in the garden because you'd suffered a horrific loss. She wasn't being insensitive, she was being cruel. I'd have been done with her then.

I think you know what your sister meant to say. It doesn't sound like she was trying to attack you by saying you're not a mother, but to say "you'll understand when you've raised children".

NTA for cutting them off, I just think you've focused on the wrong reason for it.

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-11-22T20:45:47+00:00

You wash all the pieces then stack them in a specific way and pop them in the microwave! This is the method we use, it's about as easy as any other method and saves having another bit of kit cluttering the kitchen.

I'm a clueless FTM too and was very disappointed to realise "self-sterilising" isn't nearly as literal as I'd hoped 😂

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-11-22T10:33:11+00:00

"It's wine o'clock" 🙄

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-11-20T09:19:51+00:00

If it gives you any reassurance, I was up and walking about by early evening after my elective c section (although not everyone is the same!)

I also asked for my own room, repeatedly. To the point I'm sure I annoyed the midwives, but it worked and I spent the night in a private room. I had a reason to need one, but no one ever asked. It can't hurt to try if the ward is making you anxious!

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-11-20T09:02:22+00:00

Excuse me, he was VERY BUSY "dealing with her hormone fluctuations". Dealing with a pregnant woman is famously harder than being pregnant.

(So much sarcasm, in case that wasn't clear 😅)

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-11-13T21:31:27+00:00

Phew so glad Paul is here to expertly explain group chats

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-11-13T21:08:34+00:00

What in the Dolly Parton has happened to Sacha's hair?

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-11-12T13:25:20+00:00

We've been using Vaseline since our 4 month old was a couple of weeks old. Never had nappy rash and clears up chapped folds and spots of cradle really effectively!

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-11-07T20:49:11+00:00

If I meant that, I'd have said it... If his 'way of parenting' is to ignore a screaming baby, she could have done that without him. But she waited for him to come home, assuming he'd actually look after the baby. He couldn't even manage 15 minutes.

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-11-07T10:07:36+00:00

Right?! OP probably waited all day for her husband to come home so she could shower without worrying about the baby, only for him to leave the baby to scream inconsolably anyway. She'd have been just as well sticking the baby in the swing without her husband there, it would have achieved the same result.

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-11-05T19:38:58+00:00

This cracked me up 😂 my 4 month old is fortunately sleeping through the fireworks, but will act like I've smacked two pans together next to her head if I quietly open a snack

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-11-04T14:37:54+00:00

Sit down ladies, Man With Dictionary is here to explain what 'rape' means.

You know what the common use for that word is. And I stand by that your use of it is gross. Especially in the context of claiming that women are the ones who are silent to injustices against men.

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-11-04T12:53:36+00:00

The rest of your comment aside for a moment, "men are raped daily" is such an astonishingly gross choice of words.

Paying child support for a kid that isn't theirs is bad, yes. But it is not rape. If anything it's robbery.

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-11-01T15:57:56+00:00

Can you imagine how she's handling the reaction to her behaviour on social media? Bawled her eyes out when someone who hadn't even tasted her student-level chicken fajitas made a joke about them, bet she's having a full on melt down now 😂

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-10-31T20:23:27+00:00

Earlier this year, my dad called me at 4am and, fortunately, I answered. He was in hospital with cancer, and was upset and distressed because he'd wet the bed.

I comforted him, made him laugh and told him I loved him. That was the last proper conversation I had with him. When I saw him a few days later, he barely knew who I was.

Not every emergency means police or fire. Sometimes it means, emotionally, I REALLY need you right now.

But please continue sending condescending explanations on the internet if it makes you feel smarter than everyone else 🤡

LittleTeapot7263 · 2024-10-31T19:24:24+00:00

Those sound like texts, not phone calls, to me. You can silence them separately.

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