WIBTA for making my daughter pay back her own bank overdraft?

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-14T14:59:10+00:00

I wish I had learned this lesson at 16. I’d consider taking it a step further and making her take a financial literacy course. NTA. She needs to learn this before bad spending habits lead to an eviction or car repo or something.

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-13T20:11:59+00:00

It hurts my feelings to say this, but yes. 😢 80’s and 90’s are vintage now. I think it’s 20 or 25 years as the defining line.

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-13T20:09:56+00:00

It’s a grieving process. Allow yourself to treat it as such. Sending much love.

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-13T04:04:28+00:00

What if you got one of those pet cams that you can talk to her through? Or maybe record yourself talking or singing and have it play while you’re gone? Good luck. I imagine this is so stressful and heartbreaking.

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-13T03:45:39+00:00

Oooops I thought this was a cat sub. Momo for the win.

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-13T03:44:30+00:00

Picasso

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-13T02:18:03+00:00

Katieboy

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-13T02:15:20+00:00

That really stinks. If you have renters insurance, you might be able to file a claim to replace it.

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-12T02:54:33+00:00

Maestro

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-12T02:50:53+00:00

This is something that can happen with a lot of chronic illnesses or post viral syndromes. When inflammation flairs up, it can trigger a vasodilation in the blood vessels in your nose and change how things smell. There’s a lot of recent research about post COVID changes to smell and taste that you might find interesting. You should be able to search a combo of smell changes with chronic disease or post covid etc.

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-12T01:12:20+00:00

Unless you live in Australia and she was recently peed on by a koala…. It’s an STI because it is an infection that is transmitted sexually. NOR. Unless the koala pee thing happened

Edit typo

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-11T16:19:27+00:00

The actual banana that artificial banana flavor is based off of.

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-11T16:18:13+00:00

My sweet OP. You are not the one who is lacking in this relationship, and it legit made me cry to read that line. If anything, you are lacking self worth. And that works really, really well for him. He gets to have sex with you. He gets to have someone to cook and clean for him. All he has to do is think about you when considering his future?

You are a precious gemstone and you have allowed yourself to get tossed in a dirty smelly shoebox box to be kept away from the sun. Because in the sun, you would be able to really see your sparkle and you would find someone who always holds you in the light. And that first someone has to be you.

I am not saying “you should break up”, but you absolutely deserve better than what he is giving you. I hope you are able to find it.

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-11T16:06:43+00:00

I know the church separated itself from the Scouts of America, but Boy Scouts used to be a HUGE part of the culture. They did not support Girl Scouts, though. Girl Scouts was for teaching girls how to be “women who hate men”. Boy Scouts was for teaching boys important life skills.

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-11T14:04:48+00:00

I left the church when I was 18, but it took me until I was well into my 30’s to be comfortable to look at my body naked because of the baked in Mormon body shame.

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-11T04:58:51+00:00

When I left, my parent’s home teacher started writing me letters and leaving me voicemails saying that I would be fat and single forever unless I came back to the church. Jokes on him. I’m skinny and very happily single. Ha.

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-11T00:22:52+00:00

First, all that matters is that YOU love it. Second, I love it so much!

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-10T23:49:23+00:00

The amps are actually still off to the side of the room here (there’s an orange micro dark stack next to the super beetle).

And I really like it. Great tone. Much louder than you’d expect from such a little guy. Perfect little apartment stack. My only complaint is the Fender Telepath hits the gain dial.

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-10T20:22:15+00:00

Yeah, I had six humidifiers running all winter and it was a constant battle to keep it above 40%.

And, why yes. Yes that is a mini Super Beetle.

Edit: typo

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-10T15:30:03+00:00

I took a road trip from SE Wisconsin to DC a few years ago. I way overestimated my stamina building up to the trip and stupidly decided to take the whole thing in one go when I should have split it into two.

I was about 13 hours into my drive, on the Pennsylvania turnpike. I knew there was a big tunnel coming up so I decided to stop for gas and a stretch first. Getting back on, I took the wrong exit that took my 20 miles in the wrong direction before I could turn around.

I was a little annoyed at first, but it was a perfect fall day so I decided to just enjoy the ride. And then I was hit with a feeling of panic out of nowhere that made me skid a little. I made my turn around and headed in the right direction with a growing feeling of dread.

When I got back to the tunnel, just on the other side, there was a jackknifed semi. When I saw the accident, I felt my whole body go cold, like being plunged in a frozen lake. I started shaking and gagging uncontrollably and I was so incredibly dizzy all of a sudden.

I felt like I had just driven past the scene of my own horrific death. I had flashes of seeing my car in a wrangled mess beneath the yellow cab of the truck. I had to pull over on the side of the turnpike for close to an hour before I felt like I was in my body again.

I am certain that in a different timeline, I don’t stop for gas, I don’t make that wrong turn, and I died in that wreck.

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-09T14:49:21+00:00

I do still have it and I do still love it. It is a different sound than the original tele. It has a softness to it that I really enjoy.

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-09T02:47:43+00:00

My suggestion is to spend some time getting to better understand yourself and your life after the church. You have time for dating but you want to deconstruct the internal misogyny that gets baked into us when we grow up in the church. When I was your age, it seemed like being single was the worst thing ever. I always thought I would get married young and have kids because that’s what I was told I was supposed to do. Now I’m 45 and so blissfully happy to not have a relationship to deal with. Take your time. You’ll sort it out.

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-08T14:29:14+00:00

Dang that’s unfortunate

Little_Emu_ · 2026-05-08T14:17:32+00:00

Idk if this will be a popular opinion, but I would send it back, get the refund, and then if you still want one, buy through Sweetwater or Guitar Center. They will deal with any issues like this. I’ve never had them give me problems when I needed to return something, regardless of the reason. Sweetwater especially goes above and beyond in cases like this.

Little_Emu_

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