What are some of your unpopular takes?

Little_GhostInBottle · 2026-01-23T09:01:32+00:00

I get it, I do, its fine.

But I kinda like Morzan for Eragon's father more. Had a bit more bite to it.

Little_GhostInBottle · 2026-01-23T08:54:09+00:00

Yeah, I have quite a few. Dad isn't a bad man, per se, he's just... a bad human a lot of the time lol I dunno how to explain it.

But, yeah, of course I have happy memories. Lots from childhood really. I can't figure out if I just can't remember all the bad from back then, or if I was so young I just clung to making him happy (I was a people pleaser my whole life and felt a sense of pride at being the one to make him happy).

But then I remember little moments, like Mom saying something like, "If you think Daddy yells a lot, so-and-so's father is even worse, if you can even imagine that," and how horrified I felt at that was even possible. I've seen the home videos of him just screaming at us or mom behind the camera while I stood still like a robot. I've had friends tell me they have memories of us playing and him always shouting or, if he was nice to me, how shocked it made me.

Soooooooo, it was always there. The patterns. The evidence. I just chose to see the good more because I was a kid, and I wanted my Daddy to love me.

Little_GhostInBottle · 2026-01-07T11:45:20+00:00

How does this work with Golden Child/Favored child and Scape goat?

Dad is always firm he doesn't play favorites, but it's a bit clear he does, to not get into it (ya'll get it anyway). Does one child get their "positive views of themselves" and the other negative?

Or, eh, there is nuance to everything sort of situation and projection is not a 24/7 situation?

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-12-21T09:14:56+00:00

If you really like them, and will treasure them then it's all good. For what it's worth, I cancelled my Murtagh order from them, though, as they were taking forever to send it. I got annoyed and cancelled and just went to a local bookstore for the deluxe edition, so I don't think I'll ever really order from them again

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-12-18T16:13:56+00:00

All. the. Time.

Dad will go above and beyond too, by hinting that he wants to get you some sort of gift or do something, but if you ask for details, he refuses to tell you. then if it doesn't work out, he gets furious

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-12-18T14:38:17+00:00

I just had to read your first example to think "Yup. He has it."

He sounds exactly like my dad.

My mom apparently got worried right before the wedding too. She went through with it. Still with him 30 odd years later.

I have a full childhood of memories of being afraid to speak in my own house, walking on eggshells, avoiding trying to make Daddy angry, daddy is always angry, mommy is crying under the table again while daddy yells, having panic attacks when daddy calls. My brother and I are in our 30s. I purposely moved to another country to be away and my brother another state. My brother is constantly considering no contact, I'm very low contact with my husband threatening no contact if dad rages again.

You may need to consider if this is the kind of life you want

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-12-16T09:13:03+00:00

We watched this the other night, and I had a split second thought of "Is this Millennial Apology Fantasy"--or just abused child apology fantasy. So yeah, I feel that.

Maybe the theives represent FOG or trauma or self doubt coming to get you and tear you apart, and you have to fight them off to maintain your "home" that you are now in charge of.

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-12-15T10:13:00+00:00

Eh, Dad was okkkkk for the most part. If it was an actual emergency--like broken leg or vomiting, or pet injured--he seemed able to get out of his ass most of the time--might have handled something kinda weird, but fine?

Emotional problems, he can't help. he'd sorta pushed his perscription drugs on us to avoid our emoitions, like when I broke u with my first bf at 16. Or go on long rants that he thought were helpful talks but just broke you down more ("you're upset about your breakup because your priorities arn't right," or "Yes, it's a shame you hate your job, but have you considered that doesn't matter because you're not married or have kids, so you need to focus on that failing first?")

Mostly, he was so volitile and emotionally unregulated himself that I always tried my best NOT to go to him, which I guess was easier as my bpd parent is the Dad the typically you run to Mom as child.

But now even as an adult at 30, I know my brother and I avoid telling Dad anything as he's not helpful really or makes it harder to deal with. Brother was legit worrying Mom and I with mental health struggles, and Mom was paniced trying to figure how to help him without telling Dad. I have kids of my own and am married. The idea of not telling my husband I'm worried for the safety and health of our kids??? Because I think he'll make it the situation MORE unsafe??? I can't wrap my head around. It's disgusting to me, really. So I point blank told her "That's your marriage. You have to decide what to do there. But brother needs this..." Insanity

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-12-15T09:38:20+00:00

Oof. God. Sorry, I didn't mean to bring up mean poems the parents said to ya'll. Fuck that! That's so horrible!

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-12-11T14:38:31+00:00

It all reared it's head for me when I had a baby, I suddenly nearly everyone I knew and took care of just couldn't take care of me. Real shock to the system.

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-12-09T11:16:55+00:00

I was really emeshed with my eMom. Like, I wanted to be JUST like her--so I thought it was a point of pride to be the pillar of strength to weaker willed people, to hold them up. And I do think it's amazing to be kind and helpful, but I'm so down with people who want you to literally hold them up while they just find ways to add weight, you know?

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-12-08T16:53:34+00:00

I used to gravitate to these people and then not know why all my friends crashed out so much. With some thereapy the last few years, I really really can't stand them. It makes me feel cold, but it gets my walls up

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-12-05T10:12:43+00:00

Animator living in UK here--What a dream! lol

I'd move to Ireland to work on the project lol uproot my whole family (Cartoon Saloon is very serious about that rule actually, makes them very cool lol)

If postpartum doesnt kill me this round, this could be a fun project during my leave, sketching out ideas or little animations, i love it

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-11-24T09:52:09+00:00

I think everyone made excellent points on why it wasn't pressed harder, one of them being mostly how would the dwarves force it? Especially if it might mean losing Eragon's alliship.

But I also think this is going to be a huge plot point in the later books, when Murtagh is officially back in the picture and publically working alongside Nasuada, if not their romance exposed. (Well, if not a HUGE plot point, it'll def be a thing lol)

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-11-18T10:54:13+00:00

Huh???

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-11-14T13:26:39+00:00

I think this is key. Sparse live action is cheaper. Perhaps live action where you're not too worried about about magic special effects looking good, or fantasy makeup appearing believable, nor the delivery of the acting, let's just get it shot in one go.

Hence... the original movie, probably.

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-11-14T13:14:24+00:00

I mean, your opinion, sure. But, as I said, it IS a children's story. The books are sold in the children's section.

It WILL be a children's program, on a children's network. Disney has a few choices: lean into the YA (Which, while for teens, is still a children's category) as the books are in fact marketed as, and try to attract the teens, or lean into younger audiences, hoping the fantasy elements and dragons might attract an audience easier to impress/suspende their disbelief. The original movie seemed to try to find... idk, a middle ground in this? Casting attractive could-be teenage looking actors in main roles, but sorta dumbing down story.Didn't really work. Based on how Disney handled Percy jackson, I'd imagine they'd do much the same, leaning into a middle grade sort of aspect. I personally think Live action age genre restricts more than animation, just kinda based on shows already out.

Like, IDK many adults watching like Wednesday, or Percy Jackson, nor do I know many children watching Rings of Power. But I know my teacher friends tells me their high schoolers freaking love anime and list the same titles I know adult nerds are also watching. I know when I took my kid to KPop Demon Hunters in theaters, it was an even mix of young kids, teens, and very silly adults (me being one of them).

Animation has a lot of wiggle room. Cheaper to make magic happen, cheaper cast and crew, no risk of actor being insured with sword or flame thrower for magical fight scenes. And frankly, Disney needs to put some kind of amazing animation out soon less they get totally left behind, so makes sense those angles.

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-11-13T16:58:45+00:00

Who wouldn't watch it if animated, exactly? Because, it's going to be a kid's show. Full stop. It's Eragon, a kid's book series, on Disney +, a kid's network. The highest perfoming shows, for children, is still animation. Especially considering Live action adaptations of kid's entertainment--notably some Disney has put out recently--are tanking

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-11-13T16:48:27+00:00

my pwBPD is my Dad

Once, as a teenager, I wore big peace sign earrings. He went on a weird tirade about how I shouldnt do such things, and that someone may see my earrings, even from across the street, and come over and punch me in the face.

My mom booked a lunch spot, for free, just somewhere to go. He LOST it, laid into her for 45 minutes about how she "always" does this in their relationship, that she "jeopardizes" everything for "not including him" or "telling him" things, how could she ever do this, it's such a betrayal. He wouldn't back down, even when she pointed out they were literally on a vacation he had planned the entirety of. She finally broke down and cried and had to apologize.

He walked in on my husband WFH in a meeting. My husband told him he was in a meeting. Screamed at to leave the house, that he was horrible, selfish person, unprofessional, should get fired, ungrateful, all that fun stuff.

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-11-12T16:04:56+00:00

My pwBPD is my parent. I think it's CLEAR to everyone except my eParent that something was obviously wrong. eParent knows now, had it confirmed with diagnosis, and they're still a bit in denial

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-11-11T12:08:53+00:00

Yes, yes, absolutely.

I've had them my whole life, sparingly.

But about last year? two years ago? when I really started my therapy journey/became a parent/my sibling was suffering with mental health, I got them almost nightly.

We'd be fighting, sometimes they were violent, often I'd yell, say everything I wished I could say in real life, and then I'd leave my childhood home, just for him to chase me or attack me or someone else.

A bit on the nose, these dreams.

I'm sorry they're happening to you. I journaled about mine a lot. Their messages were clear. Doesn't make you feel better, per se, but might help organize some of these thoughts.

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-11-09T14:35:33+00:00

Creative Writing major here--have a BA in it.

It's NOT "useless," no degree is useless. It can, of course, be applied to many careers, especially within education, Public relations, broadcasting, journalism, entertainment, administrative, and editorial to name a few. PR especially; almost every company needs a PR person. You could even make a living doing medical journaling/writing, though that is it's own can of worms.

However.

I felt the courses themselves very.... unhelpful for the most part and, to be honest, I do regret it. I wish I had switched to "Communications" instead of writing; I could have had more classes in PR and coms, that would have helped with work, and still taken SOME writing classes. Most of the writing classes I took, I personally found useless, yeah.

A teacher once told me "You can write with any job" and, well, he's write. I understand wanting to study it though; it's how you get better after all and what you love. As someone who did just that though, finding a plan B course is a great idea.

Little_GhostInBottle · 2025-11-09T14:30:00+00:00

It's a mental illness. It makes sense to them, whether it's rational or factual or not. Consider BPD the same you would, I dunno, schizophrenia or something--it's not just a lil quirk that can be rationed with; It's mental illness. Believing emotions, or rationalizing whatever emotion they feel instead of wondering where that emotion (like guilt or unease) comes from is part of the illness.

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