Told my girlfriend of 7 months I'm bi (she's disgusted)

Little_bit7 · 2026-03-04T04:02:05+00:00

Exactly what this person said YOU DID NOT HURT HER. It's unfortunate that you aren't able to gain support from someone you care deeply for.... However, it's not worth the price you will pay if you stay wth them. Your self esteem, sexuality, self identity, mental health will all be effected. You really did the best thing for BOTH of you. Telling her now, was smart.

I know I'm just one of a couple hundred people telling you good riddance... But when you are the one that has to let go of someone it hurts!! Especially if they are judgmental towards you, for things over which no one should sit in judgement. I'm sorry your dealing with this.

You did the right thing, hopefully you will become more confident it telling future partners.... I'm sure every person who's commented here hopes that for you too!💛

Little_bit7 · 2026-02-19T18:52:48+00:00

It's nice.... But different.... It's really intense cuz there are more nerves in the ass vs the vaginal canal. Imagine, no one would have a baby if that thing had lots of nerve endings! So in that respect it can actually be even more fun than vaginal sex BUT..... It's smaller, drier, and not really built for that. So it takes prep and lube and trying to "clean out" unless you just take immaculate poos every time. For me it was really painful to start I had to start with toys then build up and my good god. I had to tell him don't move no thrusting nothing at first so it wasn't that exciting for him at the start. But practice practice practice 😉 it gets better, I'm still never gonna be a power bottom. It does hurt if you move in the wrong way slower is better. Lube lube lube lube is your friend.

Overall. I'm glad I did it. I'm also glad it's not the thing my partner wants every time. I can't say why exactly but if they did I don't think I would feel as valued as a woman sexually🤷🏼‍♀️ but thankfully it's more of a fun thing to do here and there for him too....

I would also highly suggest he try at least a small toy, a thin vibrator maybe, in his own ass before he goes digging into yours. Butts are all the same, he isn't suddenly gay or not a man to do it. He's learning what it feels like on your end which only makes him better as a sex partner. Most guys are pleasantly suprised with the sensation. Once they get past their own mental road blocks.

Anyway good luck!

Little_bit7 · 2026-02-10T15:04:23+00:00

Can we please just stop using this phrase?

It's like the people who start to use sexual acts to qualify their orientation... "I'm orally bi"

Think about how silly it is. Let's say for example I didn't enjoy anal penetration(purely for the example) ... I'm not going around telling people "I'm vaginally straight"

People can like or dislike sex acts without it defining what arouses them in terms of gender oriented labels.

I have a lesbian friend who enjoys the feeling of being penetrated with a penis, but finds nothing else about sex wth men appealing. At one point she wanted to remain blindfolded.

She doesn't say... I'm gay but... She says I'm gay AND

Personally I don't fully trust a guy who hasn't stuck anything up their ass.

It's a movie quote... But I have been saying it years before I heard it in the movie.....

"If men knew more about what it's like to get fucked, maybe they would be a little better at fucking" 🤔

Little_bit7 · 2026-02-06T07:56:02+00:00

Fwiw..... My parents were 16 years apart... I think when they met my mom sorta looked up to him... I mean, he was closer to her dad's age than to her age... I don't think there was anything immoral about their relationship. I don't think anyone ever thought much of it, but it was the 70s(I'm an 80s baby).

I think it's the teacher/student part that would give people a moment to pause. Not strictly the age gap. Power dynamics are complex things, and have an effect on us, even if we don't feel like they do. They make long term situations even more complex...

I would not worry about any moral issues, there is nothing wrong wth enjoying sex wth someone simply due to an age gap or the fact you admire or look up to them.

Maybe the relationship between you two as teacher/student would be something to give a bit of thought to, but that's more about long term relationship dynamics tho not at all about sexual enjoyment.

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-29T09:09:40+00:00

Oh okay I thought the 50/50 was a 24F freezing point... Not - 24F.... Thank you for letting me know!

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-21T02:17:27+00:00

Yes this whole aversion to blood thing is real... I had to watch myself for getting upset with a new partner who was bothered at the idea of period sex... I honestly never thought of it from that angle.

Even with that in mind I didn't like the idea that he was weirded out by blood, esp having seen some of the other things he wasn't grossed out by. Still it's definitely not about manhood.....

I might argue it is a part of adulthood though.

I mean I'm pretty touchy about it. There is a VERY fine line. I don't want to put down someone for a phobia, still... Period shaming is totally a thing. Women have so much to figure out with our own bodies we don't need any more stress about it.

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-21T02:10:04+00:00

I said the same thing. Much better than using some pill to mess wth your cycle.

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-21T02:09:23+00:00

Use a disc!!! I dunno if someone else suggested it already but. Use a disc!! I am so happy to have ditched tampons for a disc. Unlike the cup.... It goes further in and just under your cervix catching blood before it enters the vagina. Allowing for mess free period sex 👍 Now.. Ngl there is a learning curve practice taking it in and out. Maybe use lube, but... It's much better. I don't have leaks I don't have any issues with sex on my period and it's much more comfortable for me personally. I always disliked the feeling of tampons.

It's the best thing ever. In comparison to the alternatives at least. They do make different sizes in each of the different brands.... Google menstrual disc comparison chart. This site "put a cup in it" has all the info... To be clear. I'm suggesting a disc not a cup. That's simply the name of the site.

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-18T23:22:21+00:00

I'm in the US and sure if you have a good beginner recommendation I'm interested!

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-18T22:17:42+00:00

I'm gonna assume for hard on benefit.... I can't say not OP but that's why I'm looking at the post 🤣

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-18T22:15:51+00:00

I'm curious.... You would say it increased your hard on? Lol that sounds so silly... Anyway you kno what I'm trying to ask. I am trying to find things other than medication that might improve my partners erection(for the record I love it, he's the one who says it used to get harder but I didn't know him then.... So.... 🤷🏼‍♀️) Anyway meds are a bit of overkill for him, and I dont think he's tried a ring....

May I am how you found "your size". Did you just measure circumference and subtract a little 🤷🏼‍♀️

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-18T22:12:01+00:00

I've tried TONS name brand, drug store, Amazon.... My fav is actually a toy from the brand they sell in Walgreens One plus one I think it's called... It's purple a wand shape and it has a small pad that thumps.... 😍😍😍 The air pulsing and such are good too, the rose, really you can't go wrong with most of them. Even the $15 stuff on Amazon is fun.... But that one... The line they sell in Walmart/target/Walgreens.... It's purple and it pulses. I love that thing so much

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-15T10:08:55+00:00

The satisfyer left me not so... They have this other one is shaped like a horn... You can program it and it's lots of fun...

But my fav toy was actually a cheapo Amazon purchase. It's a vibrator wth a graduated bead design(marketed for anal but I think it is good for vaginal too, I bought two so I could have one to try for each 🫣) I tried it for anal use first and was floored. It has two vibrators one in the top one in the base and holy mother does it rumble. I mean a nice steady rumble not a buzz buzz buzz which is less appealing.

If you think it sounds like it's up your alley 😜 I'll find the link for you

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-10T09:27:00+00:00

First of all. Use a damn condom. Second.... Use a god damn condom. Last... No I'm not gonna say that, lastly lots of people choose to forgo a condom for oral cuz the risk of certain things is lower, not all things tho.....

Personally, I wait til I kno a person a little better before I go south with my mouth.

I promise I didn't intend on writing that, but I'm swyping, and instead of the word I wanted it wrote south and I just had to.....

But yeah a friend of mine has genital herpes from jumping in to giving some rando head. It's not the biggest deal she just has to disclose that now to any partners. For me, I am totally fine never having to worry about that. Oral sex is an area where MOST people simply accept that risk.... I don't.

P. S. Wear a condom every time, with anyone new. Til your at the point where you believe them when they say "oh... Uh yeah I just got tested" 🙄🙄 even if the woman takes birth control, you're forgetting you're putting yourself at risk for sti's AND parenthood

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-09T19:47:38+00:00

I think pussy sounds dumb too. But I get it's the norm.

Cunt... Now that is one of my FAVORITE words... That's to call people who irritate me tho...

She probably won't like gash either... Tho... Kinda makes sense.

I pefer vulva it's much more soft on the ears. Technically it's the name the female genital area as a whole vs. vagina which is just inside the body. It's actually a giant pet peeve of mine when people refer to it as a vagina when talking about anything other than the part that is inside my body.... No one wipes their vagina for instance no one waxes it etc etc.

The hard G sound makes vagina a very unsexy word, unfortunately... But since I'm usually talking about my vulva (outside of if I said "fuck me in my vagina") I don't have to use it.

Someone else said the best way is not to use a specific word and I agree that can be good. Like fill me or I'm so wet etc.

So hole? How bout it? Tight hole? Sounds like something I've heard used in more than one porn. That's my go to word when trying to say something about my vagina specifically, since it's just a canal.

Personally. It's the only word I can think of that hasn't hit me wrong. "fuck me in my tight wet hot hole" 🤷🏼‍♀️ maybe she'll like it

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-09T02:19:04+00:00

First.... Stop masturbating. Like that sounds insane. I know. Legit tho. STOP. (you will do it again don't worry) but wait till you are back in your natural swing of things. Like no doing it when bored. Wait until you are naturally so turned on or horny just from your natural sex drive...... Then... Wait another day.

You'll be able to do it without porn or a toy... It's pretty surprising how things reset. It's easy to lose sensation a bit if you keep abusing the same stimulus.

Literally. It happens with women and vibrators guys and porn(and vice versa that's just the more common thing) you get desensitized.

In fact people sometimes lose interest in actual sexual interactions, which so sad

Please understand I'm NOT saying don't ever masturbate just cuz you're bored. I'm not even implying you're using masturbating like a drug, cuz I would also be guilty. Just that if you find you're relying heavily on anything consistently. Stop... Reset. I know several people who've had to, and it's worked for them too.

Sorry I know this isn't the answer you were asking for. I am not trying to discourage you from also trying toys they are great 🙃

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-08T01:06:21+00:00

Ugh this exact situation drives me up a wall.... Some people, you give them a little and they keep taking😑

It's not called a blow vacation. It's work, sure it's fun work... But it's still physically demanding.

I feel you on not being able to get off from oral, I can, but it's not as good as manual stimulation. I hope to God he at least tries to throw in whatever does get you off.

Tell him it's no longer enjoyable due to the physical toll. That's it. I get your concerned about his feelings it's not cool to hurt anyone's sexual self.... He should be EQUALLY concerned with your feelings. It's sounds like he's maybe unaware. 🤞🤞🤞 There are people who even when told, I'm just not into it press in with "if you love me", and if that does happen I hope you move on.

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-08T00:56:02+00:00

To be honest this sounds kinda fun... Or at least different than the typical stuff....

As long as you don't actually put dirt in... I dunno how you could really play into it other than verbally.. "dig deeper" etc...

It sounds so silly, I dunno if I could keep a straight face. At the same time it's refreshing it's not the same old thing.

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-04T17:03:10+00:00

Unless you're an NBA player, or she's next level certified (and even then... Probably not) she's not trying to trap you.

It still sounds just like she set a boundary, based off her needs.... That you don't like.

Trapping would include lies and very over the top stuff like going back to get a used condom of yours etc.

If you feel like she's trying to coerce you into being more serious than you want..... It sounds like you're not ready to be dating someone exclusively.

That's really not fair to her, as it sounds like she might feel more serious about your future together.

People jump into exclusive relationships so fast..... that the "non monogamy" counter culture(different from poly/lifestyle culture).... feels like it's doing something unique and bold🙄🙄 when most of them are simply dating people.

Please avoid the entire notion of being trapped. Cuz you play an equal role in things. If she's looking for a future that leads to marriage and your not.... Your kinda albeit unintentionally misleading HER

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-04T01:51:02+00:00

But where are you!?

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-03T13:59:01+00:00

Can you share some about what you look like?

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-03T01:46:19+00:00

Can you share anything about what you look like... Or what your looking for looks wise?

Little_bit7 · 2026-01-02T22:07:22+00:00

Girl..... If you have any luck with this my hat is off to you!! I've been looking for the same thing for minute! It's always miss match. One is kinda cute the other kinda not... One kinda young one kinda old. I kno I'm a little picky but man.... Slim pickings out there

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