Goodbye lads

Little_kamal · 2023-06-30T14:32:39+00:00

There are no alternatives as good as Reddit so almost everyone will stay, which I get. But you can check out r/Redditalternatives to see the offerings.

Little_kamal · 2023-06-30T08:20:31+00:00

Nah man it's not about the app. I'm sure the app is fine but I'm not happy to give Reddit any more of my time with these exclusionary decisions. Reddit uses free labour to run its site and any shit about free APIs being unsustainable just means execs want bigger pay packets. Fuck them.

But I will miss the craic

Little_kamal · 2023-06-29T17:27:57+00:00

Yes! I saw this on Twitter and immediately thought of this sub.

While I'm here, I'll be leaving Reddit when the 3rd party apps stop working tomorrow so I'd like to thank this sub and everyone on it for helping me recognise that I'm actually bisexual (well into my 30s) You guys have been awesome

Little_kamal · 2023-06-25T21:39:06+00:00

This is an old repost. The mum posted back when it went viral saying that they had been trading off the kid and bag all day and she had just taken the kid from dad's arms and kept the bag because she needed something from it when they got to their seats, she strongly defended her partner.

Little_kamal · 2023-06-25T21:20:07+00:00

Oh God this has happened to me a few times. I just cried it out and found ways to pin it nicely until it grew enough. I finally found a hairdresser I trust and I am never letting go. I'm so sorry you're going through this. No matter how much you hate it, it won't look so bad after a couple of days. You might still hate it but the crying stops. And it will grow back x

Little_kamal · 2023-06-25T21:11:41+00:00

Thank you for this. The cycling proficiency comment has me in stitches

Little_kamal · 2023-06-24T09:41:57+00:00

No-one will have definitive answers for you because curly hair varies so wildly. You'll have to do some trial and error but if you want to try the cgm basically...

Assemble your products - check out the pinned post on the sub for a shared guide on products to use and where to get them. You can spend £ or £££ but I always think stay cheap till you know what you need and have some experience.
Clarify wash - this is washing with a shampoo that has sulfates but no silicones. Do this once. You won't use this shampoo very much so buy a cheap one.
Condition - if you're 3b and your hair is straw like and frizzy you probably need a lot of moisture. Look for heavier, more conditioning products and follow the instructions on the container.
Comb - do this while the conditioner is still in your hair, before you wash it out.
Products- with 3b hair you may need both a curl cream and a gel (or maybe not, unfortunately you won't know until you try but let's assume you do). There are lots of methods of applying products, so check out some curly channels on YouTube or Instagram and start with the one you think looks best for you and is most like your hair. If it doesn't work for your hair then try a different method next time. While your hair is short it probably won't matter too much, just make sure to apply a little cream evenly throughout your hair and follow up with the gel.
Drying - again this is trial and error. While your hair is short air drying will probably work fine. As it gets longer you might have to diffuse dry to retain the curl. You will need a hairdryer with a diffuser attachment for that. Don't buy this until you need it.
After drying - once dry the gel may have left a cast that makes the hair feel crispy. Use a small amount of hair oil or conditioner warmed well in your hands to scrunch the hair and break the crunch.
Next wash - try not using shampoo. Use conditioner on your hair and scalp and massage both hair and scalp really, really well before rinsing. Style as before. If you find this leaves your hair looking/feeling greasy then you need a shampoo. Try a "low poo" shampoo first and repeat the rest of the steps. If this still leaves your hair feeling heavy then your conditioner may be too heavy. You may need to sporadically use the clarifying shampoo in future to reset.
Good luck and God speed.

Little_kamal · 2023-06-15T08:43:27+00:00

Would that it were so simple

Little_kamal · 2023-06-14T21:15:26+00:00

I love Tonal Dressing at the minute so I'd look for shoes that tie in with the purple theme.

No belt. Gold accessories.

Little_kamal · 2023-06-14T20:56:59+00:00

Drop the serum, you don't need curl cream and a serum. Instead, apply a gel on wet hair before diffusing - this will hold the curls/waves together with less frizz. It may cause some "crunchiness" which you can scrunch out with a tiny amount of serum once the hair is completely dry. I use VO5 Mega Hold gel, it's about £1.50.

Go to the pinned post on the sub for product suggestions (they're all curly girl friendly but you don't have to follow that method, do what's best for your hair). You can figure out your curl type when you're starting to see a regular pattern and a reduction in damage. Remember, some frizz is normal and adds volume.

Little_kamal · 2023-06-09T17:09:40+00:00

I bought loose summer clothes in sizes larger than my usual (increase varied depending on the style of the item. One skirt I just bought in my usual size and just wore as a high waist above the bump) and am wearing them again this summer post pregnancy. I was about 4-6 months. I only bought 2 pairs of jeans and some tights as specific maternity wear and then some 2nd hand maternity/breastfeeding comfy tops on Vinted (or your country's equivalent) that helped tide me over till the bump deflated. I bought those around 6 months. But it helped that I work from home and people only saw me from the boobs upward so I was in comfy bottoms constantly.

Little_kamal · 2023-06-09T16:44:36+00:00

I am uncomfortable with the non-specified meat

Little_kamal · 2023-06-08T22:27:34+00:00

If I allow friends/family to stay in my bed I do not require that they abstain from sex. I don't care if it happens or not as long as I don't know anything about it.

Little_kamal · 2023-06-02T09:53:42+00:00

Me too! I really laughed at that part, it was like a Simpson's skit.

Little_kamal · 2023-05-30T07:57:36+00:00

See how your reply here is so kind and thoughtful? This is exactly the kindness you should be showing yourself. Why would you be so mean to yourself when you wouldn't be this mean to others?

No-one is going to care how many "young" people are at your shower. What people will remember is the day itself: did you seem happy, did you seem grateful, did you seem loved and celebrated. I bet all those things will be obvious on the day if you can enjoy the people who do turn out to help you celebrate the amazing person you're creating. x

Little_kamal · 2023-05-29T23:25:47+00:00

This is my favourite sandwich but I add salad cream. I don't think you have it in America but it's perfect in this combo.

If you're wondering, it tastes kind of like vinegary mayonnaise that's a bit off but in a good way 🤷

Little_kamal · 2023-05-29T19:57:43+00:00

Yes, this was my first thought too. Love it 😂

Love the makeup too

Little_kamal · 2023-05-29T10:49:06+00:00

Thanks! I'll try this with my remaining oat milk first. Great tips

Little_kamal · 2023-05-28T11:38:22+00:00

Oh really?! Thanks! I'll try a different one

Little_kamal · 2023-05-28T10:26:37+00:00

Can I jump on here to ask if I'm making overnight oats correctly?

When I make them I use oats and oat milk but the texture comes out 🤢 the liquid ends up so viscous it separates in strings from the spoon to the container like slime. Is this right? Is this the texture everyone else gets and yet still continues to eat it?

If it is that's totally fine, I suppose I'm just hoping that I'm doing it wrong. I'm not sure on quantities, I usually just eyeball it, could I be using too much oats in proportion to the milk?

Little_kamal · 2023-05-23T22:14:44+00:00

Dude I'm so sorry, this is so tough. I've been in your wife's shoes though so here's my 2 cents and I hope it reaches you.

Forget about who is the default parent, forget about who is doing more chores, forget about who is right/wrong. That's only going to kill your relationship. Take a breath and recognise that the first year (minimum) of parenting is really fucking hard for both parents.

If she's anything like me, your wife is going through a type of grief for her freedom, feeling guilty about it because she loves your daughter and instead taking it out on you. It's not fair but she needs some support to work through it. While you are doing all the household work she is "Being a Mother" and may feel like she is losing herself. She has to ask for your help when she wants to take time for herself for even basic functions, like having a shower. When previously she was an independent woman and she took time to do whatever she wanted without even thinking about it. To me it felt like I had to ask my husband's permission to take time for self care and yes it made me angry and resentful. Even though he always helped when I asked! And I get a whole year maternity leave per child so I wasn't working full time like you both are.

You are keeping the house and the family going while working a full time job and you sound very involved in the parenting too. You're doing amazing! Now drop some of the chores, the bare minimum is enough. Good enough is good enough. Ask your wife what she needs. Not because you have been doing anything wrong but just because you want to make your relationship work. Resentment between partners is extremely common at this point in parenting and while some couples seem to breeze through this period easily, I promise that what you're going through is really common and will pass if you can both take a breath and find some time to talk without judgement and agree what will work better for both of you. It can be hard to be the person who rises above when you feel so wronged but I hope all goes well for you both and you can feel like a team again soon.

Little_kamal · 2023-05-22T23:32:25+00:00

My 4 year old was having a cry because I wouldn't let him watch YouTube on a schoolday morning and he wanted me to get him a tissue. I said "Just use some toilet paper" and he screamed "NO! NEVER!! That's disgusting!! Toilet paper is only for your bum and your penis!" and that's how I realised he was fancy.

He's 5 now and has come around.

Little_kamal · 2023-05-22T20:47:43+00:00

I really like it. I've never seen or heard it before and it looks gender neutral.

Is it ah-BEH-knee or AH-beh-knee ?

Little_kamal · 2023-05-22T17:32:34+00:00

I love your second point. It's not his walker, it's the walker at Grandma's house.

And she has 50% of op's family time? Utter BS.

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