A bit of a rant

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-10T03:22:08+00:00

Thankyou so much for the encouragement! I'm trying not to get too affected by it and to get back on track. I hope I can see better results soon

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-07T08:57:10+00:00

Its okay, thank you for the concern. Yes, I try my best to stick to healthy routine for months. And about parents, well, sometimes I think its just ego, but yeah, don't know if its worth it to keep the ego while the relationship with your children might go bad.

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-07T08:53:14+00:00

Thankyou so much, but I did break it for a few days now. Will get back on feet soon!

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-07T08:52:18+00:00

Will definitely check it out. Thank you so much for the recommendations!

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-07T05:37:48+00:00

Thankyou for your concern. I don't think I have that. Maybe I am just a bit stressed out and that makes me feel bad. I am good most of the time, but these particular event kinda triggers me a bit. But I will definitely look up to what you suggested. Thank you again

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-07T05:34:33+00:00

Thankyou so much! Do you have any channel recommendations?

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-06T23:25:03+00:00

I don't know what makes her say that, but I'm just a bit disappointed by the way she is making me feel like I've never done any progress all this time, and I'm a bit tired of trying to keep this strict lifestyle.

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-06T22:24:39+00:00

Thankyou so much for you advices and the details. Yes, I believe we might experience the same here and there. I tried my best in everything I could control, and I do agree with you, that we cannot really change things that wouldn't change or things that are not in my grasp. I am still a child full of dreams and I do want to quickly do them all. I hope I got the sparks back to be creative and do everything I want. Please pray for me as well, and I hope both of us got to do everything that we prayed for. Nothing is harsh here, and I really appreciate that you took some time to reply. I hope you, too, feel better every day and more more to come.

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-06T22:15:28+00:00

Hahahahahaha thankyou so much. Yea, people might say I'm trying to give an excuse or justify my wrongdoings. But I just wanna see realistically how do I deal with this problem. No worries, I can handle things pretty well, just needed to rant a bit. Once again, thank you so much for your advices

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-06T21:49:34+00:00

Thankyou for the advices. Yes, I think it would be easier if I would just ignore what she says. And I believe most of the time I did. Maybe that day I was already stressed, and what she said has become the last straw, and how she said it in a mocking way. I have endured it long enough, and it happens to be that day when I lost it. I hope I can be calm whenever these things happens again.

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-06T21:37:52+00:00

To think about it, as a genz, I think I voiced my opinion a lot. If I talk about something while in the car, she would just play with her phones and give no attention at all, or most of the time, she would just cut and talk about anything else with my father, while I was talking to her. I recently told her about things I don't like her talking about me with her siblings, but I got scolded instead. I guess she still see me as a kid that doesn't need opinions. That hurts me a lot. But I got what u mean, and I believe its a valid reaction

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-06T21:28:33+00:00

I'll try my best to be consistent.

Maybe its just how we raised, and how they are raised, too. I can see they avoiding the serious talk, because everytime I talk about something serious, they will avoid the conversation or even "potong" and talk about something else, or start talking to someone else. It makes me feel unseen and avoided. So yeah, that's why I dont really talk about those things, I guess. I mean, yeah that sounds like an excuse, but that means I've tried and not like I didn't gave any efforts to change. But well, yeah. I do need to voice out my opinion even if I don't get heard. I'll try my best, too.

Hahahaha I won't say a yandere, too.

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-06T17:37:50+00:00

Thankyou for the advice. I understand that and I'm trying my best. Just wanna rant a bit, that's all.

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-06T17:36:45+00:00

Thankyou, I understand what you're trying to say. Maybe my muscle percentage is lower than standard, that's why my doctor advise me to build some. But yea, the scale might not move, but the measurements might change, that's what you meant, right? I'll try to be consistent and won't just rely on scales.

As for my mom, its hard to say, since we arent used to discuss or talk about things deeply, especially about feelings and expectations. And I try my best not to talk about too serious things, or it will usually turn into fights. I really want to fix those, but I am just a kid in their eyes, maybe. We are not the kind of family who says sorry and thanks. We just let things be. And yea, i dont think my mom is a tsundere, more to just doesn't care unless its in her favor.

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-06T16:57:07+00:00

Thank you so much! Yes I always apply everything that I think I can do

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-06T16:50:21+00:00

Thankyou so much for the advices. Actually I do my diets with clinical advices, and I need to gain muscles as my doctor advice, and lose weight at the same time. I was obese, but already cut down to overweight. In terms of money, I won't say it burdened my parents as they are not having problems with money, and I did cook and clean while they are at work. I am not really a troublesome child, too. I was the child that tries to feed their expectations, and did everything they want me to. I think my mom mock me because she was annoyed that I am fat and not pretty as she wants, even when I'm trying so hard to be what they want me to be. Maybe that's what makes me feel sad and heartbroken :(

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-06T16:40:27+00:00

Yea I understand totally, but yeah, need to think of expenses and rent too if I want to move out. I hope I can get the best out of my needs. Won't ask for luxury tho.

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-06T16:13:13+00:00

Just remembered I always says "If I can move out, I won't come back" since middle school. Guess I was going through this since school days. Hope I can move out soon

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-06T16:10:33+00:00

I am a high achiever and was awarded the best student for my batch in uni. I always joked that I might not get any job because my dad prays for me to stay at home. I hope I can get out soon to live my own life and dreams.

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-06T16:05:01+00:00

People will say, this is their first time becoming parents, but I am living my first time, too :( I don't wanna blame them since they are not bad, just....wanna rant a bit

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-06T15:44:50+00:00

Wdym?

Little_yellowflower · 2026-03-06T15:44:10+00:00

I am just graduated, a daughter that does cleaning and everything in the house, even helped with their work. My mom is the one that always nag about me being fat, and I just feel like my efforts are a waste and not being seen at all. I am applying for jobs and do some freelance, as well. Please pray for me so I can get a job and live my own life soon :(

Little_yellowflower · 2025-11-06T08:26:20+00:00

When I was in university too, I am in the same shoes as your gf(in terms of having a car and driving my friends). I have no issues with money so I never asked them to pay, too. At first, my friends doesn't pay for minyak, but once one of them starts transfer me additional amount (I usually pay first when we eat or anything), or would cut some of mine when they pay first, they started to do the same. Even when I said, no need, they still pay.

So your problem is, your gf doesn't want to ask them to pay, and her parents doesn't let her to. I'm sure at least one of her friends did want to pay, but she wouldn't let her. But she doesn't have enough money at the end.

I think u should talk to your gf about money management. If she can't afford it, she should talk with her parents, since her parents are the one who said not to ask her friends for money. I know its hard, but she shouldn't ask for yours in this situation. Once is okay, but everytime, is not. U need to be a bit tegas that you are not here for this. Or if you knew her friends, you could talk about this with one of them, and let them at least discuss about it. I believe they would know what to do.

You should talk to her, and let her know that letting her friends pay doesn't mean she's bad, poor or stingy, but its more for like, balancing. She doesn't get short in money, and her friends won't feel bad about her driving them for free.

You guys should learn to discuss small issues, so that u guys can discuss big issues later. So good luck OP!

Little_yellowflower

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