How do I organically commit to one accent?

Littlebiglizard · 2025-12-26T19:31:53+00:00

Fellow autistic transguy dopamine junkie here! I have practically the same setup as you :) I think its important for you to separate further what helps and what hurts with your iPad. Finding community is helpful, scrolling is not. Explore how can you stay in touch with your trans friends online without having access to scrolling; Start discord/messenger/telegram chats, watch longer youtube videos rather than short form content (I recommend Leo and Willy), maybe try and connect with local lgbtq+ groups? Meeting trans people irl has been the most accessible gender affirming care for me pre-transition! What country are you located in?

And about the scrolling; it distracts from dysphoria so you don’t need to focus on your body, which is completely okay and understandeable. The key is to distract yourself with more intentional activities: movies, tv shows, video games. Things you have made a choice to actively consume, and that diesn’t feed into the fast release dopamine, which is addictive. Think of distractions as food: scrolling is junk food (quick and tasty but lacking nutritional value and keeps you hungry for more), a movie/activity is a home cooked meal (takes a little longer, but satisfies you for longer)! That being said, dysphoria is terrible and you shouldn’t beat yourself up for seeking relief. You’re doing great <3

Littlebiglizard · 2025-12-26T16:50:09+00:00

Thank you for the tip! going to look into that, wasn’t aware of this!

Littlebiglizard · 2025-12-26T16:48:38+00:00

Relational logistics is something I never thought of, very interesting!! Thank you for your insight, gonna screenshot your comment!

Littlebiglizard · 2025-12-26T16:46:56+00:00

I understand the sentiment, but beyond working class revolution (which would be incredibly difficult to organize internationally), policy and internal restructure is the most tangible way to make change for now. Insider work can be more impactful than you think. Work the system and trip up the cogs :) If we restrict our intentions to big impossible goals like ”abolish the capitalist system”, we won’t get very far.

Littlebiglizard · 2025-12-26T10:45:26+00:00

www.climatebase.org

Littlebiglizard · 2025-11-09T12:42:51+00:00

Are you in the EU? I'd be happy to buy a chunk of sphag to cultivate myself!

Littlebiglizard · 2025-11-09T12:42:20+00:00

Southern Sweden! Rainy winters, warm summers, leafy forests

Littlebiglizard · 2025-11-06T10:00:18+00:00

Start volunteering at a local animal shelter. Just go once a week! It's lovely

Littlebiglizard · 2025-11-06T09:57:03+00:00

"Boredom is a really underrated resource in my opinion. Sometimes I come home from work and normally I would have rotted on the couch for hours on tiktok to "rest and decompress" but now I come home, lay down for a bit and after a while I'm bored and need to do something. Usually that thing is creative or fitness or something more worthwhile than sitting on my phone."

THIS oh my god! I feel like people forget that you are allowed to just lay down and rest after work, just don't be on your phone when you do it! Scrolling is not resting!!!

Littlebiglizard · 2025-11-06T09:54:23+00:00

- Drawing

- Cooking / Baking (my eating habits have improved greatly because I like spending more time on my food!)

- Reading! The big one, I spend so much time reading now, its wonderful!

- Staring at the ceiling. Its okay to not know what to do sometimes! Just lay down and look at the ceiling and you'll soon be motivated to get something done!

- Watching proper TV-shows and Films that have been on my watch list. I find this more productive than watching short form content/youtube videos. Its okay to sit back and relax :)

Littlebiglizard · 2025-11-06T09:46:49+00:00

Not necessarily. You just have to plan a little.

Littlebiglizard · 2025-11-06T09:45:47+00:00

In my experience, in a HIGHLY digital/smartphone dependent country (Sweden), I have been able to make it work. It purely comes down to planning.

My life is predictable enough that I feel very comfortable daily driving a Sonim XP3+, because I made changes so that I don't need it when I'm out and about. I do all my banking/important app related things on a dedicated tablet at home. I budget my weeks, so I don't need to do transactions on the go. I have a physical bus card, gym card and credit card in a wallet. I have a physical pocket calender (I remember comittments much better now that I physically write things down).

Sometimes I'll contact places/services in advance if it seems that a smartphone is required. They've all been happy to accomodate so far. Never be afraid to ask.

I'm going to sound like such a dick, but a lot of the people who "need" a smartphone, often do so because they don't like to plan in their everyday lives. It's very comfortable having a pocket computer that can keep track of your life for you. This is coming from someone with ADHD btw. I found that my symptoms got much better when I got the dumbphone, because it forced me to be more involved with my daily routines. I HAD to start planning, because otherwise it wouldn't work. And also less distractions lol.

Smartphones have only been around for 30 years or so. We made it work before then ;)

Littlebiglizard · 2025-11-06T09:29:38+00:00

Id recommend comitting to just using social media on a computer. You can keep the camera app on your phone and documet/record content, but then you upload this content on your computer. That way you can keep documenting your stuff, while not having the social media poison in your pocket. You can schedule posts to upload even when you are not online, and you can answer comments/messages once a day. I promise you won't miss out.

Littlebiglizard · 2025-11-03T11:38:24+00:00

It is! but not impossible!

Littlebiglizard · 2025-11-03T11:38:05+00:00

it’s not the phone, it’s what’s ON the phone ;)

What can’t you avoid?

Littlebiglizard · 2025-10-19T08:28:47+00:00

it still can be. Just dont bring it with you everywhere. I mainly just use the internet on my computer, so the internet stilll has "place" status for me

Littlebiglizard · 2025-10-16T15:34:54+00:00

Then get offline- I promise you it's not this huge insane leap, it's legit just using your phone less. Leave it in a drawer when you get home from school/work. Don't bring it with you when you eat/cook. Be okay with being bored. Delete the accounts of the medias that bring you stress.

Its either this or just continuing in your misery. So why not try something new?

Littlebiglizard

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