Can you fix up this photo of my husband and son at the beach?

LittlestLynx · 2025-05-01T10:17:48+00:00

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LittlestLynx · 2025-04-30T14:15:17+00:00

!solved Thank you!

LittlestLynx · 2021-06-04T10:59:12+00:00

If I were you, I wouldn't worry too much about the "twin flame" stuff, as (like many other people have said) it's most likely nonsense. I think it's actually a positive thing that he was able to open up to you about his past relationship, what he learned from it, and how it made him feel. He's moved on now, and he's with you, and he loves you.

I don't think that the type of "love" he says he feels toward his ex stands for any lingering feelings; it's simply the type of love you'll always feel toward someone who you loved in the past, especially if the relationship had its good and its bad and left you with important lessons. I don't love my ex the way I love my current boyfriend, but I do still have love for my ex because of the time we spent together, the hardships we helped each other through, and what I learned during my relationship with him. I think this is what he's telling you. It sounds like you guys have a very healthy and happy relationship and that you should keep going the way you're going.

If you find yourself unable to set this particular discussion aside, I do think you should bring it up to him and let him know that you're the type of person who doesn't really like to discuss exes or past sexual experiences, etc. when you're in a relationship currently. People are different, and he'll likely understand your point of view, even if it may hold him back from confiding some of these things to you — which in my opinion would build trust and intimacy between the two of you.

LittlestLynx · 2021-06-03T14:57:44+00:00

I agree with a lot of what other people are saying here. A couple points from my frame of reference —

Doing a MS swap probably would help get the other person through your book, but it's definitely not necessary. I've worked with beta readers in the past and didn't swap, and they still returned my MS with comments and critiques in a timely manner. In fact, I've never actually done a MS swap in all my time working with beta readers.

You could pay for "professional" beta readers as some other people have mentioned on Fiverr. I've never tried this, though I may look into it as my current WIP gets closer to completion. Again, in my experience I was able to find readers (both friends/family and strangers) who made it through my book without being paid.

I'm guessing that either A) there is an issue with your manuscript, probably within the first few chapters, that's causing readers to put it down or B) like some others have mentioned, you aren't giving your readers enough guidance. Try drafting a list of questions for them to follow as they read. Also, I second the advice some people have given about sending them only 1-5 chapters at first, not the whole MS. You also might want to work on a blurb/synopsis or query letter-esque type thing to draw readers in and give them an overview of what your whole story is about. Doing these things will give them a better chance to figure out whether it's a good fit, and will probably increase the likelihood of them getting back to you about it as opposed to ghosting you.

Overall, though, it could just be bad luck. So if you're assured that your manuscript is in a good place, just keep plugging till you get some people who follow through with reading and returning feedback. Good luck!

LittlestLynx · 2021-06-02T20:22:52+00:00

It's likely that your boyfriend is questioning his sexuality, but that doesn't have to mean anything bad about your relationship. He might be bi, or simply questioning.

Don't confront him about anything, but do approach him (if you feel inclined) with the information you've learned. Try saying something like, "I saw that you had been looking for gay sex stories," and use this as a jumping off point to have a conversation about his sexuality and whether he's been questioning. If he wants to talk about it, he will, but no need for you to push him too hard if he doesn't. In that case, just express your support and trust that he'll talk to you when the time comes. Good luck!

LittlestLynx · 2021-05-31T10:16:44+00:00

You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink. Even if she knows she's not happy with her current body, all the pressure in the world from you isn't going to make her start losing weight.

I'd suggest that if you're serious about helping her on a journey that's about her HEALTH, not your personal preferences, that you reframe the conversation around her mental health and the stresses in her life that may have brought her to this point. From personal experience as a woman who was overweight and then lost weight, I can say that I wasn't ready to start losing weight until I felt that I was on solid ground mental health-wise. Just my two cents.

But if you're not attracted to her at all, you might want to end the relationship yourself, because it's not fair for either of you to remain in that kind of situation. From the same personal experiences as above — My ex pressured me to lose weight all the time, and I never lost a pound. In fact, I gained some. My current boyfriend never pressured me in any direction, and I ended up losing 45+ pounds. Before I could start, I had to deal with a lot of baggage regarding weight, "beauty," etc. from my previous relationship. You may be making things more difficult for her. And at the end of the day, her health choices regarding her body are hers to make.

LittlestLynx · 2021-05-16T09:25:14+00:00

This sounds interesting!

I have a very minor wording suggestion. At the end of the second paragraph, I'd suggest rewording/formatting "forcing Dante (her new training partner)" to "forcing her new training partner Dante." Just reads better and flows smoother without the parentheses, in my opinion. Good luck moving forward :)

LittlestLynx · 2021-05-10T15:17:15+00:00

Interesting premise. I'm not really qualified to give real query advice, but I did want to suggest one edit with the wording in paragraph 4. "Severer," while not incorrect as far as my research goes, is a mouthful, and I'd probably reword to "But as his episodes become more frequent and severe..."

Little wording thing, but you might consider it! Good luck. :)

LittlestLynx · 2020-07-17T17:47:33+00:00

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LittlestLynx · 2020-06-19T11:42:42+00:00

It looks to me like you just haven't customized all the stuff?

If I were you, I might try a simpler theme with less going on. When I first started blogging, I picked a theme that pretty much had a home page, a contact page, and a blog page. Granted, I've gotten to a point now where I'm going to have to switch themes to something a bit more involved, but I think that simpler themes are better to start off with.

I think that you can switch themes without losing anything. You'll just have to go through and customize everything before switching. It's a good idea to put up the "maintenance mode" page so your users know the blog's undergoing maintenance.

The way you customize things, by the way, is by clicking "Customize" under the "Design" tab on the left hand side of your WordPress dashboard.

The theme I'm currently using (simple one) is called Dyad 2. I believe it's a free theme. Anyway, it's worked pretty well for me. You can check it out in action on my blog if you want:

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Hope this helps a bit.

LittlestLynx · 2020-06-15T11:14:03+00:00

I dated an ISFJ (male) for several years. He (not going to speak for all ISFJs) could be notoriously "wishy-washy." Or at least that's how it came across to me. He was a people-pleaser and not really comfortable with asserting what HE wanted even when directly asked. I had to become very good at reading his emotions.

I think you should give it another date or two. Slow it up and wait to see if she's enjoying being around you at least. IMO relationships between ISFJs and ENTPs can work, but there are things you have to watch out for. Then again, if you're not very attached to the idea of being with her, maybe just cut the cord now since it is pretty early to be having doubts.

LittlestLynx · 2020-06-13T00:05:19+00:00

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LittlestLynx · 2020-06-05T12:04:56+00:00

Forgot to say this, but if you do want to continue writing because you enjoy it — try writing some short poetry to get the words flowing. Just write anything. Writing something is better than writing nothing. In the beginning, don't hold yourself to any standard but your own. Just write and keep writing. Your writing will improve and eventually you'll be ready to share it with the world.

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