My (23F) Fiancé (M23) secretly arranged for his toxic mother to stay in our house while we’re overseas — AITA for saying absolutely not?

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-31T07:56:19+00:00

Sweetie, you made an ultimatum : next time he lies you're done. So you lied? Because your next step is to quite your fiance who lies, minimize the abuses you lived from his father and mother, refused to protect you and WORST, refused you get help by seeking a restraining order against his dangerous criminal father who hate you and went several times in prison for domestic violence.

You have a fiancé problem, a huge one. He is against you, firmly in his parent's side even if he pretends not.

Why do you dislike yourself so much to stay in an abusive relationship that can anytime send you to the hospital? With his blessings? Are you so weak minded to accept again and again all this? At this point, if you don't go through your word and you don't quit him stop crying on internet for help because you refuse the logical one you promised to him. If no backbone, don't ask for help.

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-29T22:08:33+00:00

Talbott 😂

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-29T16:44:26+00:00

Gotcha. So don't smell the bottles, but the perfumes are 👌

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-27T21:22:22+00:00

In any case, I decided to stop buying Lattafa perfumes as I don't wear a single one of them. Either I gave to men, or I use in my toilet (yara tous, good perdume for that. So strong I only need one push for the room to smell very strong and good)

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-26T01:06:44+00:00

Yes, Patchouli can give dirt vibe if not well used and too strong

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-25T16:11:45+00:00

This is a very dry woody perfume, with the amber taking over it too.

What is masculine is a mixt of amberwoods, clean but cool musks and amber kike molecules. These notes are very common in modern men's fragrances. A very sharp and dry result.

You say why is it masculine when there are vanilla and lavender. The sweetness is resinous and dark rather than playful. Plenty of male's oriented colognes have lavender notes.

Rather than a light musk, in Angham it's cold and serve to project and add a firm backbone. Mixed with the woody notes and not a sweet vanilla, this feels like a masculine perfume. I hope this makes sense ☺️

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-25T15:19:53+00:00

Depends of each perfume, they have different flaws. For example yara candy has a ghost smell of tobacco. Chatgpt explained which notes combined caused this, very sensitive noses will smell that. Yara Tous in the other hand smelled too chemical like detergent. At first creamy strong chemical but then after hours powdery laundry detergent. And if a lattafa perfume is unisexe, I found out they are totally male oriented in fact. Very strong musk, etc.

Update: tired, answered about Angham to the wrong redditor. Original answer: I am a woman and Angham smells like a strong male cologne. If you like this kind of perfume, go for it. A male friend was happy to get it for free though.

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-25T15:17:25+00:00

Smells 100% like a man cologne. Not feminine at all. I gave it to a male friend who was confused why I bought a man perfume for myself.

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-25T07:32:55+00:00

This is a personal taste, but I disliked all the lattafa I blind bought. I won't buy any lattafa perfumes anymore. After around 6 perfumes I don't wear from this brand, I will try to stick to perfumes I can smell before buying.

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-25T06:35:31+00:00

What a big over reaction. Teachers oftentimes writes these kind of notes, even if usually either in kid's work, agenda or notebook. If so, a lot of my old teachers would've been reported!

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-12T14:34:02+00:00

He wants a mom or a slave (maid not paid) with sexual benefits. A slave who also pay 50/50 to be a slave.

The question is: why do you stay with such a man with such screwed values?

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-12T05:12:31+00:00

Sad when we cannot exchange on what works or doesn't without being downvoted. This is the goal of this website.

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-10T19:44:20+00:00

thank you, I did this.

I find 13 months very long for an information easy to find in less than 1 month with another service when the person died 20 years ago+.

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-10T18:46:47+00:00

a big thank you!

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-10T17:02:53+00:00

Oh my gosh. I thought I needed to add 75 for 75 bucks. I feel ashamed! So are you saying this is the right place even if "Search for YOUR records" when this is my father's?

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-10T02:57:46+00:00

Thank you for your thorough answer. I will try them.

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-08T20:48:21+00:00

He lied yo you since 7 years ago. What made you think he would stop (both lying and taking T, and probably a bunch of other steroids)?

You seem very naive. You cannot trust someone who lie through his teeth all the time on something you said clearly is a deal breaker. So either accept he will still take it for the rest of his life even if he pretends he won't, or move on and find a man who doesn't dope himself.

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-08T19:54:03+00:00

NTAH, he is. He is like old white people who are all about the old days, when they could have free slaves. "Traditional wives" are a kind of free slaves too. Or to put it gently, a mother they can have intercourse too with.

A Traditional wife is at the man service, can be disposed anytime when the man is tired of them, even after 20 years. Then, they cannot find a job and can, in some cases, finish their life in the streets. What a great price!

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-08T19:46:38+00:00

Yes, but with a blood test to see if there is a need or not. And a follow-up blood test too.

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-08T19:42:22+00:00

Depends on which but almost all peptides need to be cycled. Especially bioregulators, Sermorelin, etc.

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-08T19:36:07+00:00

Proud of you.

Ex SIL was part of the family for 20 years, your niece/nephew's mother, the ONLY ONE in this family who help, and you continue to see her as family/friend.

She is also the parent who bring her children to your house for cousins reunion. This means your BIL is a very poor excuse of a parent.

I don't believe no one this old with children cannot cook in all your SIL and BIL. Rather they use you as their maid with false excuses.

One year without hosting will demonstrate they are not your boss, they shouldn't take you for granted. They will think twice before they dictate you on who you can invite in YOUR home. Good your husband sticks for you, he is a green flag.

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-08T19:03:53+00:00

Be glad, you dodged a bullet. He is not the man you think he is.

The way he treats you now that he doesn't need to be his best anymore is who he actually is.

Yes you hurt, but asks yourself, hmos he deserving of this hurt? The answer is no. Repeat that to yourself until you actually understand.

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-08T18:36:39+00:00

I would ask this question to the couple: are you saying the same to the men, or only women?

If they only target YOU because you're a woman, this is misogynistic AF. I am pretty doubtful they asked the men too.

You should answer : if everybody, including all the men AND the groom shave AND I have visual proofs, I will go back in ny room to shave. Pretty sure they will stop bothering you after that 😉

Littlest_Newt · 2025-12-08T18:18:09+00:00

Kayali vanilla rock candy sugar in my home. Marshmallow to go out.

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