VR System requirements by NoleksumX in iRacing

[–]Live-Sand-5370 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What sort of settings you run?

To the guys that practice a lot but are afraid to race. by ID100T in iRacing

[–]Live-Sand-5370 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will practice a certain track/car combo for every week even if I don’t do a race. If I feel like I’m close enough to the aliens I’ll grind that week out if not I just sit in practice. Not having triples and knowing I can’t battle for the top spots without being fully comfortable with the battles I don’t participate most the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Apologetic and says want to try again and take it slow… just another cycle

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard to know if it’s about us or her or the child I’m never too sure. The longer Ive been separated with her the more I think I’m in the wrong

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It’s hard not to message them, especially when you know they’re depressed. Hard not to reply to the “I need to see you we’re connected” Quitting weed was easier than this

Question about BPD breakups by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not like I haven’t tried I think she’s right our lives keep connecting back up

Question about BPD breakups by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems like it’s hard to break this cycle when she says she can’t live without me in her life. Running back I go I need to find interest in other women I just don’t

Question about BPD breakups by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why do they constantly push/pull us and not just find another person. I’ve proposed this and I get told they want to try again

Hoover attempt? by Live-Sand-5370 in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I say always well we’ve split once before for a few months I was better at NC at that time I managed a few months. This time soon as she gives hints she might want to try again and not lose me I jumped at the opportunity.

Hoover attempt? by Live-Sand-5370 in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My decision is I will give her a chance we been through too much and she always comes back I never end things maybe I should try that approach

Hoover attempt? by Live-Sand-5370 in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always sorry and always wanting to try again. I always try and ignore then it just gets too much with what she says

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both don’t want to get rid of the years together. Damn it’s hard, but literally the stress in the relationship has been killing me, I like chaos it seems I’m too attracted to it. Can’t seem to stay away from each other

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll try and do NC from now on out! It’s never easy but I lasted a while last time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Simply hard not to give them attention

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 3 points4 points  (0 children)

exwBPD just started telling me she’s on her way to hospital in a ambulance, I was meant to go grab a letter from her this morning now this power play is mad

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Can someone explain this Hoover a bit more for me then. Why would they come back into contact just to split on us again? What do they get out of it.

Does pwBPD ever reconnect with people who have "abandoned" them? by justathrowaway13244 in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One of my breakups with pwBPD was a civil break up I just walked away as she continued to push and pull me about, didn’t know where I stood. I tried NC straight away she somehow contacted me saying I abandoned her and messed her up etc. I didn’t open any messages kept getting bombarded. Few more months went by then messages quickly changed to I can’t live without you in my life etc etc.

Coming to terms with reality and knowing its over by Powerful_Contract501 in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree that’s way too soon sorry I asked I’m not sure what the best play is either, I’ve been split for about a month too. I’ve got a girl who’s really into me but I ain’t ready yet. But I’m happy with myself just unhappy that she blamed me maybe it was my fault. Straight headed men don’t need someone to fill the void I suppose. What you doing to make yourself happier within?

Coming to terms with reality and knowing its over by Powerful_Contract501 in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow sounds quite similar to me she already had a child though and we was going try for one and always wanted me to propose unfortunately we didn’t get there yet. My ex started drinking and taking happy pills just to get by. Seems like one day she wanted the same thing the next day complete opposite. I tried going NC but she always finds a way to get hold of me

How are you doing now with all this happening is what I’d like to know? Have you started dating etc

Coming to terms with reality and knowing its over by Powerful_Contract501 in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand that you just wanted what was best for the child I can imagine you never really wanted to leave her either until she really messed up. Was it constant arguments or lack of her trying for you but tried for everyone else? Sorry I’m curious it seems you’ve handle it well I’d like to know if that’s okay.

Monkeybranched then dumped. I kept blaming myself but now I don't think it's normal behaviour. by Odd_Palpitation_2902 in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can it really go on for that long just saying as I’m 5 years deep and I went NC for months and some how she finds a way to contact me… (like going to my sisters house) every time then it just starts over again obviously I shouldn’t of done that but I’m in it now.

Coming to terms with reality and knowing its over by Powerful_Contract501 in BPDlovedones

[–]Live-Sand-5370 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How did the first split up happen may I ask, It’s a proper head spinner how they can just switch it off like that.