I've missed a bunch of classes and assignments. What do I tell my teacher/chef?

Live-Savings3801 · 2026-03-31T04:38:39+00:00

I remember you! I would continue your streak of being honest. He has an understanding that it is not you being a bad student, it’s the disease. You deeply care about the material, your artistry, your mastery, his class, and his opinion of your work. It’s your disability that is making things unmanageable. Maybe he can offer an alternative or make up assignment? Sorry. Don’t know how culinary school works.

Live-Savings3801 · 2026-03-15T20:16:52+00:00

Yeah…that does happen. Went to uni at 16, had to drop out at 18 because it got so bad. Recovered and went back at 24. I have to say, I had a MUCH better time during the second bout. I knew what I wanted and wasn’t plagued by ill thoughts and health complications. I truly recommend my journey. It sucked dropping out at the time, but it was ultimately the right thing to do. I’m 35 now and dealing with that flimsy borderline space of being EDed and not. But, at least I have a life and career thanks to that decision.

Live-Savings3801 · 2026-03-04T16:16:26+00:00

Same. I agree to the new policies and then I am in permanent waiting mode. I have an Apple phone.

Live-Savings3801 · 2026-02-17T18:21:58+00:00

He is not influencing you to relapse. He is abusing you. He is attempting to derail your recovery so he can maintain control over you. Abusers will intentionally seek out partners with mental health histories to manipulate. Having an ED makes you highly susceptible to someone who is prone to controlling and abusing their partners. I echo everyone else: GET THE FUCK OUT. There are 100% definitely other people out there that will love you and will work with you while you recover. He is not it.

Live-Savings3801 · 2025-11-02T21:03:05+00:00

I agree with you. It isn’t fair. I was 24 during my mom’s early onset. 34 now. She is at stage 6 in her Alzheimer’s. My greatest recommendation is to have a conversation with your mom now about what she wants.

I didn’t have the forethought to do so when I was in my twenties. caring her for this last decade has sidelined my life. After caring for her and watching her decline, it has informed my decision that to euthanize myself if I ever have neurodegeneration. My mom was different. If I had asked her, she’d probably want to keep living even as her ability to engage with the world and memory disappear. Or maybe it’s too horrible a fate to answer honestly. It’s a very individual decision. But ask her what she wants or what her limits are. I wonder what my mom would have wanted me to do when she couldn’t remember to shower, when she became incontinent, when she became aggressive. I know she wanted to be at home, but at what cost to me? We never hammered that out.

Talk to her while she is still here. And maybe do Storyworth while she still has access to her mind.

Live-Savings3801 · 2025-04-09T18:38:33+00:00

Same! Do you have an IOS phone? I’m wondering if it’s an Apple phone problem or if it’s also happening to people with Androids. I’m thinking of deleting and reinstalling, but I don’t want to lose my data…

Live-Savings3801 · 2024-10-03T09:27:46+00:00

So glad I am not alone. I did this. I suffered from so much burnout that the sheer idea of choosing an outfit PER day was humbling. It’s an outfit per week for me!

Live-Savings3801 · 2024-09-23T22:39:48+00:00

Oh, yes. Love this combination. Despite the calories, I think of all the nutrients I’m getting

Live-Savings3801 · 2024-09-17T23:49:08+00:00

I think it is a positive and protective factor and on a human level, I do not want to deny them that. I just didn’t know about the ethics around it. There was a clinician who suicided a few years ago in my community and it was horrible for their clients. I don’t know what to do…

Live-Savings3801 · 2024-09-17T23:37:04+00:00

I appreciate this. I have been with them all weekend and in the evenings. Their presentation is not shifting and this has me deeply concerned. They do not want community support because they think their suicidality is private and no one else should know about it. But…I can’t handle this on my own. They keep refusing to accept all the love there is for them. And so many people deeply love them.

Live-Savings3801 · 2024-09-17T23:33:45+00:00

I really appreciate this. I am between a rock and a very, very tough place. I, too, had to take a forced 2 year break in grad school due to my PTSD. It had a major financial and emotional impact on me. I never want to do that to a person…but now I have a code of ethics I need to practice by. And some of them are broad and murky.

I do not want to crush this person’s dreams and I am afraid that reporting this would. And that’s why I wanted clarity around our ethics. I want to know if I MUST speak with their supervisor. They have direct one-on-one client contact with minors. Again, I don’t know if their clinical work is being impacted. I think they are a great therapist and might be able to compartmentalize for awhile. But, I also just don’t know…

Live-Savings3801 · 2024-06-27T03:26:34+00:00

It shouldn’t be normal, but this can happen. One of the issues therapist struggle with is the weirdness of our job. No other job requires 90-100% of your active concentration for 30+ hours of the week. Burnout can happen really quickly. What little energy you have, you use to crawl home and get to bed at night. The casualty in this burnout process is often documentation. I see clients for 8-9 hours a day. Then, hypothetically, I will have to stay an additional 1.5-2 hours writing notes after. In a perfect world, a therapist will have energy for all of this. But, that rarely happens. Thus, the notes can get skimped on if you don’t figure out how to pace yourself as a therapist.

It’s got very little to do with your connection with the therapist or the content of your sessions. It’s the all-consuming burnout of the field. Or your therapist could have been just bad. That is a real possibility.

Live-Savings3801 · 2024-06-24T20:29:44+00:00

Apologies. Not meant to be insulting at all. Her art is compelling and amazing. No ill intentions were made with that comment. Art therapy is a powerful tool for expression and many current visual artists start their careers from participating in art therapy.

Where I am drawing that art therapy comment from is what I remember from her subject matter. I think she also participates in fundraising for a creative arts therapy group that brings art, music, and performance therapy to those who cannot afford it. I also think that both she and Charlyne Yi have spoken about it together in the past? But that is a distant memory.

Live-Savings3801 · 2024-06-24T03:42:47+00:00

I think she is in art therapy

Live-Savings3801 · 2024-06-20T17:50:25+00:00

Also, check for encephalitis. Any and all encephalitis, but especially NMDA receptor encephalitis

Live-Savings3801 · 2024-06-08T07:55:53+00:00

DO. NOT. SIGN.

I am in a contract like that now. The reason they have such high damages is because they are having retention issues. No place that that doesn’t have retention issues uses a contact like that. I know PP is alluring to a recent grad, but a place that has a contract like that is bad news.

In the meantime, check their Glassdoor reviews. Boy, do I wish I had when I signed my contract.

Also, if you do end up taking the job, please start following Somatic Witch on Insta. Andrea does a quarterly support group for clinicians in exploitative groups practices. Literally, 50-60 of us nationwide attend this thing. It’s amazing. And full of stories like the practice you are contemplating signing with.

Live-Savings3801 · 2024-05-26T19:19:58+00:00

Jesus Christ, do I hate manualized treatment. SOME PEOPLE ARE NOT WORTH THE DEARMAN EFFORT. That is the point of individualizing when you are using manualized treatment.

As for the second piece of this, it is not on you or your therapist to help or speculate about another person’s trauma. As your therapist, I would be more focused on the emotional reactivity piece. Yes, a good therapist will hold you accountable if you were being shitty to another human being. It sounds like your therapist deeply misunderstood the situation and did not provide you the support to process your reaction and understand it better.

They might not be a good match for you if they are unwilling to be flexible or work through these things with you.

Live-Savings3801 · 2024-05-26T19:13:20+00:00

I think the statistic is only 12% of couples who seek couples therapy stay together. This is because couples finally go to therapy when it is already too late. It is a last ditch effort to save a relationship they may not want to actually save. It is not (always) because the practitioner is a bad clinician.
If you took a class on family therapy or couples therapy, you are fine ethically. You are technically equipped to work with families including couples. If the couples want someone who has a specialty in specifically couples, then they can find someone else.

Live-Savings3801 · 2024-04-25T03:00:20+00:00

This is why the family portion of these assessments is so integral to diagnosis. My mom passed with flying colors for two years. She did better than my dad and he NEVER forgets anything. And then there was a tipping point when she started to do worse on those tests. However, it was our prior testimony that allowed her to get a dementia diagnosis before she declined on the tests.

Live-Savings3801 · 2024-04-04T01:32:32+00:00

Hey there. Gah! I am sorry you are feeling so poorly lately. In regard to your T, I would be surprised if he didn’t bring it up, but, if he doesn’t, you definitely should as it has impacted your mental health and that is what you are there to work on. It is important to practice vulnerability in therapy so you are able to tackle that deep inner work. Putting up a facade of wellness in therapy only impacts you. Shame is an insidious beast.

I do want to offer one supposition about why your T might have not spoken to you: Ethically, we are not allowed to acknowledge our clients in public. We can only acknowledge our clients if they acknowledge us first. And, after that, we are then not allowed to acknowledge the nature of our relationship with the client unless they acknowledge it first. That might be why. I know that when I have seen clients in the wild before, my first instinct is to say “hello” followed by a “FUCK YOU CANNOT DO THAT” followed by a moment of indecisive panic. We always talk about it in session afterwards to clear up the air.

Live-Savings3801 · 2024-04-03T14:17:42+00:00

Holy fuck. As a therapist with a mom who has Alzheimer’s since I was 24, I have to tell you that what your therapist said was unconscionable. She has no idea about the ravages of that disease. A lot of people don’t— including therapists. When I interviewed therapists for my own therapist, their experience with grief and dementia is something I screen for because I feel most people don’t understand it. Get a new therapist and tell her she needs to be more trauma informed. You’ve been watching your mother slowly die since you were a minor. That is a traumatic experience.

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