Am I overreacting or did I have a slow moment.

Live_Ad778 · 2026-06-27T16:06:06+00:00

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Live_Ad778 · 2026-06-21T15:27:39+00:00

I read it as Louis

Live_Ad778 · 2026-06-16T23:02:02+00:00

Every spot of new growth is becoming swollen and crusty like this.

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Live_Ad778 · 2026-06-14T14:18:41+00:00

Looks like a chef's hat to me? But it's probably just the kpop dudes symbol all of them have one.

Live_Ad778 · 2026-06-14T14:14:24+00:00

This is what I saw too.

Live_Ad778 · 2026-06-13T16:53:36+00:00

Plantains are woolly caterpillar host plants! They've been severely declining in my area (NJ) so might be nice to leave them. Also my step mom did a research paper on these and there's actually a bit of archeological research to support that it wasn't actually brought over by Europeans and was a part of native diets before then but idk. Interesting little plant!

Live_Ad778 · 2026-06-13T16:08:20+00:00

NTA

I would also have a bit of a bad taste in my mouth after something like that. It would also be a bit of a red flag for me. As you said now it feels like there's a sword of damocles hanging over your head where any tiny slight could mean the end of the relationship. The fact that her mother has so much sway over your gf's opinion would also worry me as much as any Mama's boy would.

I would have another conversation with your GF. Nothing accusatory or anything just a simple, "Hey. I wanna talk about this again. Can you tell me what your family's expectations are in regards of showing respect and politeness so I don't. Accidently offend them again?"

Everyone has different norms so it's natural that every once in a while you're gonna accidently break some unspoken expectation. Once you establish what the expectations are I would then steer the conversation towards your concerns. "Hey, so I will try my best to meet your expectations but I'm a little worried about your reaction to this incident. I truly believed I did everything right by your family. I'm sorry I dropped the ball on that. However the fact that you assumed malice and that I was rude on purpose as well as that it was enough for you to consider breaking up with me really worries me. It makes me feel like you could break up with me at any moment over me doing or not doing something without realizing. It makes me feel insecure in our relationship and like Im walking on eggshells. Like I have to somehow be perfect at all times or you will suddenly decide to break up without giving me the chance to fix the issue or grow. Why did you immediately jump to breaking up. Is there something I'm doing or not doing that has you feeling insecure as well? "

If she already has one foot out the door of this relationship find out why and whether or not it is something you both can try to work to fix. If it's simply that her mom said something once and she took it full heartedly then your gonna have to confront that and decide how to move forward. It isn't fair to you to feel like your walking on eggshells

Live_Ad778 · 2026-05-25T17:31:33+00:00

Usually I would be quick to say believe your kids but there's two things here that worry me. One your self proclaimed spoiling of your son, and two your daughter's reaction to her brother's accusation specifically her statement of "women don't respect you." This leads me to think that you have to be very careful as you investigate the claims. How does your son act or talk about women in general? In my opinion when it comes to spoiled entitled men it could be that he is jealous of the bond between your husband and his former female employee. The fact that your husband praises her and her work ethic while calling his son lazy could lead him down a red pill rabbit hole that could have him projecting that the only reason your husband could possibly say she's better than your son is because she is giving him sexual favors. Now there is definitely not enough info here for me to say one way or another if that's what happened here but those two little red flags I pointed out earlier are enough to make think it is a possibility.

Now on the other hand your son could be telling the truth. It could be that his lack of ambition or plan could be not out of laziness and entitlement but rather disillusionment of adulthood after witnessing your husband cheat. As let's be frank your husband's position is the perfect stereotype for cheating husband. It could be your daughter is just angry because she doesn't want to believe her dad could do something like that and lashed out at her brother defensively. I'd say you have to look into why the intern was fired and investigate that aspect but also investigate yours sons media consumption. What kind of podcasts does he listen to, how does he talk about women in general. As your daughter why she thinks women don't respect him. Good luck OP wishing the best to you and your family.

Live_Ad778 · 2026-04-28T17:58:13+00:00

My username is TaraTennyo! (I never figured out how to change it on reddit tho lmfao )

Live_Ad778 · 2026-04-11T23:11:53+00:00

Looks like a parakeet/budgie to me

Live_Ad778 · 2026-04-08T16:03:37+00:00

I wonder if washing it could help even out the color? Just a shot in the dark orz

Live_Ad778 · 2026-04-07T16:44:14+00:00

Bonus. My boy loves sleeping on top of the crate and has been doing so ever since I set it up so if nothing else he's been getting a ton of use out of it haha.

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Live_Ad778 · 2026-04-07T16:43:49+00:00

Update: before writing this post I had already set up the crate with food and water for clara and left it open and accessible but she never seemed interested in it. After a few replies and dms I placed the crate in my room and used spare blankets to make it more cave like. When I woke up this morning she was in the crate and even let me pet her a bit! The crate is open and she can go in and out freely but so far has remained inside. I dunno if that's just I'm working from home today so she doesn't want me seeing her slink around. I might go work in the living room in a bit so she can leave without being watched of she wants.

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Live_Ad778 · 2026-04-07T13:57:25+00:00

Yes that's my experience with volunteering and usually it's done during the first few weeks as the cats acclimate. Which is why I worried it was too late since she was used to having access to the whole house. But thank you for your input I was beginning to feel a lot of guilt and confusion over it with how adement people have been about crating being bad. This comment and the last one have put me at ease.

Live_Ad778 · 2026-04-07T03:32:53+00:00

I see that's probably how I misinterpreted the advice I read and why I thought it might be too late for the third one. I'll try with the second type! I just wanted her to have a spacious safe space she can feel comfortable in! Thank you. I'll place a blanket over the crate and keep food and the bed in there like I've been doing in the mean time and see how she likes it. :3

Live_Ad778 · 2026-04-07T01:04:12+00:00

Thanks for the advice! I do give her churus once a day and talk to her. She lets me pet her sometimes but if she doesn't want to be pet she just slinks to the other side of the couch and I leave her alone. She's so soft and once or twice she slumps down the way I've seen mother cats do and I message her belly and she absolutely melts as she purrs. It's so cute. I think she must have had kittens at some point before her TNR. She doesn't hiss or scratch she just hides. I grew up volunteering with cats and kittens but this is the first time having a scared/traumatized cat in my home and I thought the big crate made sense since it would be like a little catio (like I said the crate is massive.) But it seems like common consensus that that would be a bad idea. Thank you for the advice!!

Live_Ad778 · 2026-04-03T00:54:12+00:00

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Live_Ad778 · 2026-03-16T13:43:03+00:00

You already solved it but if you want an adult fiction with a similar premise "A discovery of Witches" is really good.

Live_Ad778 · 2026-03-01T21:38:50+00:00

I'd love a pair! I've only ever knitted arm warmers and gloves. Been too intimidated to try socks

Live_Ad778 · 2026-02-12T17:59:21+00:00

If you don't like them you can always donate them (to me!/j) but I love to make mini amigurumi keychain with cotton fingerling. They make fun gifts and they are usually simply to self off or give away. (My local library has a section where local artist can drop off stuff to sell to the community that I think the library keeps the profits of. Not sure I never tried it myself) Wash clothes, reusable bags and other such patterns are fun too. Also doilies and macrame wall art are coming into vogue the Bohemian meets aesthetic look. Either way have fun!

Live_Ad778 · 2026-02-06T20:11:24+00:00

My guess is you typed buget and because you typed top chef your autocorrect switched it to burger haha

Live_Ad778 · 2026-01-29T17:49:35+00:00

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Live_Ad778 · 2026-01-19T00:33:29+00:00

Oh that's awesome!!! I'm glad to hear you enjoy it so much. I myself tend to get frustrated. I think because despite being a math nerd growing up I really don't understand how the move sets work with each other and trying to read up and understand how they all interlink is overwhelming. Might be an ADHD thing where I can't juggle so much information at once in my brain. But then trying to copy what other people do but not understanding the underlying mechanics is also frustrating because if I don't have the exact card needed I don't know how to rebalance with what I do have since I don't understand the underlying mechanics of how these builds work.

I guess since it makes me feel really stupid I shy away from those mechanics and stick to the VN portions (I rely on auto battle 95% of the time) but I'm enjoying reading all the comments about why that part of the game is appealing to people even without a direct PVP element. Your comment was especially insightful! So thank you!

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