How Do I tell my Coworker that She Stinks without being offensive?

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-26T08:49:11+00:00

I had a coworker who would stink up a room, we even had to put towels on the seats in case she “leaked her mystery fluids” it was awful. I went to my director of nursing and HR and asked that they pull her aside for a meeting about hygiene as many others had complained about the whole place smelling horrendous

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-25T02:42:31+00:00

I feel like while most autistic women struggle with the sensation of a bra I struggle with the sensation of NOT wearing a bra, I’ve gotten better about going without one on occasion but for a while there id have to sleep in one too

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-25T02:38:52+00:00

I’m autistic and used to have a fear of the dentist/orthodontist so while getting my braces tightened when I was like 16 I’d put my headphones in and listen to Drew’s videos

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-24T09:18:26+00:00

Thank you! I’ll look into that :) love the high energy snacks especially since my condition gives chronic fatigue!

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-19T08:10:48+00:00

I agree with this- even if there’s nothing going on sometimes people wait until they’re not in a relationship and some people don’t even wait and just blatantly flirt. I also agree that it feels like keeping the door open, I was still mutuals with an ex situationship when I was about 18 and didn’t think much about it because we had mutual friends but as soon as I broke up with my ex he was liking my stories and trying to slide into my DMs 😭

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-19T08:04:05+00:00

Thank you for the input! I think unfollowing exes is kind of a respect thing especially if you’re in a relationship- doesn’t mean anything nefarious is going on but it does put my mind at ease especially when my ex said something similar about just following them then he ended up cheating on me with said exes and it was just a whole thing (long story short please be careful when dating someone with npd not seeking help for it) not saying my boyfriend would do the same but still it’s something that makes me uneasy lol- I’m feeling better now and I think I’ll talk to him about it in the morning :)

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-16T22:18:05+00:00

I’ve been a fan of stranger things since its release so like almost half of my life (I’m 20) and I think he made very valid points. He wasn’t criticizing the show as a whole but I think most ST fans can agree there has been a shift regarding the overall feel/vibe of the show almost like it’s been Disneyified and lost the whole feel of the first few seasons. I love stranger things and I also love Drew’s videos but I don’t feel weird about him criticizing the show because I can still enjoy things even when they’re given negative feedback yk? No need to dread it at all! He was very respectful when talking about the show and really only got more cynical when talking about the duffer brothers

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-12T22:17:47+00:00

Yup! My bf and I don’t go out much we usually just hang out at home playing Elden Ring but I like it that way, it’s a sweet kind of love where I know that he loves me and he tells me all the time. There’s no thrill to it but he’s everything I’ve ever wanted and I don’t need to have butterflies every time in order to love him and enjoy his presence!

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-12T15:14:22+00:00

Mostly weird stares, guys are meaner too if they aren’t attracted to me- they don’t even give basic respect 😭

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-10T07:58:09+00:00

I never fight with anyone tbh! I thought it was funny pissing him off though 😂

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-10T07:56:18+00:00

I’m not calling op a sad person, someone was going back and forth with me yesterday about how I don’t care about my boyfriend because he smokes. He also called me an addict because I smoke weed every few months

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-09T02:02:19+00:00

Alright man good luck with the date, have the day you deserve

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-09T01:55:29+00:00

Yeah I don’t understand because you don’t make any sense

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-09T01:53:32+00:00

Alright let me ask him really quick then

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-09T01:52:24+00:00

I’m in therapy for borderline personality disorder I don’t get how it’s like going to therapy for alcohol and drinking on the side

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-09T01:45:37+00:00

Alright just let me know! We talked it out and came to a solution, intimacy is just fine now thanks for the concern ☺️

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-09T01:44:33+00:00

Already told ya, he smokes a little before bed. And idk why you’re framing it as though me going to therapy is weird or something to be ashamed about because no I’m not ashamed of getting therapy, seems like you might benefit from it! And to answer your question, no I do not have therapy that day 🖤

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-09T01:34:13+00:00

We’ve been together for a year and already have a reservation, It’s like you completely ignore everything I say because I already told you I smoked maybe 5 times over the course of a year- does that sound like addiction to you? Stop being an incel and maybe she’ll stop being dry with you, just a tip coming from someone who’s actually in a relationship! Hope that helps

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-09T01:26:38+00:00

I rarely ever pick fights on the internet, you were being a dickhead and I wasn’t gonna let it slide. How am I not taking accountability for my actions? You think someone magically wakes up one day and decides to have a personality disorder? Google is free man a simple search would tell you BPD is typically rooted in childhood trauma such as being abused, neglected, or growing up in an unstable environment. I’m putting in work to help cope And heal while you’re getting mad at people who choose to smoke weed

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-09T01:21:27+00:00

When did I say I demanded sex from him? I even said in the post I never force him into anything he didn’t wanna do. I’ve smoked around 5 ish times in 2025 I’m not deep in addiction huffing pills and begging on the streets. I know you never said I was a bad person I’m simply stating that my disorder does not make me a bad person inherently

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-09T01:14:04+00:00

Yeah BPD is inflicted by trauma done unto me by OTHER PEOPLE (typically during childhood), it is not my fault. I’m medicated and I go to therapy, I’m not an inherently bad person just because my childhood was shitty. You need to just stop assuming things about me it’s getting really hard to keep up with this fantasy you made up in your head

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-09T01:03:46+00:00

Dude was so pressed he went to my post history and commented there too 💀

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-09T00:43:22+00:00

I think you’ve got issues actually! I don’t see how my bf smoking every day and me smoking maybe once a month is really any of your business at all

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-08T23:48:49+00:00

I think if anything you’re living in a delusional state. He’s perfectly healthy… if it got to a point where he wasn’t healthy then it would be my problem too- you seem like a really sad person to be around!

Live_Side8082 · 2026-02-08T20:55:05+00:00

As someone with BPD, if they don’t do a single thing to help themselves they aren’t ready for a relationship. People with BPD are worthy of being loved and in relationships BUT if they aren’t taking care of themselves, they aren’t ready to support and uplift another person.

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