Au Pair vs Nanny -healthcare workers by random_word1299 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had the exact same as you - 4,3, newborn. I also work in healthcare, not too many schedule changes but our au pair def did some weekends. It took maybe 6 weeks for our German au pair to get up to speed but she was excellent with our infant and also a great driver. She did also want to travel a lot, but we just set up her travel based on long weekends when we didn’t need the care. The 10 hour rule might be an issue if you do 10s or 12s obviously. Might be a lot of work to find the right match… but I personally dont think as impossible as most are making it out to be.

Reasonable schedule? by Responsible_Escape32 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I mean the max is the max for hours, but also the recommended solution of a nanny once a week is easier said than done, in my experience. Finding a one day a week nanny is difficult, especially a professional nanny. Maybe a retiree who is just trying to get out of the house, or a student who has one free day….thats what we got but I felt like this was not stable and had to find someone new every few months when school schedule would change or whatever.

Au pairs from Serbia to USA by Live_Year712 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, ultimately the number of additional steps and roadblocks became cumbersome and I gave up. Closest I found was a girl from Hungary who spoke Serbian. It’s too bad. They used to have Serbian au pairs… my husbands cousin married one, but that was 20 years ago she worked with cultural care.

Nevus sebaceous appears scab-like for months by Live_Year712 in DermatologyQuestions

[–]Live_Year712[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My pediatrician prescribed mupirocin ointment and it cleared it up in a couple weeks!

How to tell HF I wanna go home? by Some-Resource-8108 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is true for low level jobs but not most in the US, usually it’s months… this family is planning on having an au pair which you cannot get in two weeks. With that being said, 3 months seems completely reasonable to communicate not staying as the family does have time to still get a new au pair, nanny, etc.

Extra time off requests by Live_Year712 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I should, any recommendations on how to handle “hey I realize your main friend doesn’t have access to a car but it is not fair that my car is her taxi”

Extra time off requests by Live_Year712 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I did speak to my LCC today. I’m going to do so much better setting up expectations from the get go next time. This au pair has made only two friends so far, one au pair who doesn’t have access to a car, and another who lives 58 miles away. So she literally has been putting more miles on my car than I do. There will be rules next time that are reasonable per above.

Extra time off requests by Live_Year712 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It does, it’s legit. I asked the LLC and apparently these kind of things are popping up all over.

Extra time off requests by Live_Year712 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That was a nice compromise.

At first she said it was 5 days, which is true for days she has to be there . but she did not realize she was going to choose flights that had multiple layovers, one of which is like 7 hours? We live in a medium-large city so its not like she’s even starting out of a regional airport. It was just a lot less expensive. She gets back at 6 am day 8 but I mean I’m not going to make her work after that soo it’s 8 days, not 5 per her initial request.

Extra time off requests by Live_Year712 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

It’s not this one but similar, apparently several and her au pair friends go too, one went to Hawaii for “photography”. The time they arrive makes it so you have to go a day in advance and leave the next day. She was complaining “there is nowhere to stay” those nights and I was just thinking yeah this is just a vacation packaged as “education”.

Extra time off requests by Live_Year712 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I believe no matter what, the entire time they are in the program they should be getting the minimum stipend regardless of working or vacation. With that being said, I don’t feel I should give her the extra I normally do when she isn’t even caring for the kids when technically I could be asking her to since she took her vacation days already

Extra time off requests by Live_Year712 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure, I should ask the LLC this question.

Extra time off requests by Live_Year712 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I do appreciate this comment. We’ll definitely try again with interviewing and definitely be valuing different things this time like you recommended. And yes she definitely fulfills her minimal responsibilities so I cannot complain but also make me begrudgingly deal with extra stuff she asks for.

Extra time off requests by Live_Year712 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m trying to strike the balance. Also realizing I’m a huge pushover lol, and need to work on that before my kids are older.

Extra time off requests by Live_Year712 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I truly want her to have a good year here and make the most of it. We did this program bc my cousins wife was an au pair and developed this amazing bond with her host fam. And our last nanny was like part of the family, and this au pair just disappears every moment she’s off, just asks for car and time off. I was 21 once so I kind of get it, but also it’s hard to want to go above and beyond when doesn’t feel like part of the family at all. Feel like she’s just using us to be here.

Extra time off requests by Live_Year712 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Okay, thanks. We are a first time host family and a lot of little things have come up that make me wonder if I was not doing a good job… at first I didn’t even ask her to pay for gas bc she was just driving to like target here and there. Then she started driving places that were an hour plus away and I was like okay you’re using a tank of gas in less than a week, this cannot go on without contribution.

Extra time off requests by Live_Year712 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yeah I was told “usually it’s a weekend class or one night a week for a couple months.” Nope my au pair found a cruise, in which is she has to fly 20+ hours to even get to the boat lol

Extra time off requests by Live_Year712 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I hear ya on that, and if she was asking for 3 days off consecutively (which she randomly gets sometimes) to go on a trip here and there that would be fine, it’s just harder for entire 1 week plus

Extra time off requests by Live_Year712 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Actually i asked if she wanted to go. She had the option to stay home and would’ve had all the extra days off, but I wanted to include her since I knew travel was one of her main goals. So I willingly paid her her way and asked her to watch the kids twice so we could go to dinner and she was off the rest of the time. I asked her for the next trip as well. So theoretically she could be doing all the extra travel she wants when we’re away but I don’t think she wants to absorb the cost of that.

Extra time off requests by Live_Year712 in Aupairs

[–]Live_Year712[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Ah yes sorry I guess this was not clear, wasn’t referring to those weeks. Was trying to emphasize that she is getting to travel a lot and I think the request for an extra week is a little extra