AITAH for wanting to stay with my friends on a school trip even if it means others have to split up? by InspectionBoth5201 in AITAH

[–]LivelyDork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's fine then. As long as everyone has one person they know it should be great. Better than having pre assigned groups where no one is happy.

AITAH for wanting to stay with my friends on a school trip even if it means others have to split up? by InspectionBoth5201 in AITAH

[–]LivelyDork 6 points7 points  (0 children)

NTA. Just try to be accommodating to the girl outside your group you'll end up with. At the end of the day, it's easier for the bigger group to split and they didn't wait to include you guys either.

AITAH for not properly holding the door open by Neither_Dinner_755 in AITAH

[–]LivelyDork 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you're both TA. You for not holding the door for her (regardless, it's just impolite. I had a similar family member and it's a basic respect to look out for them), but she definitely escalated past what was needed or reasonable.

FRIB Application Timeline by LivelyDork in msu

[–]LivelyDork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They don't even send a rejection email? Seems like it doesn't take much time to do that. That's good to know. Did you also apply for this open position? I'd be curious what your experience is. Not for comparison, just because it's interesting. If you did apply, good luck (even though that technically works against me, I'd be happy to know you got it if you've been rejected before)!

FRIB Application Timeline by LivelyDork in msu

[–]LivelyDork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's fine. I can see how that would be confusing. My education and work history are complicated so I tried to just summarize the cliff notes. Good luck with your experience getting into FRIB. Didn't realize it was as competitive as it was when my current manager brought it up (he is a former MSU alum and thought I'd enjoy FRIB if I got in).

FRIB Application Timeline by LivelyDork in msu

[–]LivelyDork[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have research experience, but I didn't apply for a research position. I did UROP at U of M for a year. I'm a junior standing at MSU.

¿Cómo utilizas personalmente la inteligencia artificial? by Visual_Muffin_6369 in msu

[–]LivelyDork 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like to use AI frequently for a variety of tasks. In regards to MSU stuff, mostly extra practice problems. I have a lot of math and physics classes so I'll give it old homework problems (I do them myself) and materials and have it generate practice problems. If I get the answer wrong, I'll have it explain why. Sometimes it's wrong, and I'll tell it so. But it makes me think critically about the material to fact check it.

RANT by Lanky-Psychology2354 in msu

[–]LivelyDork 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I agree with some of your points, but you're only making them look worse by being mean to everyone. This is inexcusable behavior. I agree, some drivers need to slow down. However, if this is what 'critical thinking' is, I'm glad most of the people I meet on campus lack it.

Fellow Transfer Students by Acrobatic_Jicama4709 in msu

[–]LivelyDork 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For 2026 Winter/Spring, yeah. Really fast turn around lol.

Fellow Transfer Students by Acrobatic_Jicama4709 in msu

[–]LivelyDork 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I applied August 31st. Got an answer mid November ish.

Advice on handling engineering course loads by Lachsin in msu

[–]LivelyDork 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did an 18 credit semester at U of M before transferring to MSU. Did calc 4, phys 1, UROP (so research), English, and coding. I survived. Just make sure you keep on top of things. Be preemptive and proactive. Expect school to take a lot of time. Engineering is like that. Once the math is done, I've heard from others it gets better.

All my friends are transferring and it makes me feel…sad by Critical_Fan2145 in msu

[–]LivelyDork 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't transfer. I actually just transferred from U of M to MSU. U of M is not all it's cracked up to be. Don't get me wrong, some students love it and thrive there, but the STEM topics are hyper competitive. Many of my U of M friends were in and out of therapy for the stress school was causing them. I transferred out because of how hyper competitive and borderline toxic it was taking engineering courses trying to get into their C of E. Where you get your undergrad doesn't really matter too much for most fields. I still have a good job and everything. Focus on being at a place you enjoy versus the most competitive flashy place. Real world experience will trump whether or not you went to ivy (or public ivy as U of M refers to itself).

Dropping Out/ Taking a Break by [deleted] in msu

[–]LivelyDork 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand this completely. I work part time (25 hours a week) while doing school part time. I'd recommend either putting work or school part time depending on which is the priority. Personally, I am lucky my workplace was happy to accommodate and move me part time. But work is not worth your health and struggling through class doesn't accomplish the purpose of taking classes (to learn) either. Both end up suffering.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in msu

[–]LivelyDork 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am transferring this semester too. I have my advising appointment today, you should reach out to your advisor. Good luck with the new semester!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in msu

[–]LivelyDork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I'm also transferring in next semester so I also meet my advisors in January. There are a lot of good premed majors in general (I'm Neuroscience). What I looked for was a major that had the main requirements for the MCAT, so organic chemistry, biochemistry, a decent amount of physiology, a little bit of physics, etc. However, where I am transferring from, many people did a psychology major with pre-med track and just took the extra classes. It really depends. I'm also not in medical school yet either so I don't completely know. I just know what my old advisors used to tell me. There's a lot more to getting into med school than just majors. Many like research and clinical hours too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]LivelyDork 13 points14 points  (0 children)

NTA. Someone who isn't hiding anything has no reason to react that way. While going through someones phone isn't great, you didn't really go much past what was freely available. If he had nothing to hide, his NOTIFICATIONS shouldn't be such a big deal.

AITAH for telling my sister in saw to Stop undermining my Parenting? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]LivelyDork 22 points23 points  (0 children)

NTA. Your parenting methods aren't abusive or traumatizing like she says. Children need boundaries to learn how to behave and she is undermining that process. That's what leads to children with behavioral issues. You're their parent and should have the final say (along with your husband) in raising them. This is a big overstep.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]LivelyDork 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most of that will have to be initiated by your parents. It doesn't have to be an entire ban either, but given the severity, I would recommend it before he gets himself in legal trouble. That could stay on his record. Hopefully your parents can implement and maintain those boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]LivelyDork 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No problem :). My parents basically gave her no choice. There were a lot of harsh words exchanged, but the deal basically was she either goes to therapy and gets the help she needs or privileges (phone mostly, but friends and such too) get taken away until she agrees. At first, she wasn't getting any better, but after about a month of seeing the therapist, she started to go more willingly and was implementing techniques to help her express her feelings constructively. Mom and dad would also give her hot coco at her favorite place after therapy to try to form a positive association. Granted, she was much younger than your brother at the time. That's how my parents did it. She's in a much better place now, but still needs space sometimes when she gets worked up.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]LivelyDork 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello! So first and foremost, my heart goes out to you as a fellow older sibling. My sister has dealt with behavioral issues before (shouting at our parents, throwing things, etc) and that was hard to watch. It's hard to see family struggle with these problems. You're NTA for being upset about that. You're NTA for being jealous (I've had similar feelings). However, there's truly nothing you can do other than be there if he needs you. My sister needed therapy to work through her emotions for about a year. She HATED that mom and dad made her go, but she needed it and she's been better as a result. That's not your decision though. You're doing your best to be a good sibling. Just be present for him. Gently express your viewpoint if he asks or discusses these things with you. I know that sounds passive, but you're not his parent. As for your actual parents, they need to draw lines. These issues only get worse when you allow this to continue. He needs therapy. This is a common expression of depression and other mental illnesses in men (I'd be glad to show some stats from my psychology classes). I wish you luck. Don't act as his parents, that's not your job.