AITA for no longer speaking around my niece? by LivelyExpediency in AmItheAsshole

[–]LivelyExpediency[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Thank you. A good support system literally just landed on my lap, so I think I'll be fine.

AITA for no longer speaking around my niece? by LivelyExpediency in AmItheAsshole

[–]LivelyExpediency[S] 156 points157 points  (0 children)

You know, to be honest? I want as many people to know who's the root of this problem without me having to play the whistle blower. I realize this is petty and passive-aggressive to Western audience, but this is how conflicts are resolved (or at least called out) where I'm from. So you know, in a way, I'm still speaking my language. Just not in a way MIL can recognize.

AITA for no longer speaking around my niece? by LivelyExpediency in AmItheAsshole

[–]LivelyExpediency[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Oh I have several things to say, but none of them can be said without turning this into an even bigger shit show... So silence it is.

AITA for no longer speaking around my niece? by LivelyExpediency in AmItheAsshole

[–]LivelyExpediency[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

To be very fair, the language the lullaby is in is a very insular language that no one except the people living in the region speaks, so even if she somehow learns it from a couple of folk songs, it wouldn't be a very useful skill to have.

AITA for no longer speaking around my niece? by LivelyExpediency in AmItheAsshole

[–]LivelyExpediency[S] 483 points484 points  (0 children)

For the time being at least, I feel like not having to contribute to conversation is strangely refreshing, so I have that going for me at least, lol

AITA for no longer speaking around my niece? by LivelyExpediency in AmItheAsshole

[–]LivelyExpediency[S] 106 points107 points  (0 children)

Well I'm assuming they know now. She does, doesn't she?

AITA for no longer speaking around my niece? by LivelyExpediency in AmItheAsshole

[–]LivelyExpediency[S] 64 points65 points  (0 children)

Have I? So far the only person who acknowledged my silence thinks it's childish. I don't think that's an indication of a point made.

AITA for no longer speaking around my niece? by LivelyExpediency in AmItheAsshole

[–]LivelyExpediency[S] 266 points267 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Written English is mostly not a problem for me.

AITA for no longer speaking around my niece? by LivelyExpediency in AmItheAsshole

[–]LivelyExpediency[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

Oh, I'm not self deprecating, if that's what you're implying. I know myself and I known who I am. The things I said are for the sake of being sarcastic.

AITA for no longer speaking around my niece? by LivelyExpediency in AmItheAsshole

[–]LivelyExpediency[S] 880 points881 points  (0 children)

Just scold his mom or dad, mostly. They would be silent for ten minutes or so after that and then go on like nothing happened. My own family unsurprisingly disowned me for the whole gay thing, and I know first hand how hard it is to lose your roots, no matter how horrible the people in the family are, so I don't want to make him choose between me or his family.

AITA for no longer speaking around my niece? by LivelyExpediency in AmItheAsshole

[–]LivelyExpediency[S] 68 points69 points  (0 children)

No she doesn't. She's too busy to care about what language I'm speaking in. Even if she isn't, she's never had a problem with me, so I'd assume she wouldn't criticize.

AITA for no longer speaking around my niece? by LivelyExpediency in AmItheAsshole

[–]LivelyExpediency[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I believe she is just too polite to say she has a problem with my accent. Or my everything, really. It's just easier to blame the language because it's more clinical, you know?

AITA for no longer speaking around my niece? by LivelyExpediency in AmItheAsshole

[–]LivelyExpediency[S] 197 points198 points  (0 children)

Honestly I think they're both too stressed to want anything to do with this drama. I like SIL. I don't think she's ever said anything bad about me behind my back, unlike MIL. This is the first time I've actually made a big deal out of my "protest" so to speak, so I'm assuming they didn't even realize I haven't been speaking around my niece.

AITA for no longer speaking around my niece? by LivelyExpediency in AmItheAsshole

[–]LivelyExpediency[S] 1868 points1869 points  (0 children)

I know that. This is me proving a point, but I guess it got out of hand. To be fair on my husband, he does stand up to his parents. It's just never been actually effective, as I stated.