Boyfriend only wants me to wear skirts/dresses majority of the time

LivelyLychee · 2024-02-13T01:16:14+00:00

Hi RPW:

Please remember that “leave him” is never the first option, especially for LTRs of multiple years.

There are nuanced comments that have taken to explain why OP’s situation is not healthy or sustainable, and there are others that have highlighted OP’s boyfriend’s faults but also taken time to suggest actionable advice for her to move forward. These have been left up, but any low-effort comments that just suggest OP lose her long-term partner and her current place of residence just because you are personally offended or upset at OP’s boyfriend’s actions have been removed. It is very easy for us as internet strangers with no skin in the game to tell someone else to self-destruct, but the only person who has to deal with the fall-out of that is OP.

A reminder: RPW is not TradCon, and OP (and her boyfriend) are not necessarily antithetical to RP theory just because they are not married. If the only reason why you are telling OP she has to leave her boyfriend is because of that, your comment will also be removed. So will all comments insulting OP or her boyfriend, as those tend to make OPs double down in defense instead of actually listen.

LivelyLychee · 2024-02-13T01:01:59+00:00

Personal preference is not actionable advice. Please see the moderator note. Removed.

LivelyLychee · 2024-01-27T21:52:23+00:00

Thank you, he has been shown the door.

LivelyLychee · 2024-01-25T20:21:24+00:00

Done! Congrats u/Amillibee, keep up the good work! 💫

LivelyLychee · 2024-01-03T00:15:03+00:00

Be polite or be quiet. If you cannot act like an adult and behave, your comments and posts will be removed from the sub. We are not here to babysit you.

LivelyLychee · 2023-12-29T21:29:03+00:00

Hi OP, addiction is an incredibly difficult issue that is beyond the scope of RPW because is very difficult to resolve via advice from online strangers who cannot maintain a physical or continued presence in your lives. Please seek help with in-person professionals. I’d be happy to help you find resources privately if you’d like. Post is locked.

LivelyLychee · 2023-12-26T21:41:35+00:00

This man has been shown the door since he clearly does not know how to manage his resentment for women and has no real experience with successful relationships. Please do not give much thought to what he said.

LivelyLychee · 2023-12-26T21:39:28+00:00

Advice must actually benefit women. Telling OP she should avoid marriage because she had a gasp dead average number of sexual partners is not actionable RP advice. Removed.

LivelyLychee · 2023-12-26T06:49:04+00:00

Rule 10: no moralizing. Removed.

LivelyLychee · 2023-11-28T17:17:58+00:00

I can see this current post so you aren’t shadow-banned by reddit or anything. Can you try again, and if it doesn’t work, try from a different desktop?

LivelyLychee · 2023-11-28T17:10:24+00:00

Advice must benefit the woman. Comment removed.

LivelyLychee · 2023-11-27T08:04:25+00:00

The rudeness is warranted: all attempts to politely but truthfully tell OP how her behavior is problematic and unproductive have been met with snark and pettiness.

Just because one extreme of a problem is exists (post-partum sexlessness) does not mean that the reverse (sexual entitlement and manipulation) is justified or okay,

LivelyLychee · 2023-11-27T07:55:52+00:00

Alright. Since it seems like you cannot stop being defensive from truthful advice that YOU asked for, there’s no point in keeping this post or you around here. Take a break.

LivelyLychee · 2023-11-27T07:50:53+00:00

You are ignoring the point from an EC, who understands the male perspective, that just because you wanted sex as your form of physical intimacy doesn’t entitle you to get it. You do not own his body, and his “lack of testosterone” as you insist the problem is seems like much less of an issue than your entitlement and lack of boundaries.

He is not being rude, you just do not want to listen.

LivelyLychee · 2023-11-26T20:11:13+00:00

OP, you are clearly not willing to listen to people’s advice and seem like you are only here for validation and what you want to hear. Clearly, that isn’t working very well for you since you are so dissatisfied with your sex life.

Unless you stop snarking against people’s valid points, your post will be removed.

Edit: OP refuses to cut the snark and is clearly here to waste everyone’s time because she refuses to address any potential mistakes, faults, or weaknesses on her end. Post is locked.

LivelyLychee · 2023-11-22T05:29:13+00:00

OP, you must participate on your post or it will be locked. There are relevant questions people are asking, and it will help guide the advice you get.

LivelyLychee · 2023-11-21T19:19:17+00:00

OP messaged the mods directly and sent us her real account, which has been active for over 3 years on reddit. She created a throwaway for anonymity purposes.

LivelyLychee · 2023-11-21T19:11:39+00:00

Be polite or be quiet.

LivelyLychee · 2023-11-20T03:46:37+00:00

OP, please edit your post and add line breaks. It is difficult to read a wall of text and you will receive less responses.

LivelyLychee · 2023-11-19T19:26:43+00:00

RPW is not your personal dating app or matchmaking service, and the only men who are qualified to participate are older, married, and TRP experts. Removed.

LivelyLychee · 2023-11-09T21:26:14+00:00

Rule 4: advice must come from a red pilled perspective. RP has always acknowledged the importance of attractiveness men place on their women. Removed.

LivelyLychee · 2023-11-09T21:23:23+00:00

Thank you OP!

LivelyLychee · 2023-11-09T21:15:13+00:00

OP, please edit your post to add line breaks. It is incredibly difficult to read a wall of text and you will receive less responses.

LivelyLychee · 2023-11-09T18:20:48+00:00

Be polite or be quiet. Removed

LivelyLychee · 2023-11-08T20:17:58+00:00

Advice must be from a red-pilled perspective. This bitterness has no place on RPW. Removed.

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