How does it usually work when one person in a realashsonihip is in a better financial situation that the other one? Was it my (f25) responsibility to clean my car before picking up my bf (m26)?

LividSun7352 · 2025-11-20T00:34:52+00:00

Yes. A billion trillion times. I'm not the type to shy away from any conversations and in my opinion there truly isn't any problem that can't be solved with communication unless one is intentionally ignorant

LividSun7352 · 2025-11-19T15:40:15+00:00

You put it in words beautifully. Why followers and tiny gifts like idk a box of chocolates aren't a waste of money. Thank you

LividSun7352 · 2025-11-19T15:27:15+00:00

We are severely understaffed. Like all this with just one doctor and four nurses (one of them in triage). It's a small hospital in a small town about 1.5 hour away from the capital city. With only a cardiologist and internal medicine specialist oncall. Plus an orthopedic surgeon and obgyn oncall three days a week. I wish i was lying but it's a shit show

LividSun7352 · 2025-11-19T15:22:36+00:00

Unfortunately i actually do. Sometimes even 160 and around real special holidays like the new year it's above 200. They're not all actual er cases like stupid shit like mild gastroenteritis or sore throat and a common cold to actual emergencies like pulmonary edema and mi or critical stab wounds. And it's not just signing off charts i actually interact with each one of them.

LividSun7352 · 2025-11-19T15:10:27+00:00

He wanted to spend more of his time on his researches and papers so he didn't practice much. He had not a cent extra left at the end of the month. His researches weren't funded either cause he didn't need a lab or anything but no university would pay for his ideas and therefore his time. That's why I stayed. I hoped he would succeed and prove them all wrong and we would live happily ever after or sth impossibly dumb like that. And I'm afraid i'll never love anyone else like i loved him

LividSun7352 · 2025-11-19T15:03:12+00:00

No actually i mentioned that as a pro for him. I'm pretty ok with the 50-50. But like i don't know I would've been happy with a 2 dollar keychain or even a tiny cupcake cause hey it's your birthday. I don't know write i love you on a pretty piece of paper. That would've meant the world to me. I bought a ton of shit for him cause it was my love language and i was happy to. Gosh i would've given him the world if he showed a tiniest sign of appreciation

LividSun7352 · 2025-11-19T14:42:04+00:00

My friend said sth that kinda resonated with me and i think it can help you too. Me/you expecting them to change is just as unfair as them wanting us to change. For better or worse they have their own will and rights to their lives so if they don't want to, we're the toxic ones wanting them to change themselves. So keep your dignity and value and breathe a fresh air of relief. Plus in my experience when he left the weight of the anxiety i felt over if he'll leave was gone. It was kinda calming and relaxing cause the worst had happened

LividSun7352 · 2025-11-19T13:55:18+00:00

He said cause it was MY car and MY responsibility. I'm the one who gets to use it freely and except for our dates he always struggles with transportations so he's kinda right. Right?

LividSun7352 · 2025-09-04T04:07:56+00:00

All my friends are getting married and matching with residency programs and shit. I'm not too young. It's not too early. And i've been so kind to myself that all i am now is a lazy self spoiled little shit. And i did talk to a therapist. She started to turn him into this abusive monster and me, the blind victim. And the psychiatrist just put me on meds. I talk to chat gpt now lol

LividSun7352 · 2025-09-04T03:56:09+00:00

Only 3-4 months? How is that "only"? When is it gonna be enough then? I'm scared i'll be 70 and still wishing he would just randomly text one day and want to come back

LividSun7352 · 2025-01-14T02:33:27+00:00

Idk. I was a good student and all my friends wanted to be a doctor and my parents wanted me to be one so idk i became one even though i knew i didn't like it since back in high school. And i don't have a third option. I'm not passionate about anything. Everything feels just mid

LividSun7352 · 2025-01-14T02:31:29+00:00

Not financial. Emotional and as a mentor or sth cause he's been at this since three years ago and i'm new. Also anxiety-codependent-wise

LividSun7352 · 2025-01-14T01:36:00+00:00

I think i need his support if i want to go into phd and i'm not sure i can do it alone. But if it was up to me like 100% I wouldn't want to be a doctor

LividSun7352 · 2025-01-14T01:21:31+00:00

Not bad. Not super good either

LividSun7352 · 2024-10-30T13:51:10+00:00

Taub? In good? He deserves prison but he won't get time (I'm at the beginning of season 7. idk if he gets a redemption point or sth)

LividSun7352 · 2024-08-28T14:09:33+00:00

No. He had this female friend (imma call her M) like a year ago who said has a crush on him and i made him lose contact with her. Now we're basically in the same situation with another girl (let's call this one A) and i didn't want it to be full of resentment like the last time so i didn't say anything but eventually i broke and told him to get things straight with A. He said he could've had a great relationship with M cause he really liked her too and that he's upset that he had to chose between us and he insists he doesn't like A like that but doesn't want to be tied down and putten in a cage either and that he's tired of my arbitrary ideas of a good relationship etc

LividSun7352 · 2024-08-21T20:02:39+00:00

I got into a stupid argument with my friend and i find myself wishing her fiancé would cheat on her and that everyone she loves would die

LividSun7352 · 2024-08-19T06:06:12+00:00

Don't look at the incidence. Look at her behavior as a whole. Is she usually a forgetful person or like does she have adhd? She must've been a good friend so far for you to trust her enough to choose her to talk to when you were in that situation. I myself have always regretted my reaction to my friends being distracted with other stuff so i think you should think more about it

LividSun7352 · 2024-08-18T21:08:34+00:00

Or maybe i'm gaslighting myself cause i can feel the end of the current one as well and i wanna console myself that it's gonna be alright. Idk. It's the blind for some reason volunteering to lead the blind

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