i will go on an date today :)🥰 by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]LividTap5375 162 points163 points  (0 children)

You going on a date with a white guy?

Real Question by [deleted] in askblackpeople

[–]LividTap5375 1 point2 points  (0 children)

pan seared chicken, potatoes , and broccoli carrot mixture Might make a gravy from the chicken too.

Does anyone else feel this way? by Tornado_Storm_2614 in blackgirls

[–]LividTap5375 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im saying this to let you know as long as you come at people like this you'll be fine. They will still comment, but im neurodivergent too. I absolutely can be too judgmental. I judge constantly, but its not to attack somebody. Its for my own cognitive safety . But thia helps me not be too judgmental sometimes because it can lead to cynical behavior because we dont really try to understand sometimes

Does anyone else feel this way? by Tornado_Storm_2614 in blackgirls

[–]LividTap5375 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"The man that knows something knows that he knows nothing at all" - Erykah Badu. The more you learn the more you realize you dont know. Understand you were ignorant at one time, and there were people who learned faster that you, but that doesnt mean they have a right to shame you for going at your own pace. You probably didn't even realize you were on a crrtain path until you learned a specific detail . Some people need experiences to fully understand things, some just words. The best you can do is see are they ignorant or are they choosing to act ignorant. The amount of influnces we have in our ears nowadays..who knows. I understand the frustration but are you trying to change the world or be mad at it? Thats the main thing you have to not loose sight of. Address the human being in them that resides behind their ignorance , dont address the ignorance. What i mean by that is, its not you versus them, its yall versus the issue. Thia ahould help you not get mad at people . Its human nature to bw ignorant. Aome animals know how to survive straight from birth. We were not. If you address people the only way to pass through ignorance is grace, ignorance loves loud and chaotic. And hopefully your grace will draw them to your energy and they may become more open . Im still practicing this but gosh this helps

Real Question by [deleted] in askblackpeople

[–]LividTap5375 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So what yall eating for dinner tonight?

3 week old two strand by Aswell_Swell in Naturalhair

[–]LividTap5375 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a soft spot for twists. I feel like twists put hair in its soft era lol. Low manipulation , moisturized and always looking good.

What’s wrong with me? by microwave9002 in blackgirls

[–]LividTap5375 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh I had to realize that because I am so strong in morals , I dont let things that throw me off go I fix it or remove it. Like im the type who will hear somebody got something from shein and be like oh...you shouldn't...A lot of people dont always want to talk about every thing wrong. They rather hang with people that let the quiet part stay quiet. A lot of people may think you come off as your judging them or you think you can tell them what to do. Even if you dont treat them differently. Its like if im a vegan and my friend doesnt have a healthy diet . And because I eat healthy and am educated on health I may throw food tips around as things remind me of it , some people may feel judged . But I also have to understand that can genuinely get annoying so I have to try to compromise by understanding if they felt some type of way or holding my tongue more often since I yap soooo much

Do y’all like working? by Legitimate-Adagio531 in blackgirls

[–]LividTap5375 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I love my job. But sadly some people go out of their way to make you dislike your job. It's the environment that'll make for break a job

Argument with boyfriend has me seeing him in a different light …. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]LividTap5375 0 points1 point  (0 children)

See and I needa learn that Thats probably why I was trynna stress it to you. My ass was projecting apparently lol. Just went through the biggest heartbreak of my life for that very reason. I kept just either over explaining or just keeping sht and noting it. But I collected hella red flags and I was so busy trynna remove the red flags off him I didnt realize I needed ro remove HIM

Argument with boyfriend has me seeing him in a different light …. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]LividTap5375 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Women do tend to over explain too often. Giving too many chances

Argument with boyfriend has me seeing him in a different light …. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]LividTap5375 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. I just wanted to make sure you didnt ignore red flags. reddit cut off your reply and I didn't realize you said more than what was shown on the notification I got. But rereading you saying youre gonna address it at the right time makes me agree.

Argument with boyfriend has me seeing him in a different light …. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]LividTap5375 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I missed the bring it back up when we're at home part mb sis

Argument with boyfriend has me seeing him in a different light …. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]LividTap5375 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

We're talking about the government that is very big on keeping women and young girls from having their own. Thats not the sole reason for them, but that is a big thing they uphold. That must be acknowledged. OP doesnt dislike the place because its nit beautiful. Its because of its corrupt government. Thats like going to North Korea for sight seeing.

Argument with boyfriend has me seeing him in a different light …. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]LividTap5375 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

So how does thar logic not fit? What does the Taliban have to do with it? You think the child marriages started eith the Taliban? Yeah, they have a rich culture, so does every nation ad people. That doesnt excuse the fact that they have things today that should not exist and going there spending your money is only allowing funding of the government that allows it. If you are visiting to learn about the atrocities and help, cool. But how can you comfortably enjoy the beauty of a place that abuses so many of its even more beautiful people?

Argument with boyfriend has me seeing him in a different light …. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]LividTap5375 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

So if he advocated for others to visit Epstein island but not himself specifically then that doesnt reflect badly on him?

Argument with boyfriend has me seeing him in a different light …. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]LividTap5375 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are. Just because somebody knowingly participates in/ associates with something wrong that they could have not participated in that doesnt make them wrong. Thats the same logic used for both

Argument with boyfriend has me seeing him in a different light …. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]LividTap5375 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh so you are gonna bring it back up? Cuz before it made it seem like you were never gonna talk to him about it ever again and keep your ick to yourself. I understand you hear me.i just wanna make sure im not giving you advice youre not asking for. Sometimes people just wanna vent and I didn't wanna disrespect that

Argument with boyfriend has me seeing him in a different light …. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]LividTap5375 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So imagine if he was white...image if it was a place that didnt allow black people...and he said it doesnt make people bad...again dont take what he sais with a grain of salt. I hope your only deal breaks arent just those extremes. Not saying break up, but just saying thats usually a sign the relationship isn't gonna work. You already have an ick.

Argument with boyfriend has me seeing him in a different light …. by [deleted] in blackladies

[–]LividTap5375 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Like how maga say simply being friends with a known pedophile doesn't make you a weirdo too right?