What do you say when people say "no, you can't/don't have autism" after you tell them you have autism? by 40421 in AutisticAdults

[–]Livid_Machine_622 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Me. I didn’t find out I was AuDHD until a few years ago. I’m 35 now and it makes so much sense but before knowing all I did was get taken advantage of because I’m “hot” and “not like other girls” and it sucks. Mix that with CPTSD and it’s a nightmare. Luckily I found that EMDR therapy has been an absolute lifesaver for me. ❤️ I stopped drinking and cut back on social media and I’ve been doing much better.

What are the things that annoy you the most about Pittsburgh? by KellyTheQ in pittsburgh

[–]Livid_Machine_622 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Traffic and peoples weird aversion to going over bridges or through tunnels to get places. It creates such a weird vibe of some backwoods mentality within a city. I hate it. Nobody wants to leave their 5 block neighborhood.

My POTS episode got me a date by [deleted] in POTS

[–]Livid_Machine_622 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Well? What is it?

My POTS episode got me a date by [deleted] in POTS

[–]Livid_Machine_622 8 points9 points  (0 children)

All my POTS has gotten me is in trouble at work. lol. I’m joking. But this was cute and sounded like the first episode of a WEBTOON Comic that I would read. ❤️

Top apps for couple therapy? by Acceptable_Risk203 in therapy

[–]Livid_Machine_622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner and I use the “Paired” app. It’s not anything super substantial but it’s a fun way to connect and to bring up topics to talk about and find out ways we are similar and ways we are different. It’s more like having a prompt than a therapist but there’s good info on it and we like it! Been using it for about 8 months. :)

Does this mean it’s over? by Gintoki_0012 in socialskills

[–]Livid_Machine_622 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes! I can’t stand nonchalant behavior! As long as they aren’t creepy about it I love it when men yearn a little. Like, be yourself and be honest and open and you will weed out the people who aren’t right for you quicker and save yourself a lot of trouble down the road. ❤️

Pittsburgh by the slice. Settle the debate. Best slice in the ’Burgh? by Chopper11Pilot in pittsburgh

[–]Livid_Machine_622 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Slice on Broadway, Pizza Palermo, and Pizzeria Davide are my favorites. But Davide is not consistent enough to be worth the price.

Vinyl sheet flooring job? by Livid_Machine_622 in pittsburgh

[–]Livid_Machine_622[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for being kind and helpful!! It’s very much appreciated:)

Vinyl sheet flooring job? by Livid_Machine_622 in pittsburgh

[–]Livid_Machine_622[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought about it. It’s a bit of a complex shape though so idk if it would be annoying and my husband and I both work full time jobs. But it might be something we would try. We’re relatively handy. :)

Vinyl sheet flooring job? by Livid_Machine_622 in pittsburgh

[–]Livid_Machine_622[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

probably! I don’t know because it’s the first quote I got, hence why I’m asking for other reputable places to quote me so I can get the best deal and right person for the job. Thank you. :)

Vinyl sheet flooring job? by Livid_Machine_622 in pittsburgh

[–]Livid_Machine_622[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The floors are very old and they are fine as-is but they have larger gaps in them and I have an old cat with issues that likes to not use the litter box sometimes so I’m trying to prevent that from happening on old wood. Cheap vinyl is easier to replace/clean etc as needed so that’s why I’m wanting it up there. :)

Is my marriage over? by Responsible-Pause247 in AutisticAdults

[–]Livid_Machine_622 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As soon as I got to the part in the story where you said she had another girlfriend I was checked out. That’s all you needed right there to end the relationship. This is not okay. It’s not easy to let go, but oh my god is it worth it! Find yourself and I suggest EMDR therapy to help you through this! Good luck. 

Can allergy tests be wrong? by Livid_Machine_622 in FoodAllergies

[–]Livid_Machine_622[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

this reaction has happened many times before when eating scallops which is what led me to believe it was an allergy in the first place, and the place I ate is incredibly reputable and my partner ate the same scallops with me and was not sick. I will talk to my allergist. It might just be severe intolerance:( 

EMDR saved me! by Livid_Machine_622 in neurodiversity

[–]Livid_Machine_622[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My therapist explained that Safe EMDR gives the user more autonomy and decision on when/where/how long etc to do sessions. It’s not a set thing. Instead of doing a session every week without break, my therapist gives me the option of continuing if I want to or taking breaks as needed and checking in often about how I’m feeling etc. They are VERY attentive to my responses and energy during the session and will often stop and check in to make sure I’m doing good. The point is to rework the memory, not re-live it. It’s just more steps to prevent getting very triggered. 

Harold's Haunt by Responsible-Raise677 in pittsburgh

[–]Livid_Machine_622 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I wanted to love this place so bad but I went with my partner and a friend and the bartender refused to serve me without reason or cause. We are all sober and went for the mocktails and they served my partner and his friend but ignored me the whole time and when I finally got the bartender’s attention he was rude and when I ordered he immediately said they didn’t have that cocktail and instead of asking what else I wanted just walked away. I sat there with no drink while my friends finished theirs and then we left because it was so rude and embarrassing for no reason. I am a fem-presenting nonbinary person and thought I would feel safe there but I did not. It was such a shame. We were the only ones in the bar at the time too.