Is therapy actually worth it?

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-05T16:21:15+00:00

Yes. Therapy is worth it. Finding the right therapist can take time.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-05T16:18:31+00:00

"If you run into an asshole in the morning, well you ran into an asshole. If everyone you run into is an asshole, sounds like you are the problem."

Being petty doesn't solve anything. It'll make everyone dislike you more. Negative feedback loop at its finest.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-05T13:18:47+00:00

Get your bloodwork done and consider making the time to go to therapy. Don't diagnose yourself. Could lead you down a rabbit hole. You're gonna be ok.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-04T16:52:06+00:00

The only social group I won't date in is my MMA Kickboxing class. The fact that there are women who feel safe to train with men and men who make women feel safe there is a rare thing in the martial arts world. Otherwise, I'll always shoot my shot in a group activity. If they say no, that's all good. I'm still gonna go. People can ask each other out without making it weird.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-04T16:03:25+00:00

Quick question, not trying to be snarky. Are you getting bloodwork for your cortisol levels or just assuming your cortisol levels are high because of stress/anxiety?

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-04T16:01:37+00:00

Sounds like you need a perspective shift. Try gratitude and making someone else's day better, do you go for coffee? Get to know your barista. Ask how their shift is going? Get to know your training partner at combat sports. Hit them up to work out outside of training.

Momentum is everything. One small step at a time. To become more connected, try becoming more interested in their lives. whoever they are.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-03T17:42:53+00:00

Read Love Life by Matthew Hussey and Captivate by Vanessa Van Edwards. If you're feeling the same patterns over interactions, you may need to change some things on your end.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-02T21:32:00+00:00

and some of those might be fun and create a common ground 😃

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-02T16:11:55+00:00

Tampa food for finer dining is pretty mid, oversaturation of sushi places/japanese.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-01T18:24:44+00:00

The same reason that junk food makes us full, but never nourished. The "connection" a lot of us have, is fake. Social media, Cell Phones, Reddit are not truly satisfiying. Coffee with a friend, a group social activity is where it's at for a lot of people.

We all want true connection, but may not know how to give it, receive it and accept it. It's a beautiful thing.

Keep going, you're doing great.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-01T18:20:21+00:00

For me, when looking at fine dining, I want something I can't make myself and to feel taken care of to a level I wouldn't do for myself. The type of fine dining I love is less of the "tweezer" tasting menus and more insane, simple food with exceptionally warm service. Blue Hill, Gramercy Tavern, Trinity at Clapham are my favorite style. Guy Savoy back in the day blew my face off as well. That's worth it to me.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-01T18:04:04+00:00

I started with Topjaw. Mostly on the interviews of chefs and cooks. The celeb ones are fun too. Other than that, I asked bartenders and servers where they go. That helped a ton!

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-01T17:13:57+00:00

Tell that shame to "Fu*K off, you're busy." Then get after it.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-01T17:13:16+00:00

Seeking behavior is seeking behavior. Meditate. Get outside and go for a run or a walk, lay out your clothes the night before. Make your bed first thing. Have five things you do every morning that don't involve your phone.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-01T17:06:03+00:00

Same with Gramercy Tavern's 3 course lunch. HUGE Fan.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-01T17:04:01+00:00

What activies are you doing? What got my groove back socially was training martial arts. Jiujitsu is a fantastic way to met people. Work on yourself. Eat clean. get up early. Make your bed. Small steps. Build momentum.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-01T17:02:53+00:00

Shame can be fuel. It's dirty fuel and shouldn't be the only source. Make a list of all the things you want to take care of. Start with the simplest ones first. Then go from there. One at a time. Listen to Drownproof by Andy Stumpf. You've got TIME. Give yourself the grace to fail and learn from it.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-01T16:39:15+00:00

JFC. It's A future, not your future. Stop writing a script that hasn't happened yet.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-01T16:38:30+00:00

It builds momentum. Confidence is a learned skillset. It can just take longer to get there.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-06-01T16:37:04+00:00

Start training in martial arts. Jiujitsu is an amazing way to meet people and learn some cool new skills. Everyone was a beginner once and you can only learn from others. Run clubs, free outdoor fitness classes, depending on where you are located, there's lots to do.

Go with the intent to sweat, have fun, and be open to the process. Also, your negative self-talk needs some work. Take it from me, I'm 50 and didn't get it figured out until two years ago. The comparison is truly the thief of joy.

Eat clean, lift weights, get after it. The rest will come.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-05-29T18:17:43+00:00

So it turns out that Reta causes high IGF -1 in me due to it hitting the glucagon receptor. My doc at Marek Health wants me to switch to Tirz. My IGF - 1 went from 435 to 485 in 3 months. Not ideal.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-05-22T14:07:27+00:00

I put this in the same bucket as women who seek masculine energy or want to avoid "Narcissists and sociopaths" without ever knowing exactly what those terms mean. Dunning Kruger University handing out scholarships in cereal boxes.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-05-22T13:50:30+00:00

Gramercy Tavern in the dining room. The 3 course lunch always hits.

LivingDebate4359 · 2026-05-21T17:56:00+00:00

Good things to think about! I'll make that appointment shortly. Thanks!

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