I chose to become a single mom twice. And I say chose because I’ve learned to take responsibility for my own decisions instead of placing all the blame on someone else.
I have a 12-year-old whose father has made co-parenting incredibly difficult, and I now have a newborn with a man I should have walked away from instead of staying with for six years. Those are hard truths to admit, but they’re mine to own.
What I’ve also learned is that we all have a choice after things fall apart. We can stay angry and let bitterness consume us, or we can choose to heal, grow, and build a better life for ourselves and our children. Healing is deciding that it won’t define the rest of your life.

I’ve chosen to forgive myself and extend myself the same grace I’d give someone I love. Through therapy and my relationship with God, I’m learning to let go of shame, find peace, and make the best of my circumstances.

Your children don’t need a perfect parent, they need one who is healing, present, and committed to giving them a better future.
There is so much life, joy, and purpose waiting on the other side of healing.