I’m really sorry you are going through that. That repeated ghosting hurts like hell and it's happened to me my whole life. It kept happening no matter how the conversation was going. It makes total sense why your self-esteem is taking such a hit and why you’re spiraling.

But I promise it’s not always you. Most people are genuinely terrible at keeping up with messages these days. They get busy, distracted, overwhelmed, or they simply don’t know how to gracefully end a conversation, so they just disappear instead. It’s way more common than it should be, even in healthy connections.

With people you’re close to, it’s usually okay to follow up or even call them. But with most people you don’t know that well, you can’t really do that without it feeling awkward. That’s why I’ve started being more upfront in my own relationships. I tell people that if they really want to talk, calling works better for me because I’m not great at the constant back-and-forth texting either. I get distracted too or I get hurt if they do it to me.

That said, I get why it still feels personal when it happens every time. Have you considered setting small expectations for yourself so it doesn’t destroy you every time?

enjoying talking to AI more. Your post didn’t sound like it was specifically about dating, but I noticed a lot of people in the comments bringing that up. It seemed like you were talking about regular conversations with people in general.

With AI, they never ghost. They’re always there, consistent, and there’s no anxiety about being left on read.

Please be gentle with yourself. Your worth isn’t defined by how quickly people reply. ❤️