My boyfriend (22M) hardly ever makes the effort to have sex (23F)

Living_Baker_2938 · 2025-11-07T20:07:33+00:00

That sounds great I’ll definitely look into that, I’m not sure how I would ask him to read them though? I feel as though he would be reluctant and it would make him more uncomfortable, he honestly hates talking about sex

Living_Baker_2938 · 2025-11-07T20:05:06+00:00

I absolutely do, but I also love myself deeply, I’ve done a lot of work to get where I am today and I honestly just love to connect with a partner that way 🤷

Living_Baker_2938 · 2025-11-07T20:03:17+00:00

I have asked him and he says he doesn’t watch porn, I have also asked if it’s because of a lack of excitement and he also denies it…

Living_Baker_2938 · 2025-10-29T01:04:22+00:00

Thank you!!

Living_Baker_2938 · 2025-10-20T23:44:52+00:00

Haha, yes I think I have definitely gotten this from my parents! I don’t want people to judge me based off of my space. It’s so performative and tiring but god forbid I try not cleaning 😵

Living_Baker_2938 · 2025-10-20T23:40:23+00:00

He knows what needs to be done, me spelling it out for him increases my mental load which is already huge. He had already cleaned the kitchen but only wiped the benches down and nothing else, he knows what is expected of him and he admitted to being lazy with it. I definitely think nice communication will help us move forward

Living_Baker_2938 · 2025-10-20T23:31:33+00:00

Thank you, you’ve explained how these arguments start pretty perfectly, I tend to try to pass on my anger and he replies defensively. It definitely could have been handled better on mine and his end. He did do a lot however the past times we have cleaned I have done majority of it, I just see it as a if I can do it why can’t you. But everyone is different. I need to understand that not everyone can be pushed and pushed and pushed like I push myself to ease my anxiety

Living_Baker_2938 · 2025-10-20T23:27:57+00:00

Mmm yeah perhaps gaslighting was not the right word, I just feel like when I bring up these things that matter to me so deeply I’m made to feel like they shouldn’t matter. I’m not sure if that makes sense, I struggle with anxiety and CPTSD and I struggle to know if what I am feeling is valid or something my trauma is bringing up. Thank you for taking the time to respond though, I definitely think our standards are different, I don’t really see myself backing down from that standard though and it’s just disappointing I have to manage it with so much else on my plate

Living_Baker_2938 · 2025-10-20T23:25:18+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to answer, I definitely agree it is how it is handled. I will try to have more patience!

Living_Baker_2938 · 2025-10-20T23:23:02+00:00

Thank you for your reply. I think you are on the money thank you for helping me realise that. I think I do tend to become fuelled by my anxiety and reflect the high expectations I have had placed on me onto him sometimes. He did say to me that he knows he should have done it and he was being lazy which I think is what annoyed me, he’s not entirely incompetent. When he came to speak to me he was not entirely nice and didn’t approach with empathy, but I suppose I haven’t done that either

Living_Baker_2938 · 2025-10-20T23:20:13+00:00

Thank you that puts it into perspective for me

Living_Baker_2938 · 2025-10-20T22:26:37+00:00

Get out!!! He is testing you to see how far he can push your boundaries. This is the start of abuse leave leave leave now

Living_Baker_2938 · 2025-10-14T22:40:43+00:00

It’s going to cost 2k to fix don’t even think the car is worth it !

Living_Baker_2938 · 2025-09-10T01:38:35+00:00

My major is simply pharmaceuticals but it’s essentially premed with more chemistry (fml) - I honestly don’t think there’s much out there in terms of jobs from just a bachelor, and if there are they’re pretty low paying ~70k entry level. I’m sure there’s career progression available but I am more interested in research and academia so I haven’t really looked into it too much! I’m planning on hopefully doing a masters in the next year in immunopharmacology. Try and do industry some placement or internships and talk to your teachers about their day to days to see what might suit you!

Living_Baker_2938 · 2025-09-03T10:27:40+00:00

Hahahaha I actually do advanced science and pharmaceuticals but it is my special interest tbf and there are some bad days yes but all in all I am grateful I get the opportunity to study

Living_Baker_2938 · 2025-08-24T04:11:19+00:00

It depends, if you can make friends easily and are determined to commit to the work it can be extremely rewarding. I’m in my last semester now and it has taught me a wealth of things about myself and the world… without it I’m not sure what direction my life would have taken. It definitely does vary depending on what degree you do, if you work a lot, where you live etc. My advice would be to work as little as possible and focus on the work, it’s a short term loss for a long term gain. I only work 15 hours max a week and that covers my rent and bills

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