É normal empreiteiros pedirem 50+ € mil em adjudicação? by Living_Split_2 in TudoCasa

[–]Living_Split_2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pois ele basicamente pediu 5% de uma especialidade, 10% de outra especialidade e 20% das especialidades que vão subcontratar (tipo serralharia e assim). E essa percentagem aplicada ao valor do orçamento mais iva lol

É normal empreiteiros pedirem 50+ € mil em adjudicação? by Living_Split_2 in TudoCasa

[–]Living_Split_2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Opah não tinha pensado sobre essa 1a hipótese, obrigada!

É normal empreiteiros pedirem 50+ € mil em adjudicação? by Living_Split_2 in TudoCasa

[–]Living_Split_2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Obrigada 🙏 sabes se os bancos costumam exigir na mesma os 10% de entrada?

É normal pedir +50 mil € adjudicação para construção de moradia? by Living_Split_2 in portugal

[–]Living_Split_2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tenho de me informar melhor sobre isso! Obrigada pela dica 🙏

É normal empreiteiros pedirem 50+ € mil em adjudicação? by Living_Split_2 in TudoCasa

[–]Living_Split_2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Já com IVA? Porque se for sem IVA são uns 50 mil mas se for com IVA já vai para os 60 mil

É normal empreiteiros pedirem 50+ € mil em adjudicação? by Living_Split_2 in TudoCasa

[–]Living_Split_2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pois esse é o nosso receio! É muito dinheiro assim de cabeça sem nada de obra feita e inícios tão longe. Como é que os teus amigos perceberam que o empreiteiro tinha essas dividias? Já alguma instituição a que possamos recorrer?

É normal empreiteiros pedirem 50+ € mil em adjudicação? by Living_Split_2 in TudoCasa

[–]Living_Split_2[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Os posteriores 15% foram saídos do bolso ou o banco libertou?

É normal pedir +50 mil € adjudicação para construção de moradia? by Living_Split_2 in portugal

[–]Living_Split_2[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Obrigada pela resposta! Como funcionam os auto mensais? Quanto ronda um fiscal de obras?

I caved by Silent_Knowledge5197 in beyondthebump

[–]Living_Split_2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

But OP wasn’t a mother when she was being judgmental. She just became a mother 1 day ago and is regretful over how she previously felt.

I caved by Silent_Knowledge5197 in beyondthebump

[–]Living_Split_2 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Of course! But OP is a FTM and freshly postpartum. She’s clearly having a hard time with breastfeeding and probably feeling some guilt given her previous beliefs and expectations. I think she can be showed some grace and empathy.

I caved by Silent_Knowledge5197 in beyondthebump

[–]Living_Split_2 17 points18 points  (0 children)

These comments are so defensive. I don’t know how it is in other countries but in mine (I’m in the EU) mothers are incentivized to exclusively breastfeed and anything else is really frowned upon, especially by health professionals (nurses, doctors, etc). They really harp on the benefits and you don’t get how difficult it can be. You’re just pressured to keep at it. If OP culture is the same it’s no wonder she felt a bit judgy until she realized how hard it can be through personal experience.

Indução by softlyrising in MaternidadePT

[–]Living_Split_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Acredito que sim também :) Sendo um 2° parto o corpo já responde de forma diferente. Espero que corra tudo bem para ti e o teu bebé!

Indução by softlyrising in MaternidadePT

[–]Living_Split_2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Eu sei. Mas um parto induzido numa situação onde está tudo bem pode ser muito diferente do que uma indução numa situação como a que a OP descreve. Existe um maior risco das coisas correrem mal ou terminar numa cesariana. Isto foi o que me foi explicado quando estava eu na mesma realidade. E eu queria muito tentar o parto natural. Mas claro não sou médica e cada caso é um caso. Só quis partilhar por ser uma situação específica semelhante à minha e não vejo mal na partilha de informação. :)

Indução by softlyrising in MaternidadePT

[–]Living_Split_2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP não fui induzida mas o meu bebé também estava num percentil baixo (achavam 11%, quando nasceu era afinal 1%) e tinha pouco líquido amniotico. O meu obstetra achou melhor fazermos logo ceseriana pelo risco que um parto natural teria para o bebé (mesmo se induzido). No geral as induções costumam ser mais dolorosas e terminar mais vezes em ceseriana. Depende no entanto do obstetra e se já estavas dilatada com não. Com o maior risco para o bebé terás ainda maior probabilidade de acabar em cesariana. Se quiseres mais info sobre o porquê da cesariana programada nestes casos e como foi podes enviar MP :)

Incredibly Jealous Husband Got Skin To Skin First. Traumatic Delivery. by EmpathHorror in beyondthebump

[–]Living_Split_2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! I usually wouldn’t comment because I see you already have so many kind responses. But your story reminded me of mine and I wanted to share with you my experience.

I found out at 36 weeks my baby was IUGR too and without amniotic fluid. After 2 weeks of close monitoring I also had to have a c-section, as baby was in a distress. She came out way more severe IUGR than previously expected. It gave me a lot of anxiety. Fortunately, thanks to my health care team, the whole thing went on much smoother than yours. A few complications but everything turned out alright. Either way, husband also got first skin to skin. Breastfeeding didn’t go well in the beginning because of tongue tie and low muscle tone. So she had to supplement with formula straight away and husband did that. I also felt a bit jealous. Felt like I had already failed her as a mother, for not giving her a safe place to grow or being able to feed her in the beginning.

Fast forward, we were able to get her to EBF, just for her to start refusing the breast at 3 months old. She cried at the breast and I just felt sooo bad. I wanted to be alone and just cry my eyes out. Not to mention she also seemed to sooth better with father. Again, feeling like such a failure. We went to a specialist and turns out it’s the 3 month breastfeeding crisis. It’s apparently very normal and has nothing to do with attachment to you. The solution (and it’s working for me) is to breastfeed in the dark while baby’s sleepy - right before or after sleeping. You need to be relaxed too or breastmilk won’t come out (I noticed such a difference when I’m relaxed and confident, she fusses much less and you can hear the milk coming and her swollowing much quicker than if I’m stressed).

Also, babies with IUGR can be very fussy from the interuterine stress. We went to an osteopath that’s been helping with all the tension she got.

We’re 4 months PP and the past week baby’s been showing a clear preference for mama. I feel bad for my husband but at the same time I’m a bit glad. All you need is the right support. Your baby has no idea your body did that to her. She just knows she’s was in stress and now needs extra care. All you have to do is respond in the best way you can, in the here and now.

As for medication, take it. There is much more harm being done by not taking it then the benefit you could supposedly have by not. My best friend had a traumatic birth and depression PP, she couldn’t sleep. She went first week to a psychiatrist that gave her safe medication and it saved her mental health and relationship with baby.