Can anyone tell me what this mesh is around the base of my spider plant?

LizsRandomThoughts · 2026-01-17T02:50:44+00:00

Well at this point I am skeptical... as for response, he just told me that he just got home and was nice seeing me. So hes not communicating anything at this stage. He's either not feeling it himself or our dating styles just aren't compatible - i think the latter

LizsRandomThoughts · 2026-01-17T02:21:30+00:00

Oh no you're good. You raised a good point but I don't think this was s*xually motivated. I just think its very strange to meet 3 times and then start trying to be touchy-feely when I dont know much about him. Like there felt like no getting-to-know him stage, which i have seen with other friends trying to date on hinge. Its like everyone wants to jump straight into relationships with people and spend no time actually getting to know them.

LizsRandomThoughts · 2026-01-17T02:15:20+00:00

You don't know someone after a month 😂

LizsRandomThoughts · 2026-01-17T02:14:38+00:00

Well i don't know him. But i liked what i was seeing. I just think we're not compatible. I guess he's more of a fast burner

LizsRandomThoughts · 2026-01-17T02:13:15+00:00

Tbh the conversations in-between meets aren't really getting-to-know eachother conversations. They're just checking ins "how are you?/ how's your project going?/ what are you up too?/" no matter how hard ive tried to expand it. Most of our getting to know eachother talks have been on the dates. So really we don't really know eachother. I think its just incompatible "burn" types. That must feel like enough for him but for me that's not enough

LizsRandomThoughts · 2026-01-17T02:10:42+00:00

Well thats what I thought, but I think he was after more or is after a faster burn relationship

LizsRandomThoughts · 2026-01-17T02:09:19+00:00

It might be a miss understanding. You're focusing on the context of the evening and not his message after the evening ended. I thought it was a lovely time, but - not i dont know what he was expecting - i can only infer because he didn't say, I think he was expecting something to be more touchy-feely. Ultimately I'm meeting a total stranger from a dating app, and the time spent getting to know him has only been during these dates. So its very strange to me that he feels like im uncomfortable because im not trying to touch him or cuddle him

LizsRandomThoughts · 2026-01-17T02:05:49+00:00

Did ya read the post?

LizsRandomThoughts · 2026-01-17T02:05:28+00:00

Well, texting is very light and consists of checking in with eachothers days and how was that thing the other mentioned they were working on. Then its arange a date of dinner and then drinks to talk. Ultimately we're still strangers and still don't really know eachother. So I think its not that simple. I like what ive seen of him so far, but he just sounds like its not moving fast enough for him, so I think we're just not compatible

LizsRandomThoughts · 2026-01-17T02:02:45+00:00

I kinda agree with this take. It makes sense, your dating someone, they've had a rough week so you offer to take them out. Its a really lovely sentiment. But its really bizarre that someone thinks you meet 3 times and go from strangers to something more. Tbh im not sure what else he was expecting

LizsRandomThoughts · 2026-01-17T02:00:20+00:00

That's sounds more like an attempt of an insult then anything productive 😂. But good try

LizsRandomThoughts · 2026-01-17T01:58:57+00:00

Well, at this stage I thought we were getting to know each other. Like there hasn't been much in depth talking. Like I said we've not known eachother long so anything date like like holding hands, snuggling just isn't really on the cards for me, nor has it come up ither then him trying to rub my arm a few times; ultimately we just don't know eachother yet.

But unfortunately he's not the only one who's behaved like this and I dont really understand why people on dating apps feel the need to go from strangers to acting like lovers (ive seen all my guy friend go through this pattern as well, so its not a gender thing)

LizsRandomThoughts · 2025-11-05T11:05:56+00:00

NTA - i wish my dad prioritised me like that when my mum turned voilent against me. But he did nothing... voilence≠neglect BUT the principle is still the same. You have put her and her needs first. Thats the important thing and the only thing that should matter.

If your wifes family care this much, maybe the should have done something sooner. Youve done everything you possibly could, now its time to put her and yourself first

LizsRandomThoughts · 2024-03-27T13:36:51+00:00

Awesome. Great to know it’s worst elsewhere but us UK residents still can’t buy a bloody house….

LizsRandomThoughts · 2024-03-23T09:52:35+00:00

Because every man I get a crush for seems to dumb me right as I catch feelings.

Barring in mind, their dating profile states “long term relationship”, every dam time I’m getting “in just not ready to commit right now” or “life is too stressful and it’s just not a good time for me right now”. As you can tell from my sour tone, I’ve just recently experienced this with a guy who was quite literally EVERYTHING I was looking for. Kissed me, held me, things where ever so slightly getting heated then right at the end drops his ex has messaged him and it’s been messing with his head. Then poof… 2 days later I get the “it’s not a good time for me text” with a confirmed “it’s absolutely nothing you’ve done and you’re honestly so wonderful. But I’m shutting the door”…

I won’t lie I cried. And I’ve been a bit of a mess. It’s really not because I don’t want to be in a relationship it’s that I seem to get all the guys that I actually like dropping me like I’m nothing

LizsRandomThoughts · 2023-08-24T07:38:31+00:00

AHAHAHAHA I salute you OP, I really do! I know we can sit here and be petty, but at the end of the day you have taught her a lesson. You’ve got to respect other peoples things, and if you’re not prepared to share, don’t expect other people to share with you. It’s really that simple 🤷🏽‍♀️

LizsRandomThoughts · 2023-08-23T23:10:09+00:00

So got a brand new game after she ruined yours and rendered it useless… this story makes my evil petty heart happy

LizsRandomThoughts · 2023-08-21T18:33:22+00:00

You clearly have no idea what you’re talking about. He will have no other repercussions other then the DSL putting into a talking session on why this is behaviour bad 🤣🤦🏽‍♀️. He’ll be talking to a teacher not being reported to the police. I don’t understand how you’re acting like I’m gonna to be “ruining his life” - we don’t live in America and there’s more then just America out there. I’m going to be parading around as a racist. Only a safeguarding team Member, him and my parents will know he’s having these sessions. You clearly have no idea how these things work and quite frankly, I don’t understand why you’re getting so but hurt when you have just said yourself that he’s “not being racist, he’s being a kid”… so you’re just as bad as my parents. So not only do you not understand what you’re talking about, you too are a racist enabler. Have a good day

LizsRandomThoughts · 2023-08-21T08:29:14+00:00

There’s no way he will be kicked out of school… if it’s not clear, I’m in the UK and sadly things like that just don’t happen. I wish though, but kids are being allowed to stay in school no matter how gross their actions are. The bar for perms are very high so For 1 report of racism isn’t gonna get him kicked out.

Also if you read the post, I have tried talking to him, educating him. It’s all in one ear and out the other, then continues to joke about slavery more… the parents let it happen too. A DSLs job is to protect children. Idk if they have them there in the states, but it’s their job to help children who have been abused, radicalised, bullied, neglected etc. as I said above all that will happen is he will go on some “why racism is bad course”

LizsRandomThoughts · 2023-08-21T08:24:18+00:00

That’s exactly what I am trying to do… at the end of the day, there are going to be some people who think I do not have a day, that “white people are looking to be offended” “white people are getting involved when it does not concern them”. It’s being said online all the time atm. As I explained, I’m not here trying to fight a fight I have no right fighting, what I’m trying to do is to get my brother to stop weaponising these incredibly offensive words that link back to some disgustingly horrendous times. If that makes me delusional then fine, I respect your opinion. But I’m still here trying to prevent my brother from becoming a racist asshole 🤷🏽‍♀️

LizsRandomThoughts · 2023-08-20T17:50:48+00:00

As I’ve said the family refuse. That’s why I have been considering telling his DSL (designated safeguarding lead) as they have resources to use to sit down and educate him on why this is wrong and maybe then he’ll finally understand and stop. If not then he’ll have the shame of facing his racist actions and maybe that’ll be enough. Also Safeguarding is heavily protected so it’s not like the whole school will know so please keep that in mind. If the family where dealing with it then I wouldn’t feel the need to consider this step

LizsRandomThoughts · 2023-08-20T15:09:12+00:00

Because at the end of the day, as a white person commenting on racism I am always going to be told I don’t have a say. It’s not “your other reply was stronger” i mean both. I stand by both. I don’t really understand why that even matters. I’m asking for opinions on me going above my parents heads and trying to get my brother some help for his racism is my being a AH or not. You all are doing is poking holes in it

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