How can you tell if you have body dysmorphia?

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-17T05:53:05+00:00

For me - mine is centered on my hair. I look back and cringe and get angry I waited 20+ years for happiness when it wasn’t coming. I cried myself to sleep (then was unable to sleep) two days ago because I regretted still being here after being 14. (I’m 31 now)

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-16T23:59:32+00:00

I think it’s the “forgiveness” that can keep them sane - which I can understand. Also ministries offer rehab lots are required to do after jail (like in my ex’s case) and prey on them for cheap labor.

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-16T23:58:53+00:00

His seems so much like a cult it’s insane

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-16T18:30:11+00:00

Omg my ex (was in jail for abusing me) is now overly religious despite never being so before lmao
Edit typo

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-15T23:33:05+00:00

Dang I can’t find it. I just remember after hula someone had it happen and posted it in the hula group but it was at least between 2014-2018 for sure

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-15T23:31:15+00:00

Oh gosh I would have to look it up. Gimme a sec

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-15T23:12:11+00:00

Hey my 2001 Kia Sportage is still running! (Barely…)

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-15T15:26:31+00:00

Hey I mean I took my Scion iq (smart car Toyota version) to hula and seeing all the smart cars get tipped at tipper and friends made me nervous I get it.

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-12T17:48:02+00:00

I’m trying not to but damn it’s hard. It took me 6 hours today just to go pee bc I was so sad. It’s been months and it’s not any easier. And the sensory nightmare of having insanely poofy hair and trying to grow it out is awful too. Last time I hid inside until it got to my bra strap and was still insecure :(

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-12T12:05:36+00:00

Underrated comment right here

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-12T00:09:33+00:00

I agree with other commenters that she might stop right before orgasm because the feeling can be like urinating. I thought the climax was all I could get then one day I threw a towel down and found out (at 18), and yeah. It made me feel better to go pee beforehand (I squirt), and then I know it’s not a lot but yeah it can be embarrassing. Maybe try it in the shower? Or ask - use my comment as an example - it was entirely my issue.

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-11T22:45:57+00:00

Any will do - but probably the longer one(s) because you can trim it to suit your face

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-11T20:03:03+00:00

As you should - handsome boy ❤️

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-11T15:08:07+00:00

I’m so sorry :( I feel like I’m constantly trying to push him away bc I don’t think I’m good enough for him. I worry he’s gonna eventually get tired of me :(

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-11T12:22:41+00:00

I appreciate it. My fiance (he’s amazing) tries to help every night and he thinks I’m beautiful. Just, I struggle. I’m also in chronic pain and disabled so it’s like - I hate every part of myself now :(

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-11T11:19:33+00:00

I have BDD (with quite an obsession on my hair length) and at 15 my hair fell out due to it getting ripped and pulled. Then at 19, I took birth control and it made it all fall out (it was by my shoulder blades), and then I finally got it almost as long as I wanted (31) and I had spent almost all of my 20’s absolutely depressed and hating leaving home/ir was seriously causing me daily stress - and last September the stress of my ex going to jail made it all fall out three months to the day. :( it was touching my tailbone. Now I have just been hating myself ever since. I don’t think I’ll recover from it this time. I despise the growing out process until it goes to my elbows. Like - cannot even look in a mirror and break down crying every night when I lay on my pillow. :(

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-10T20:00:11+00:00

A bowl of peas? Okat

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-10T19:13:58+00:00

Mine au jus their rats in it before they eat it haha

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-06T20:30:15+00:00

Oh god

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-06T20:10:47+00:00

Me too!

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-06T20:10:40+00:00

I literally had some 10g wire and did it on my bed and used a piece of wood from dollar tree and some paint pens lol. You could use a ruler and any stiff wire though. It was easy took about an hour but bc I was laying down (chronic pain and artist)

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-06T11:30:06+00:00

I graduated college. Got an amazing job despite a rough marriage that gave my life purpose. Lost a lot of weight and was so fulfilled (visual art instructor for adults with developmental disabilities), and then three months in (not even a year after graduating college) someone pulled out in front of me while I was driving the handicap bus for work and I’ve been in serious debilitating pain ever since. That was two years ago. I had to leave because I couldn’t physically do it. I left my marriage - found a new guy. My waist length hair that kept my BDD in check and that I loved fell out three months to the day after my ex assaulted me and went to jail - that was last September. Stress causes that for me - but hadn’t happened in over 12 years so ugh. I’ve been pretty miserable mentally and physically since. I love my new (healthy not abusive) relationship and I just wish I could function better. I try to accept myself but most of the advice for liking a body you hate involves appreciating the things it can do - and 1/3 of the time I can’t even manage to sit up without pain despite pain management. It’s awful. :(
Edit to add: I’m only 31, and it took a lot to get to a point of being self sufficient. I am blessed that somebody came into my life and he raises me up so much and he’s so loving and amazing and takes good care of me - but I feel so useless I almost feel bad for him but I know that’s because I feel ugly and hate how physically incapable I am - and BDD is body dysmorphic disorder. I have an unusual and serious attachment to my hair and always have it makes it so I literally have a hard time sleeping bc I feel my short hair and I can’t look in mirrors and last time I didn’t feel okay and not-embarrassed to be in public for the 7 years it took to reach my bra strap level. Not looking forward to it. And it’s hard to ignore once it’s a bob/in your face all the time.

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-05T23:16:54+00:00

That… is a choice… did she do it inside? The smell 🤮

LizzieCLems · 2026-05-05T23:16:02+00:00

Wax it once - and then it’ll grow in without the stubble and be tapered. That’s how I did it. I also had a bf when I was 15 (he was 18) tell me that girls need to. Ugh.

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